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GrannyGravy13 Sat 27-Oct-18 22:22:37

Real life is family, work and school.

Fairy stories wether they be Disney or Grimm are just Fairy stories.

Over thinking seems to be a 21st century addiction.

Grandma70s Sat 27-Oct-18 21:47:56

I assume this is about the Disney version of Cinderella.

I have no objections to the story. It’s traditional fairy tale stuff. I do object to the Disney portrayal of ‘pretty’ females.. It’s pure male fantasy, Marilyn Monroe/Barbie doll looks. The tiny waist, big bust, wide eyes, hair unnaturally blonde.

My children never saw these films, because when they were small in the 70s it was relatively easy to regulate what children watched, but my grandchildren probably have. I wouldn’t stop children watching them, but if the children were old enough I would start a discussion.

annsixty Sat 27-Oct-18 21:29:14

If my child was invited to a birthday party and I agreed that she / he could go, I would trust the parents to provide suitable entertainment.
I would be influencing my child with my ideas at home.
However I would not be so blinded by current thinking as to cut all fairy stories etc out.
Children are not stupid, how many of us still eat gingerbread given the chance.

M0nica Sat 27-Oct-18 20:53:02

Did any child ever really believe that fairy stories had anything to do with them? I read them all and never felt my life was not complete without a Prince Charming. Stories are stories and life is life. I knew the difference from a very young age.

What formed my attitudes was my home - parents who had a marriage of absolute equality and a mother who worked and the assumption that I would have a profession and career. As my mother said, better single than unhappily married.

rafichagran Sat 27-Oct-18 17:56:23

I think the OP daughter in law was joking and said it in jest. Probably as tired as I am with the stupid PC,giving out the wrong message crap.

mcem Sat 27-Oct-18 17:19:38

Nope. I think 'trendy mums' are
jumping on the Keira Knightley bandwagon!
Let them have their princesses but balance them out with Roald Dahl's irreverent and hilarious Revolting Rhymes!

felice Sat 27-Oct-18 17:01:25

Anyway the child may not attend the 'possible' birthday party, so the whole thing is rather silly really.
Also the parent would have to strictly instruct the hosts that the child was not allowed to watch Cinderella.
How many children now watch 60 year old cartoons at a party.
Bit of a wind up here I think.

NanaandGrampy Sat 27-Oct-18 16:58:08

This is how my granddaughter views Princesses !

Ilovecheese Sat 27-Oct-18 16:54:07

But it is not up to you or your daughter in law to undermine another parent's decision, whether you agree with it or not. You would also be putting the child in a very difficult position. Are you going to tell her to keep a secret from her parents? Is that really a good idea? Are you going to encourage her to do something her parents have told her she is not allowed to do? Is that a good idea?

felice Sat 27-Oct-18 16:50:04

The comment came from a pre-schooler, how do you know the Mum was not just having a bad day and did not really feel like watching Cinderella for the 5th time that week.
Anyway how many times do we see, our house our rules on here.
Talk about getting things out of proportion. Ah well here comes the spiteful abuse.
They are Fairy Tales, just that.
Now to put the cat amongst the Pigeons, DGS was watching Tom & Jerry this morning,,,,, the originals. On Netherlands TV. I asked him do you think they are violent, he said 'grandma it's a cartoon, dont be silly'.

MiniMoon Sat 27-Oct-18 16:33:55

Do you think that this has come from celebrities such as Keira Knightly, and her views expressed on TV recently?
I understand that there will not be a prince waiting for every little girl, but we grew up watching reading fairy tales, and knew the difference between them and real life.

tanith Sat 27-Oct-18 16:28:40

Sorry but isn’t it her parents decision what she is or is not allowed to watch, they may have very good reasons for what they’ve said and I don’t think it’s up to you or your DIL to go against that. If the tables were turned would you be happy if they allowed your GS to watch something you deemed unsuitable?

springleaves Sat 27-Oct-18 16:15:10

I collected my grandson from nursery a few days ago and he blurted out ‘ Lisa said her mum won’t let her watch Cinderella. I asked him why & he replied ‘it will give her the wrong message’ Needless to say I’m sure he didn’t understand the reasoning behind it. I decided not to say anything until I spoke to my DIL hoping she wouldn’t agree with this attitude. Her reply was ‘the next time DS has a birthday party I’ll make sure Lisa is invited & she can watch it here’ ?