Devious SIL or....AIBU

If the bank account is in MIL name only and MIL died in May the bank should have been informed immediately and a stop put on the account.

Only if an account is in joint names can another person use that account.

Your DH needs to inform the bank and the solicitor.

Sheian57 I understand how you feel. In your position I would feel the same. I assume you have brought to your DH's attention that his sister is using money from their mother's account to fund her life style and the evidence you have seen, but unless your DH is prepared to take action, there really is nothing you can do.

Madgran77 the account is in MIL name only. MIL died in May and bank account statement was left on table showing transactions to beauty therapies! Looks like she is dipping in whenever she wants money. Recently had a holiday to gran Canaria! If bank find out she will be in trouble for fraud. DH putting head in sand.

It is a bit suspicious especially if you are correct about using her mother's bank card! That is illegal if she has used it since MIL died btw even if it is a joint account with FIL! My question mark would be over what your FIL is agreeing to without reference to his son, your husband! A bit odd!!

However it really is for your husband to sort out and if he is unwilling to do that then I think you have to abide by his wishes

Regarding the jewellery...it just isn't worth getting hung up on in my view!

If this is your husbands sister then it’s really between them and it’s not up to you to intervene. He should inform the bank that his Mum has died and then his Dad should inherit as per the will if that’s what it says.

Who is the executor of the will? I would expect your husband to have been a joint executor with his sister. If your SiL isn't an executor, she has no right to make decisions about the disposal of property. I think you would be within your rights to consult a solicitor.