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Cremation or burial?

(133 Posts)
LullyDully Tue 12-Feb-19 08:03:53

We looked into a green burial but the plots and trees were so crammed together it was depressing.

phoenix Tue 12-Feb-19 07:25:05

My boss died in January, and decided not to have any sort of coffin, opting instead for a burial shroud. Much cheaper and greener. Have trouble doing links on the tablet, but if you Google it you should find some examples.

M0nica Tue 12-Feb-19 07:11:15

For most of my life, I have wanted to be cremated. All my family have been cremated

but

In the last couple of years, I have been thinking about burial, in a wicker coffin. Ideally in my local church graveyard or in a woodland grave.I have loved the countryside all my life, studied landscape history and the thought of becoming part of the landscape after my death is increasingly attractive.

Mind you, even if my children say they will do as I wish, once I am dead, how will I know? They may decide to cremate me and bury beneath a rosebush in the crematorium garden.

Marydoll Tue 12-Feb-19 07:06:05

I too would prefer green coffin.
Co-incidentally, Dh and I were discussing wills etc, then yesterday I was chatting to an undertaker about planning a funeral and then DS phoned me about the new will he is making.
I wonder if this is a hint to get my affairs in order. ?

ninathenana Tue 12-Feb-19 07:04:19

You've reminded me we need to up date our wills. Ours pre date the GC
I don't think they include funeral arrangements. Family know that we both want to be cremated, there have been no burials in either family in my memory. I will have a wicker coffin as did my mum, which was her choice.

absent Tue 12-Feb-19 06:29:23

BradfordLass72 How lovely! I wish we had a "like" button. Green, such as wicker, is legal but I am not sure about cardboard.

BradfordLass72 Tue 12-Feb-19 05:14:38

Quite a few funeral directors, in Auckland at least, offer 'green coffins' so they must be legal.

It's a matter of personal wish, tradition and sometimes religious motivation.

I have already purchased and decorated my own coffin and shall be cremated. My son will honour my wishes.

absent Tue 12-Feb-19 05:01:10

I have just written a new will, as the last one was massively out of date, that includes my wishes for disposal of my body. I am not sure if my wishes are legally binding in New Zealand, but I know they are binding for absentdaughter who is also my Executor. It made me wonder about other Gransnetters' choices because most of us have fewer years ahead than we have behind us.

I would guess that some don't care one way or the other. I know some have posted here and elsewhere about donating organs for the just living/nearly dying or their entire bodies for medical research. I respect their choices but I reckon my organs have been so terribly abused during my lifetime they are not much use to anyone, but absentdaughter has full permission for them to be taken if any of them are any good.

My family has always had burials and, somehow, the earth-to-earth thing seems right and natural to me. I did suggest that I could be buried upright – given the machinery available to dig deep holes nowadays – to use less space, but I doubt if that is likely to happen. Anyway, we do still have quite a lot of space here. I have specified a green "coffin" – cardboard would be best, but I don't think they are legal in New Zealand at the moment. (I am not planning to die at the moment either, so I can wait.)

I understand that cremations are probably better in a crowded world but they have always seemed a little dismissive to me, even when ashes are scattered somewhere nearby the surviving family. I feel that there is something important in a memorial place, especially as my descendants don't live where most of their ancestors are buried and might one day want to visit a family grave.