Grumpy Grandpa..,

Is he only grumpy when they visit you or is he like this when he goes to their house,maybe when they are older he may be able to interact with them on a better level.
My OH loves our DGCs visiting anytime,when we go shopping he is always popping bits and pieces into the trolley saying "its xyz'd favourite and they may call in this week so we must have them in the fridge"

Too little information, what does he resent? Does he not like being the centre of attention? How frail is he? How are the children when they come? How did his father behave when you took your children? How do you behave when they come? It would be beneficial for both of you to sit down and explore what he is feeling and the tension or whatever you experience. Explore, do not shut him down by platitudes or too early soothing. Try it and see. He may want a plan?

There is a list of acronyms. Just scroll down and you will find a link.

There's a link at the top of the page too.

My husband's a grump too when it comes to Grandkids because he can't relax when they are around. He always appears to be looking for a catastrophe that might happen and worries that I might kill off somebody else's child. I managed quite well with ours so I'm not sure why but, hey ho.

I agree with grumpymal - I'm new to this too and I find the abbreviations a bit confusing. So far I've managed to work out that SiL is son in law, GC is grandchild/ren but can't work out what DD or DH is supposed to mean. I couldn't find any list when I scrolled down but perhaps it's just me...

yes my OH is a bit like that -it's the change in routine, the extra noise and fun, but he knows he will just have to put up with it, so I ignore him.

There is a list of acronyms. Just scroll down and you will find a link.

I am new to this site,just browsing at the moment.Is there some secret code language being used on these comments that I am not meant to understand.If they are acronyms used to save spelling/typing then perhaps a index could be provided.
Not meant as a criticism just a first observation.
Now you can see why I have chosen my username!!!!!

My DD had two of her three children before my DHs DD had her two girls. He used to get grumpy when I was a bit late getting home after visiting them. One day I said that I wasn't going to put up with this and he got much better. Once his own GCs arrived he said that he understood how much they meant to him! and realised why I enjoyed my time with them. Having said that he is never grumpy when they come here.

I think we need a bit more information before advice can be given. Essentially the answers to the questions posed in the post above.

Are they joint grandchildren or just yours? How old are they? Does he have any health problems? Have you asked him what the problem is and tried to mitigate it?

Yes so many unknown factors here, talk to him about it there may be some way to make things easier for all of you. I don't think you are alone with this problem.

Fortunately, my OH is always keen to see the GC, both his biological and non biological little ones - all the same in his eyes.
Have you actually asked your OH what the issue is? Does he find them too noisy and messy? Or is it something deeper?

Unless of course he's unwell ?

There are plenty of " Victor Meldrew's " about. He won't be on his own.

Why does he get upset ? Are they his GC or just yours ? How does he act when they are at your home ? Is he jealous of the attention that you give them?