I must admit, when I first joined, I browsed a while and was amazed at how negative and critical a lot of the posters were. First world problems and little annoyances which seemed to stress people out in a way I just couldn't understand.
But then I thought back to my first days in New Zealand and how amazed I was at the stark contrast to the UK , people were so laid-back and easy-going and contented!
Having been here 46 years, I'm not as aware of the "She'll be right, Mate" attitudes as I was. It's part of my life, so to see all this sniping and moaning was quite a shock .
Then I began to read genuine problems, things I knew were upsetting and ruining people's lives, especially if they were problems I'd faced - and beaten - myself, so I began to add my 2 cents worth (or often more )in the hope they might help.
There was one thread which had me laughing so much I had to leave my computer for a 'comfort stop'. I think it was when one lady said she'd buy a horse to solve her problems
There were even questions about this being a wind-up. I don't know if it was ever proven.
I've come across crass arrogance and stupidity in some of the responses on Gransnet (especially in response to my own posts , but I just laugh at them.)
There's also unbelievable compassion and sympathy and a genuine, heartfelt desire to help one another. That can't be bad in this naughty world, can it?
I'm certainly not scared or even anxious about posting, whatever the come back and disagreements.
People are entitled to their own opinions and if they (or I) make fools of themselves by expressing them - or help someone by doing so, then that's what a forum is all about.