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BlueBelle Mon 11-Mar-19 13:43:00

I ve often heard people talking about how children /young people somehow have much more of a sense of entitlement and are more indulged than certainly my generation or my children’s generation were
Today whilst waiting for my daughter I was sitting in the reception of a building, a family of three Dad, Mum and young son (approximately 2 years) came and sat down in the last two empty easy chairs Child then gives Dad a gentle push and Dad gets up and cockles on the arm of the chair to eat his sandwich so the little two year old could sit like the king of the tribe in the big easy chair
Just looking back there is no way an adult would get up for a small child The child would have been sat on one or other lap or as the floor was fully carpeted probably on the floor

This is not a critism or judgement simply an observation

Charleygirl5 Mon 11-Mar-19 13:50:31

I could not agree more. What would have happened if somebody had walked in and needed a seat? I bet that child would have stayed where he was.

I no longer care about embarrassing people and in a hospital waiting room, I asked if that child needed the seat more than me. I was using crutches at the time and the child was moved but rather reluctantly.

GrandmaKT Mon 11-Mar-19 13:53:34

Cockles?? That's a new one on me!

You've reminded me of a time I went into M&S with my Dil and grandson. The store was about to close and she announced that she needed to go to the loo to change his nappy. I hung around near the top of the escalator so the staff knew we were still in there. Eventually they emerged (unhurriedly) from the toilets and we got onto the escalator (all the lights were turned off by then, security guard standing by the door to lock it after us). We got to the ground floor, and to my utter amazement, I saw Dil pick up GS and run back upstairs, so he could "have another go" on the escalator, because he enjoyed it!!! Talk about embarrassed blush.

Riverwalk Mon 11-Mar-19 13:58:00

A father giving up his seat for a toddler sounds reasonable to me.

Jane10 Mon 11-Mar-19 14:06:22

Toddlers round here happily occupy the disabled seats on buses while elderly people are left to (try to) stand. Parents too busy on their phones to notice.

Anja Mon 11-Mar-19 14:41:48


sunseeker Mon 11-Mar-19 15:31:11

I have also noticed how children and teenagers no longer give up seats for older people. I think it was drummed into us as children so much so that the other day I asked an older gentleman if he would like my seat - I'm 70!

Telly Mon 11-Mar-19 18:21:45

Yes, there is a definite feeling that children come first. I did read an article recently which pointed out that this resulted in the sense of entitlement. For instance, if the wage earner was not able to work then the house of cards comes falling down, so therefore the child was not the most important person in the family. That is sort of the way the argument was presented. A lot of little prince and princesses are in for a rather nasty surprise when they enter the real world!

Fennel Mon 11-Mar-19 18:31:44

I've noticed this too, with some of our grandchildren.
Sadly I don't see enough of them to make a difference, but I have made a few comments. Wish I'd done more, because they're good children really, just need to be prompted.

Neti Mon 11-Mar-19 18:34:21

Having problems with balance I ask which child is going to stand when they're occupying seats on buses.

One day last week I entered the train and made my way to the disabled seats so that my dog would have enough room and be comfortable.
When I arrived I saw a very well dressed woman occupying the seat and using the space for her luggage, so I asked her if she could make room.
"Why do you particularly want to sit here?" she demanded curtly.
"Well its disabled seating and I'd like to use the space for myself and my assistance dog " was my response. I did get my seat,but was surprised that I was expected to justify my reasoning. Not even the school kids expect this

GrannyGravy13 Mon 11-Mar-19 19:19:32

I did not want to sit on the seat in the tube for elderly/disabled- my AC told me it was for me!! My response someone old and disabled might need it!!!!