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Unexpected moment of bliss

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Coolgran65 Mon 22-Apr-19 21:09:33

I suffer from severe insomnia and have done so for about 30 years, managing on approximately 3 hours per night. It's hard but just how it is. Restless legs 24/7 is behind it all and is a constant challenge.

This afternoon dh went off to his bowls match and after a while I went to lie on the bed and read, hope for a little doze, something I just never do.

I woke up as dh arrived home after 4 and came up to the bedroom. Great I'd had an hour's nap. Chatted for 5 minutes and decided to read for a few minutes before getting up.

Wow.... Next I knew it was 8pm. 4 hours plus 1 hour..... 5 hours. Unheard of !!!

Total bliss.... Such a simple thing for most folk.... Everything to me.

Coolgran65 Mon 22-Apr-19 21:10:18

What was your moment of Bliss ??

Mamissimo Mon 22-Apr-19 21:16:34

Glad you had a splendid nap! Think I need to have an early night.....I read: DH went off his bowels 🙂

Tangerine Mon 22-Apr-19 21:35:25

Do you think you slept so well because it was during the day and you weren't concentrating on going to sleep? Perhaps you worry about going to sleep during the night which is counter-productive.

Insomnia is a horrible thing to have and I don't think people always realise this.

I sleep well usually.

pinkquartz Mon 22-Apr-19 21:47:01

I also have terrible insomnia ever since I became every ill and in a lot of pain. Some how the switch in the brain to go to sleep just never happens to me at night anymore.

Every now and again I can have a nap in daylight hours.
It is a lovely restful feeling.
Otherwise my bliss is usually being out in nature somewhere very peaceful, or feeding the wild ducks that come into the garden for feeding. I love being with them. It is only in the spring when they are getting ready to nest that they do this. At the moment it is a duck and drake who waddle around like any other couple being together. I find them relaxing to watch.

My other usual moments of bliss are sadly long gone wink

sodapop Mon 22-Apr-19 22:01:19

Lovely feeling Coolgran try that again for another few hours bliss.
My bliss is curling up in bed with a good book too.

crazyH Mon 22-Apr-19 22:02:55

Sadly, I have to depend on sleeping tabs to get about 7 hours sleep. I tried weaning them off but I was awake the whole night or two. So,I am back on them. My point is , at my age, who cares, as long as I can get a few hours sleep , any which way.

phoenix Mon 22-Apr-19 22:07:38

Pleased for you Coolgran65 but wondering why you posted this on the "Food" thread! grin

I was expecting to read about chocolate, or ice cream.......

Coolgran65 Mon 22-Apr-19 22:32:56

Phoenix I’ve only just seen that this is on the food thread ..... and was hoping no one would notice.... lol.
Guess I wasn’t fully awake from my blissful moment.

Pink quartz - Duck and drake coming into the garden sounds beautiful.

Tangerine.....After all these years I no longer worry at night about how I will or won’t sleep. If I’m awake then I’m up out of bed. Read a lot and peruse GM but, oh, it is a long night.

Crazyh... I’ve tried all the sleeping medication that dr can offer, without success. Delighted they work for you.

Curling up for a wee nap or read doesn’t happen often because of RLS symptoms.
That’s why today was so blissful.

sodapop Tue 23-Apr-19 08:33:16

I didn't notice it was on the food thread either. My other blissful moment comes around 9.15am when I have walked the dogs, fed the cat, emptied the dishwasher. I can then sit down with a big cup of coffee and look at GN. Small pleasures but so glad I can enjoy them.

BradfordLass72 Tue 23-Apr-19 08:45:32

I'm a long-term insomniac too and take magnesium to prevent restless legs (available in tablets, capsules and also as a cream).

When I lived in the UK it was the World Service which kept me company, now I have an audio book and CD player (with earphone attached if I have guests) beside my bed.

It stops me thinking too much and sometimes I even fall asleep listening to the stories, so I long ago learned to enjoy my insomnia.

My latest 'moment of bliss' was sitting beneath a flawless sky in the warm sunshine, listening to a Tui in the tree high above. Wonderful smile

If you'd like to listen too.

Kalu Tue 23-Apr-19 08:56:02

In and out of bed not being able to sleep due to RLS, my blissful moment came when I applied a cream prescribed by my GP. Capsaicin cream allowed me a blissful moment and continues to do so as the relief from RLS is wonderful.

I would highly recommend asking your GP for a script Coolgran

Jaycee5 Tue 23-Apr-19 10:22:54

It is great when you can't sleep and then you do. I have been sleeping well for the last week, although I don't expect to sleep right through the night any more. I feel so much better and can get much more done during the daytime which is just as well as my flat needs a lot of cleaning and clearing.
It will change when my neighbour comes back but for now it is very peaceful.
A peaceful day with moments of quiet is enough for me now. I have the TV on but if I turned it off everything would be silent, there is a light breeze and sunny day.
It is my mother's 94th birthday today so I will call her later. She is getting a little more difficult to talk to as her short term memory is good but for her age is doing well.

Saggi Tue 23-Apr-19 10:49:07

I seem to manage now on 4 or so hours a night. It’s been going on for twenty years plus. At first I worried about not sleeping .... now I’m thankful if I get 4 hours ... and it’s never unbroken sleep. Never taken pills for it although once in hospital the ward had a very disruptive patient, and none of us could sleep , and nurses come round to dish out sleeping pill each. It worked for all except me... they gave me another... didn’t work. They gave up.

Annaram1 Tue 23-Apr-19 10:58:34

Bradford Lass
Thanks for the wonderful Tui bird. I love the song of blackbirds and robins in my garden. Such a shame that British birds have declined in numbers, some by as much as 90%. Partly due to the rise in the numbers of cats, and of course partly due to gardeners putting down harmful slug pellets which slugs eat and then birds eat the slugs and unfortunately they are poisoned too. There are safe alternative slug killers you can buy. Also farming practices such as the use of chemicals and destruction of hedgerows to make larger fields which are more easily ploughed.
As for sleeping, I am an insomniac but I don't worry about it . After all, I have got to 78 and all I need is a cup of coffee in the morning and I feel fine. All those experts who say you need 8 hours of sleep are just nuts. You don't, if your body needs less just be thankful and accept it. We are all different.

grannytotwins Tue 23-Apr-19 11:05:45

I have severe restless legs and mentioned it to the neurologist when I was seeing her about something else. She gave me a prescription for Requip, a Parkinson’s drug. It works perfectly, but I need to take it at 7pm otherwise it doesn’t work in time for bed. It is blissful having my legs still at night!

TerryM Tue 23-Apr-19 11:38:53

Never thought about magnesium for restlessness legs . Thank you for that. Husband is on that for cramps.

Bbbface Tue 23-Apr-19 11:49:39

But won’t this mean dreadful insomnia now that night?

Kim19 Tue 23-Apr-19 11:50:31

RLS is quite awful. Totally distressing IMO. Think I've said before there are some 'cranky' suggestions out there. I opted for bar of toilet soap in bed. Worked for me. Psychosomatic? Maybe. The result is sufficient for me to live with that.

Bbbface Tue 23-Apr-19 11:50:33

If you have slept 5 hours during the day, waking at 8pm, you cant reasonably expect a good night sleep! That wouldn’t be insomnia. That would be “just not tired!”

Aepgirl Tue 23-Apr-19 12:30:09

I have “discovered’ that if I have a light snack before bed I sleep much better. Perhaps you had just had your lunch.

Rutheleanor Tue 23-Apr-19 12:51:38

I listen to the World Service all night. I love it. Even if I can’t sleep I am very well informed! but the shipping forecast drives me nuts! I have to go up the airwaves to Radio 3 when that comes on.

Greciangirl Tue 23-Apr-19 15:00:30

I listen to LBC. A twenty four hour conversation programme.

It can be very interesting to switch on if you can’t sleep, but be warned, they do have a lot of advertising which sometimes makes me switch of.
Steve Allen, on from 4am to 7am is very witty.
But I would much rather be asleep than listen to the radio.

Day6 Tue 23-Apr-19 15:13:35

Wow BradfordLass! What strange and interesting bird sounds! Almost like the percussion section of an orchestra warming up! grin

I am another insomniac who cannot switch off and fall asleep, no matter what I try. I have to take drugs at night to help me drop off. I feel slow and sluggish the next day and I really dislike that feeling. I have to fight it or I'd get nothing done! I never nap during the day (I cannot drop off in a chair) and my energy seems to peak just as people are going to bed!

One of my friends remarked I was lucky being able to survive on so little sleep and didn't I have amazing stamina! If only she knew! confused grin

Glad you were able to enjoy a few unexpected hours sleep Coolgran. It's amazing how much better a properly rested body feels. Sleep is so restorative.

madmum38 Tue 23-Apr-19 15:45:04

I don’t know if it would help or not but mu mum suffered terribly with RLS for years, read in a book to drink a glass or fresh orange juice with a little salt in before bed.
She was so tired one day that in the end she thought blow it, has two chances, work or not. She said it tasted awful but had the best nights sleep she could remember.