ever feel you have wasted a day

We had two wasted days this week whilst 'on holiday' waiting for a delivery of topsoil on Monday which finally arrived at 3pm - the hottest part of the day. Then again on Wed waiting in for a turf delivery and the gasman to service the boiler. The turf arrived at 2.30 but the gas man was called out to an urgent gas leak and will have to reschedule (this only after I rang at 4pm to see where he was )!

Yesterday I (and a lot of people) had no option but to 'waste' a day just coping with the heat and mainly staying indoors. It was exhausting enough just looking after myself and the pets. My friend enjoys the heat and thinks I'm a misery but it actually makes me feel ill!

Snap MOnica! I had similar 18 months ago, the room felt as though it were spinning. No other symptoms. GP sent me to an ENT specialist who arranged a brain scan. All was clear fortunately so it was decided it was an inner ear infection affecting my balance. Seems I have another one so I’m not going back to the doctor. Will have to get used to the ‘whoosh’ sensation 4 or 5 times a day. It occasionally happens when I’m asleep. Not pleasant. Actually feels scary.

Hope you (and I) feel better soon although it can take a few weeks to clear. Go carefully. x

I am, perforce, having a wasted day. I seem to have developed an inner ear infection and I am feeling very dizzy when I move my head. Sitting still almost immobile, I do not feel too bad. So that is what I am doing. I have had one before, it is a virus, so no point in wasting the GP's time.

It is very inconvenient, we are off on a summer holdiay on Monday with DS and family, I was meant to be finishing decorating a bedroom today and starting to gather the packing together. Before I realised what the problem was, I tried taking sea sick tabs hoping that would help. It didn't. Six housrs later I am trying ibuprofen as, whatever I have involves inflamation, and ibuprofen is anti-inflamatory.

i had a day like that. got up had breakfast .vacuumed one room ,done laundry .pegged it out. sat down for a coffee .that was it i fell asleep for two hours. woke up disorientated/cold coffee .totally knackered.got up pottered around. sat down read a book . eyes were shutting ,so got up went over local shop for lottery tickets(glad i did i won £10 on the thunderball)....came home .took in washing and sat on benches in communal gardens.peace and quiet. not for long school children home in 10 mins. retreated back upstairs to my book. shut all windows as too noisy. why children have to talk at the tops of their voices????? and screaming too....not a good day .managed to stay awake till 8pm . that was it ...zzzzzzzzzzzz

I always feel a day is wasted when it’s sunny and warm and I am not out enjoying it. I might be busy with chores or shopping and then kick myself when for the next week we’re back to dull skies and drizzle.

That is very true Apricity We should not view them as wasted days but spent in contemplation and self improvement ( reading ). No more wasted days for me.

Yes! Last Sunday I actually didn't get out of bed till 9.00 when Love Songs came on. Made a pot of tea and plopped myself on the settee and didn't move till I had to about 4pm. Played on my laptop and watched crap TV. I did feel guilt, but, I keep telling myself, you don't always have to be doing something! It's perfectly alright to do nothing. Once in a while that is......xx

barmeyoldbat I found myself wondering who ‘Solets’ were. Duh! in that they ‘do it this way’. I thought to myself are they indigenous people from the area you visit? Dim or what?! There’s no hope for me.

Reading all your posts with interest, I hope when I eventually retire, I’ll manage to persuade myself it’s alright to do nothing, I know I don’t race around like I used to, but still find it hard to leave things undone, that need doing

I prefer to consider these as quiet days or days to think and read, to contemplate the world around me or potter around in the garden rather than wasted days. Wizzing around doing stuff, important or totally trivial is not always good and can just be "busyness" for the sake of seeming busy. It's all about balance. Enjoy your "wasted" days, having the time to potter and mooch about is a great gift.

Before retiring, I spent all of my years going to school, raising kids, working, etc. Now every day I get to choose what I want to do and it feels great! Some days I don't feel like doing much at all and if I start to feel guilty I remind myself that I can do whatever I want to do as long as it's a conscious choice and for some reason this works for me.

Also, I started noticing that the "down" days seemed to come after several days of activity - seeing people, working on projects, doing a lot of errands or whatever. I always seem to need at least a day or two to recover my energy.

I sometimes feel like this, then remind myself that it is a privilege to be able to spend a day doing absolutely nothing in particular.

Crumbs, I can often quite happily waste a day, pottering about, getting stuck into a good book, browsing various forums, basically doing bugger all except maybe putting some washing on and cooking the dinner. And maybe a walk with dh.

We often have some very busy times with childcare, visitors, etc. so I don't feel the least bit guilty for slobbing when there's a quiet period in the diary.

When we spend the winter in SE Asia we follow their way of life. Its hot, so up early morning do a bit, eat, then rest or sleep in the afternoon when it is hottest. Still manage to be in bed by 10 and get a good nights sleep. Its a way of life and not considered wasteful. Solets do it this way during a hot summer.

GabriellaG - wish I had written it, hauntingly beautiful.
I consider no day, of my life, wasted but live in the moment!

Good point keffie

I think (maybe in the past) many women needed everyone to know how busy they'd been. It was as though looking after the house, the children, cooking, cleaning etc, was measured and they didn't want to be seen lacking.

I expect many of us worked with the person who was up at 5.30am putting a casserole on for dinner, then they'd do a bit of ironing, run the hoover round and clean the bathroom thoroughly after they'd showered, all before they'd set off for work. Everyone in the workplace got to know how busy/efficient she was.

I always used to think "Why?" Isn't going out to work for the day enough? Do some people over-organise, only to have to keep the regime going? To each their own, I suppose.

I still know women who delight in regaling me with how 'good' they have been in ticking off all the jobs they had to do. Thing is, the list never grows shorter. Gluttons for punishment, in need of recognition, maybe?

We get one life, and we are not hamsters on a wheel. I still delight in small achievements (and the odd big one) but there are days when showering and cooking an evening meal for us is all I intend to do. I believe in loads of 'me time' now I have retired. No guilt either.

"Sometimes I sits and thinks and sometimes I just sits". I am very very good at doing nothing and not feeling at all guilty about it.

Totally wasted today as I have spent every minute since 9 am trying to connect my PC to the internet. IPad is connected but no luck with the PC. BT can't help any further. What a waste of time and total frustration ?

This afternoon I felt I should a) wash the floors b) bake a cake and c) tackle the ironing. I have been out this morning, it is very warm and so I sat and read the local paper after lunch, and made a batch of biscuits. I am now on-line, but instead of feeling tired out from all these activities, I realise they will still be waiting tomorrow, when hopefully it may be a little cooler. Sometimes you just have to give yourself quality time to please yourself!

Glammy57
After reading your post I was going to write that you should write a book...until I saw the last line.
Still, a very insightful post. I've murdered more than a few minutes and regret nothing

Hopefully ‘thank you mum’ kircubbin as you’ve tried your best.
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I suppose by sitting here reading these posts on Gransnet I could be considered to be wasting time. I don't see it like that at all, it gives me contact with others, enabling me to see different views and it's relaxing.

I do what needs to be done in my life and that's fine by me. I see no point in getting onto the hamster wheel if you don't need to.

Today has been wasted. 10 year old is here, no chat out of him. I didn't feel well but offered to take him out, didn't want to go.It has rained all morning so I'm letting him play on computer as I have given up! Don't know what mum will say.

Now that I am retired I say “I do what I want when I want!” If that means nothing then so be it. I do feel guilty though.