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Does your husband / partner ever shock you ?

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WOODMOUSE49 Sun 11-Aug-19 00:40:05

I love my plants (fruit, veg and flowers) and spend much of my day digging, weeding etc. The slugs have been playing havoc with so much this summer both in the polytunnel and garden.

I'm sat doing a few GN games tonight before bed and hear DH come in. He appears by my side with a large shovel full of slugs. "How many do you think I've found tonight?".

I do love him. So do the hedgehogs by now smile

Have you ever been shocked or surprised by husband or partner?

paddyann Sun 11-Aug-19 01:03:32

he bought me flowers once ,by way of an apology .I was told by my friend who owns the florist he asked her for a decent bunch of "sorry" flowers .lolThe odd thing was I had no idea what he was apologising for.I didn't even think to ask I was so taken aback .He's not a gesture type of man.

SalsaQueen Sun 11-Aug-19 08:32:49

My husband has never shocked or surprised me (I don't like surprises). He's so predictable, but that's just how I like him to be. It may be boring to some, but I know he's dependable.

Maggiemaybe Sun 11-Aug-19 09:29:03

I think the word for what mine does might be more baffle than shock. We have 10 coming for Sunday dinner and I asked him yesterday to check whether we had enough carrots. Plenty, was the reply. We have 3. Small ones.

gillybob Sun 11-Aug-19 09:31:08

No shocks or surprises here either. If he bought me a bunch of flowers I would probably die with shock !

Grannybags Sun 11-Aug-19 09:40:45

Same here gillybob I'd assume he was having an affair!!

kittylester Sun 11-Aug-19 09:51:17

DH bought be a small gingham heart from a gift shop to say thank you for supporting him through a health problem. Gingham, heart and gift shop are not things I would ever imagine crossing dh's consciousness.

But I loved it!

Pantglas1 Sun 11-Aug-19 09:59:41

My husband worked on building sites and on every bit of concreting he would leave a heart with our initials in.

I didn’t find out till we’d been married ten years and his assistant showed me when I called on site one day and said he does it everywhere! When I mentioned it to DH he went all gruff and bashful!

ninathenana Sun 11-Aug-19 10:07:41

I'm pleasantly surprised but not shocked when DH buys me flowers. It happens 3-4 times a year plus birthday and anniversary.
I can't recall ever being shocked by his actions.

ginny Sun 11-Aug-19 10:09:28

The one thing that would shock me is if he were to cook a meal for me.

WildRoses Sun 11-Aug-19 10:10:09

This is just so sweet.

LightAmber Sun 11-Aug-19 10:12:54

@WOODMOUSE49 I would appreciate the action and the sentiment but to bring a shovel of them indoors is disgusting! He could have just told you!

dragonfly46 Sun 11-Aug-19 10:14:23

Yes he gave me a card for Valentine's day this year - the first time ever!!

sue01 Sun 11-Aug-19 10:16:01

When I first grew tomatoes they weren't very good... but I came out one day to find the best plant had a huge tomato on it.

When I peered at it closely... DH had carefully tied on a shop bought one with a piece of string !

WOODMOUSE49 Sun 11-Aug-19 10:34:48

I am loving reading all of these. Keep them coming. There are a few surprises amongst them.

LightAmber Yes I was disgusted. I was pleased he'd been getting rid of them but he now knows I didn't want to see them!

He's my second husband (married 3 years). We met again after a gap of 44 years. He never ceases to amaze, surprise, shock and astound me.

I'm 70 in December and I have said I don't want any surprises or shocks. hmm

Teetime Sun 11-Aug-19 10:38:56

Not usually he is Mr Predictable but he did bring me a toad in jar once - found it in a car park and he was going to liberate it in our pond. He prefaced it by saying 'I've got you a present'!

Nortsat46 Sun 11-Aug-19 10:39:49

This is a nice thread ... Maggiemaybe your three carrots... small ones ... to serve 10, made me laugh out loud. 😄

marpau Sun 11-Aug-19 10:45:02

I went to hospital for gyny procedure the day after mothers day. As I had lots of flowers in the house when I arrived home hubby presented me with a tree for the garden ............a pussy willow! He could not understand why I was in fits of laughter.

KatyK Sun 11-Aug-19 10:49:15

We will have been married for 50 years in a couple of weeks but occasionally DH tells me something about his childhood teenage years that I didn't know. As I never stop going on about myself, I think he knows all about me!

Cambia Sun 11-Aug-19 10:50:38

Years ago in America I stood waiting for him to collect the hire car, thinking it would be a predictable four door saloon. Round the corner he came in a red mustang convertible! That was a shock!!

Craftycat Sun 11-Aug-19 11:36:22

Well coming home from Midnight Mass one year to be told to look at the top of the Christmas Tree & finding a little box with an engagement ring in it was one hellava surprise!
We had been living together for 10 years & never even discussed marriage. He had not been married before but I had.
We got married 6 months later- 21 years ago now.

petra Sun 11-Aug-19 11:49:08

My OH owns and races a 1937 Hot Rod ( think the film American Graffiti)
I knew that he was having a drawing done of the car by the most amazing artist.
What I didn't know was: he'd asked the artist to put Steve McQueen in the picture. He is wearing the exact same clothes that he wore in the film Bullit.
He has his hand on the door handle as if to get in.
He came home today from a HotRod meet with the picture.

Heather51 Sun 11-Aug-19 11:56:06

When I had our first son, 42 years ago he brought a bunch of roses into the hospital - first time ever. shockI later found out he’d sent his secretary out to get them. Second time I was presented with a bunch of flowers was several years later but he spoilt that by telling me the gardener had been selling them off cheap! Our 50th next year and I haven’t had any since 🙄.

NanaandGrampy Sun 11-Aug-19 12:04:38

Grampy surprises me all the time -- some are good and some are bad !!

Good ones, might be bringing me a treat, booking something or simply just saying on the spur of the moment lets go ….wherever.

Bad ones, he forgets he's 67 sometimes and does things that at his age he should know better. Like following the little boys 9,7 & 5 leaping into the paddling pool ( and landing with a tidal wave and skidding straight out the other side into the bush!! Or Coming into the garden and finding him up a ladder, precariously balanced with a hedge trimmer !!

Wouldn't change him for the world though .

ninathenana Sun 11-Aug-19 12:04:55

ginny I feel for people who's husbands/wives/partners can't of won't cook. It tastes so much better when you haven't had to bother cooking it yourself.

FC61 Sun 11-Aug-19 12:07:24

My DH shocked me yesterday. He bought me a surprise pair of dark green curtains he thinks I will love putting up for Xmas!
He hasn’t got any cognitive disorder ( he’s younger than me and uni lecturer ) he just wanted to show his appreciation and got creative about it! The last time he made a surprise for me it was a dinner when I was recovering from op. It was, wait for it, red kidney beans well and truly cooked , with spices ! I was surprised 😮 Lol. I was expecting chicken soup 🍜.

lemongrove Sun 11-Aug-19 12:13:43

No, never 😄 to answer the OP.
( it’s all good though, as I don’t like shocks or surprises.)

FC61 Sun 11-Aug-19 12:15:51

Marpau - the pussy willow made me fall off the chair laughing 😂!
As did Grammy skidding into the Bush 😂 nanaandgrampy ! ( glad he didn’t hurt himself though ).

GinJeannie Sun 11-Aug-19 12:38:53

My DH will often say, when in a supermarket, “shall I treat you to some flowers? Choose some you like!” Paid for out of Our Housekeeping Money of course! His wallet never sees daylight.

dragonfly46 Sun 11-Aug-19 12:41:55

I buy my husband flowers every week!!!

seadragon Sun 11-Aug-19 12:49:18

This is the most recent surprise my husband has brought me. I got quite used to otter spraints and other things in the freezer from our young days... We are hoping the hedgehog has taken up residence in our (very wild!) garden. He was trotting along the road en route to a garden full of slug pellets when DH intercepted him.

sodapop Sun 11-Aug-19 13:13:37

Lovely story Pantglas1 what a romantic your husband is (secretly)

I told my husband you feel sorry for him Ninathenana he appreciates the support grin

Lorelei Sun 11-Aug-19 13:33:00

My better half has often given me presents out of the blue - most are great, including flowers, plants, clothes that fit, helpful/useful things (most recent being one of those things to open bottles & jars as I was having difficulty - only failed once in 8 months, and I was particularly poorly & weak that day, so love that). He did buy me an airfix-type model kit he thought I'd like as I do jigsaw puzzles and like crossword/sudoku/ puzzle books - that is still in the back of a cupboard in the box - think it was a plane or something to make! He does the shopping and most of the time gets it right, brings me nice treats - but every now and then he'll come back with something weird (luckily 'our' foxes will try most things). When he worked in an office he once came home and gave me a huge bouquet (think Del Boy in the Only Fools and Horses episode when he first met Raquel - but lovely posh flowers) and explained how a woman in his office had been sent them by an ex she'd punched on the nose and split up with for cheating on her - she was going to bin the flowers so my better half said he'd give them to me instead - apparently all the office thought he'd lie about where he got them - he didn't, and I loved and appreciated them - I'm a very practical person and hate wastefulness - in fact there were so many flowers my neighbour got a vaseful too. I said perhaps she should kick him if he tries to contact her again and I might get champagne and chocolates to go with the bouquet giggling. He posts my competition postcard entries even though he has an aversion to posting letters - things like that remind me I'm loved when I am having bad days.

Love some of the posts on this thread - hoping I remember the pussy willow one to tell him and his business partner when they get back (yes, they are still working weekends - the joys of being self-employed). Keep them coming.

Jan5954 Sun 11-Aug-19 13:37:47

My hubby of 46yrs is always very generous with gifts for me so l do consider myself very lucky.
One year though on my Birthday he took me out for dinner. We were shown to our table by the waiter and upon sitting down and unfolding my napkin l found a jewellery box hidden inside it which contained a really lovely eternity ring ! (and it was a perfect fit ??.)
To this day l have still haven’t managed to work out how he arranged it to be there as l usually know exactly where he is going or where he will be. Also l’m normally with him or l am using the car !
Nice to know they can surprise you at least once in 46yrs !

Nannyme Sun 11-Aug-19 13:42:14

On my 65th my OH said I haven't got you anything because I didn’t know what to get and handed me a card. The inside sentiments were lovely but the outside said Happy 70th Birthday. I was not amused!!

nookie Sun 11-Aug-19 14:41:36

My DH often buys me gifts, nothing overly expensive. He will on occasion book a holiday for the two of us. The strangest 'gift' I received from him was a framed photograph of Larry the Downing Street cat. He hung it in the kitchen. To this day I have no idea why.

Helennonotion Sun 11-Aug-19 14:46:20

My husband was recently diagnosed with a genetic eye problem, which resulted in him losing his job and his driving licence. Driving was his life (and his job). He dealt with the whole situation with humour, optimism, kindness towards me, (he got rid of the car as he knows I'm petrified of driving) and just generally coped amazingly with what was a life changing diagnosis. Normally when things go pear shaped, he gets moody and often quite bad tempered. The way he has dealt with things was really quite surprising!

Grammaretto Sun 11-Aug-19 15:03:37

My DH of 50yrs very occasionally surprises me but he's always kind and never loses his temper.

Once when our boys were young and fighting he got genuinely cross and shouted. We were all petrified. It was so out of character. I think he surprised himself! The fight stopped instantly.

He's not very good at surprises and always seems to let me know if he sees something he thinks I'd like.

He bought me a book for my birthday but decided to read it first so I haven't even seen it yet.

When youngest was born he picked me a bunch of flowers from our own garden which I was really happy about! He knows me well.

Barmeyoldbat Sun 11-Aug-19 16:26:41

Mine does suddenly appear with a bunch of flowers and once, just once, he gave me a small box with a beautiful blue glass perfume bottle inside. He knew how much I liked glass he said.

JaneA Sun 11-Aug-19 16:30:26

For our anniversary we went to the Isle of Wight. What I didn't know was my OH had arranged for the whole family to be there too. We met them all on the beach !!

granma47 Sun 11-Aug-19 17:22:32

When he was working away from home as he often did, my other half brought home a single rose, an unusual deed! I laughed when I saw it as he knew I would and he had to confess it was left over from the course he was working on when one of the female clients didn't take it home. (The men were given a half bottle of whisky each but no-one left that behind.)

TerriBull Sun 11-Aug-19 18:00:43

On my husband's 60th we went to Rome and I asked him if he would like me to buy him something special, he told me he regretted not having a wedding ring when we married and that's what he wanted. I was really surprised by that he'd never mentioned it before and I didn't think to ask at the time, anyway he got his wish, that's what I bought him.

absthame Sun 11-Aug-19 19:33:04

It is always a shock when I'm asleep in the middle of the night and my wife flings her arm out, giving me a thwack on the head shock

GreenGran78 Sun 11-Aug-19 20:08:58

Absthame. Count your blessings. My DH, who normally lay very still while sleeping, once let out an almighty yell, flung out his arm, and belted me in the mouth.

I woke up crying with shock, and with a tooth hanging loose.

RomyP Sun 11-Aug-19 20:50:09

Marpau, that pussy willow comment still has me chuckling a good 10 minutes after reading it. Can't wait to relate it to my husband, hope he laughs as much as I have.

Day6 Sun 11-Aug-19 21:07:45

I still muse sometimes about how caring OH is. He is so unlike ex husband who took me for granted and created great unhappiness in our family life. I learnt during our marriage to become very independent, self-reliant and pretend I had a hard shell so he couldn't hurt me.

It was a wonderful 'shock' or revelation on getting to know OH to find that partners could be so thoughtful - every day. We have been together for almost two decades now and I must take care never to take his thoughtfulness for granted now I am used to it. It makes it so easy to reciprocate as well. It's been a learning curve and a new way of life for me! smile

gillybob Sun 11-Aug-19 22:33:36

Some lovey posts. I have enjoyed reading all those lovely, romantic gestures and one or two funny ones too.

I can’t honestly say DH has ever surprised me with anything ever.

sharon103 Sun 11-Aug-19 23:52:02

Yes, when the B left me.

absent Mon 12-Aug-19 07:44:26

No – he bores and annoys me.

Yiayia4 Mon 12-Aug-19 07:52:40

One Christmas many years ago my DH walked with a cat basket tied with red ribbon, inside was a beautiful Persian kitten,best surprise ever.

NanKate Mon 12-Aug-19 08:09:24

DH is very generous. Our house is like Kew Gardens he is always buying me or us flowers and I often I think ‘not more bloody flowers’ but if he goes before me, I know I will keep up the tradition.

I was NOT amused when he bought me a deep pan chip fryer one year and I haven’t let him forget it. 👎

Elenkalubleton Mon 12-Aug-19 08:11:11

Yes years ago,I had arranged to meet him in a small local shop,and while looking at some rugs,he marched up to me took me by the arm,and said to the shop owner” she’s just been let out for the day”dosnt need a rug! .Another time in M&S,he marched up again,took me by the arm and said “will you come with me madam “He was wearing a suit having come from work,so probably looked like he worked there.At Xmas once,there was lots of exciting looking presents under the tree for me,I started opening them only to find them all to be boring household stuff,rubber gloves,scouring pads,pegs,dish clothes,etc.Then I saw hanging on the tree a beautiful gold bracelet.

Witzend Mon 12-Aug-19 13:16:06

I was shocked (in the nicest possible way) when dh brought me a lovely bouquet of flowers for no apparent reason - not Valentine's Day or my birthday, so I was bemused.

He explained that it was exactly 50 years since we met. I was astounded that he knew the date, since although I remember the occasion very well, I wouldn't even have known what month it was.

Another time he did really shock me, by revealing something truly scandalous about a (not close) relation of his. It wasn't the fact of the scandal that shocked me, but the fact that he insisted he'd told me a few years previously, when he'd first found out about it.
No way!! That was something I certainly wouldn't have forgotten!