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sunseeker Fri 23-Aug-19 20:20:10

Yesterday was the anniversary of DH's death. I was pretty upset all day and when I went to bed last night I asked that he show me a sign that he was still with me. This morning I found a white feather sitting on the coffee table.

Beckett Fri 23-Aug-19 20:32:23

I completely understand what you are going through. It has been 8 years for me and I still get upset on the anniversary. Take care

GabriellaG54 Fri 23-Aug-19 20:48:03

I'm sorry for your loss and yes, it will always take time to live with the reality of him not being there as part of your life on a daily basis, however, he's forever in yoyr thoughts, your heart and if you have children, lives on in them.
Meanwhile, whatever comfort you get from, perhaps, his favourite song played on the radio just when you thought about him, or a feather which appeared as if by chance, take those things and smile.
To some they may be coincidences but if they have meaning and give comfort to you, that is all that matters.
Take care...🙂🌷🌷🌷

lemongrove Fri 23-Aug-19 20:51:31

Tbh Gabriella has said it all for me sunseeker but a new day will hopefully leave you feeling more settled within yourself.💐

Glammy57 Fri 23-Aug-19 20:57:26

Sending good wishes! Gabriella’s reply is very kind. 💐💐

BlueSapphire Fri 23-Aug-19 21:02:58

Oh yes, I take comfort from any little sign. Was at the kitchen window one day thinking, DH please send me a sign so that I know you're around, and at that moment a robin landed on the washing line. Thank you for your kind words Gabriella.

CanadianGran Fri 23-Aug-19 21:11:49

Thinking of you and your loss. I imagine there are moments when it is still unbelievable that a loved one is not with us.

And I do think they watch from beyond and send a sign when they can. flowers

Namsnanny Fri 23-Aug-19 23:03:02

flowers for all who are missing a loved one.

crazyH Fri 23-Aug-19 23:08:37

So sorry Sunseeker - I have heard of Feathers appearing out of the blue - i do believe in the hereafter xx

annep1 Sat 24-Aug-19 05:31:25

Can't add anything to GabriellaG54's kind words. flowers

sunseeker Sat 24-Aug-19 07:41:26

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It's 8 years for me too Beckett and everyone tells me how well I am doing, but on the anniversary, his birthday and other significant dates I'm afraid I do still get upset.

tanith Sat 24-Aug-19 08:18:12

sunseeker flowers and and a hug for you, it’s soon going to be the first anniversary of DHs death for me and I’ll be upset I’m sure. If little signs give you comfort then that’s ok.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sat 24-Aug-19 08:32:05

Anniversaries are always difficult and it surely is a sign. I agree with tanith that these small comforts help to raise the spirits. That's important for we widows. flowers