18th birthday money

Well, bit of a bone of contention with me to be honest! Recently gave a 'relative' £50 for an 18th birthday gift. The card was dropped dismissively, the cash stuffed in a pocket and there was NO acknowledgement! I was disgusted, appalled and extremely hurt. Needless to say, they best not expect anything for their 21st!

I've changed my mind too Missadventure. He's not getting anything from me now. ?

What fickle aunties we are!

Don’t be sorry I am hard up gonegirl that’s rubbish. Be happy that you are not

The OP asked for an opinion. You gave yours and I gave mine. End of

Actually for the record I don’t have any nephews or nieces .

Also consider if a child has a lot of Aunties and Uncles they will receive gifts from a lot of people but if a child only has one Aunt then less. We could give more but would not as that is what all the Aunties and Uncles give nieces and nephews when 18 in our family and if we gave more it might make others who have less to give look mean when they are not. We give where help where it is needed. One of my sisters is very hard up and cannot help her child at Uni financially but she is still very proud of him. My son chose not to go even though good grades and could have gone so we pay £50 month to niece who is same age as my son for her to pay gas/electricity/internet whilst at Uni as we know most parents do help their children out and did not want her to leave Uni with larger debt than necessary. If her sibling goes we will help him out too. We do not love her any more or less than other nieces and nephews but others do get financial help from parents. Also my sister was very kind to my children when they were small and she was single with more money and used to treat them whilst my husband and I were always broke. Now I feel we can return the favour.

newnanny
What a lovely person you are

£50 from me too. That's a reasonable amount for someone you are not close to.

That was rude and hurtful H1954 I certainly wouldn't be giving the relative any more gifts. It's a bit fraught this 18th versus 21st birthday issue which date gets the big present.

Like Gillybob I think you are all incredibly generous!! I only see two of my great-nieces/nephews and take a little present each time.
My DS and DiL were both 40 this year and got £100 each!
#tightfisted

A hundred is fine AllotmentLil. That's what I give to my grownup lot.

I haven't got any nieces or nephews either. Thank the Lord