To both morethan and Lins 
No amount of words can help on some occasions.
It would seem soop still has problems with her internet, she must be very frustrated, not being in contact can seem like having a limb off!!
I had my first card today, addressed to us both, it was from my H’s cousin who we hadn’t been in touch with for some time.
I had rung him when R died but he has this call guardian thing on his phone and he never replied or seemed to accept the call.
I decided to try again and finally got through, his wife had died 2 years ago, very suddenly and he was very upset on the phone today.
I came away from the call rather depressed.
It had been my intention to get my cards out early to explain to casual acquaintances with whom we still exchange cards but I didn’t so I expect I will get some more, inevitable I suppose.
My GD is cooking tea tonight, hooray, a night off.
TOYA.