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What is the age range of your friends ?

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NanKate Fri 01-Nov-19 07:27:45

I have always seemed to be the youngest within my different friend groups such as WI, friends from my teens etc. However with friends I have made in the last year or so I appear to be the oldest.

With friends I have made on GN I am the oldest at 73.

In our cul de sac we are by far the oldest and I suppose we are thought of as the oldies. They are always coming to ask DH for advice or for us to take in their parcels. We have lived here over 40+ years.

What is the age range with your friends or acquaintances?

bluebirdwsm Fri 01-Nov-19 12:50:05

Eldest friend is 76, another my age [70] and my closest friend is 40.
I find the ones closer to my age compare themselves and their lives to mine...and it is tiresome sometimes. I enjoy talking to them though, knowing all about our pasts and the lives we have had.

The 40 year old is one I met online and who now lives a walk away from me. We have been friends for nearly 20 years now.

There have been issues because of the age difference [now sorted out] but she is caring and very interesting to talk to and we do a lot together. I love hearing about her other friends and her life/job/ambitions etc.

I think friendship is about sharing the same or similar values, the same moral compass, empathy, outlook, sense of humour and love and appreciation of basic things and some shared interests. That can include all ages.

I like to think I'm a friend of one of my grandsons in particular as we have similar personalities and struggles. He is a great boy who is just 12. Talking to him is often fascinating.

Aepgirl Fri 01-Nov-19 12:30:15

My friends are mostly in the same age-Group as myself - give or take 5 years, and we’ve been friends for many years.

madmarchram Fri 01-Nov-19 12:22:10

I know this gets said so many times, but I dont actually have any friends or even people that I chat to casually other than my husband and (adult) children. I rarely leave the house so other than the people mentioned and the supermarket delivery man, I tend to talk to no one at all in the length of the week - so should anyone ever fancy a chat to a not very confident 52 years old, feel free to message me smile x

Grandma70s Fri 01-Nov-19 11:54:31

My three closest friends are roughly my age or a bit younger, 74 to 80 (I’m nearly 80). My sons (mid-to-late 40s) are
obviously my friends, also my elder son’s housemate, who is 43. I wouldn’t call my DIL a friend. She's not an enemy, but we aren’t close. My sister-in-law is a very good friend, and she’s twelve years younger than me.

It all depends what you mean by friends. I mean people I can really talk to, including about personal things.

cupcake1 Fri 01-Nov-19 11:53:53

My best friend is 56 - 12 years younger than me and another very close friend is 75 both I met through work and I don’t feel the age gap at all with either.

Coolgran65 Fri 01-Nov-19 11:40:32

I am 70, long standing close friends range from 60 - 85. I have other accquaintances/friends but not in the close friends category who would be younger.
I'm in the middle of my close friends age range.
Most of my close friends have come from my employment days, are of at least 20 - 23 years' standing, and are still great friends even though I've been retired 11 years. We meet up regularly, one friend at least weekly, text/whatsapp often.
At short notice (30 minutes) we can head to the movies, go for a walk, or be a needy shoulder. My dh knows all of my friends, a few better than others.
Two of them I could without doubt ring at 3am if I had a problem, which says a lot.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Fri 01-Nov-19 11:26:16

My age range seems to be around ten years either way. I think we have more in common with our own age group of course due to similar life stages but can hopefully offer advice to the younger ones if it's wanted.

Jillybird Fri 01-Nov-19 11:18:31

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maryhoffman37 Fri 01-Nov-19 11:17:20

Almost all my closest friends are 14-16 years younger than me. There is one seven years older. And my two university friends are, of course, contemporaries. I see them several times a year to go to an exhibition and lunch.

jenpax Fri 01-Nov-19 11:14:17

I am mid 50’s and my friends range from 30’s to 80’s

Christine848 Fri 01-Nov-19 10:57:26

At 71, I am blessed to have some wonderful friends...the eldest is 80 and the youngest is 26, and all ages in between! ??

Anthea1948 Fri 01-Nov-19 10:38:16

Of my closest friends, one is 13 years younger and one 12 years older, but the majority of my friends tend to be within a year or two of my own age (71). I live on a retirement complex where people are all over 50 and I think I fall around the middle of the age group here.

schnackie Fri 01-Nov-19 10:36:34

I meet people on my travels, and sometimes we just 'click' and remain friends, meeting up a few times a year etc. The youngest is 23 and the oldest is 95. I am 67. My local friends are all about my age.

Ellianne Fri 01-Nov-19 10:29:48

That question made me stop, I had never given it much thought before. Upon reflection the answer came out as mainly older friends by 10 years or so.
On the other hand I try to remain young by being in contact with many ex pupils from my days as their teacher! They lead exciting lives these days.

LondonGranny Fri 01-Nov-19 10:29:27

Huge range of ages. One good friend is my son's friend, in his late twenties, younger than my son, but since my son left home his friend still visits and is great company. My oldest friend is 93. I don't know whether this counts but I have a dear friend who is six. We talk about all sorts. He's a bright little button.

luluaugust Fri 01-Nov-19 10:23:51

Now both OH and I are in our 70's most of our friends are the same/similar age mainly because of the groups we attend and we have had many friends for over 50 years now. Sadly two friends who were younger have died recently leaving a huge gap. As for being friendly, we will chat to anyone who will chat to us a sure sign of age!

Humbertbear Fri 01-Nov-19 10:14:48

I’m 70 and my friends vary in age from 65-75. I worked in a university and was friendly with my young and younger colleagues . My daughter lives with us and we are very good friends and I enjoy meeting up with her friends. My daughter and I travel together and our fellow travellers gravitate towards her as a younger person with different conversation and I really benefit from this. The trouble with older friends is that they always talk about their medical problems.

jura2 Fri 01-Nov-19 09:23:38

Huge span. Most much younger than me.

Pantglas2 Fri 01-Nov-19 09:18:14

My friends are within 15 years either side and I’m 63, although the last thing I think about is our ages (apart from birthdays obviously) whenever we get together.

It’s just lovely that we get on in spite of not seeing each other, in some cases, years apart.

harrigran Fri 01-Nov-19 09:15:55

Fifty to late seventies, my best friend is three years younger than me and had her 70th birthday in August.

EllanVannin Fri 01-Nov-19 09:11:01

Sadly I've lost the 3 closest friends in the last 2 years who were long-time neighbours from 1960.

EllanVannin Fri 01-Nov-19 09:08:50

5 longstanding friends from one at early 50's to myself at 79 ( oldest ) but they keep me young !
Apart from one childhood friend, the other 4 are work colleagues of over 30 years.
We met up in North Wales last week, fabulous.
B/day cards, Christmas cards and emails over the years.

Philippa60 Fri 01-Nov-19 08:57:22

Interesting question! Most of my friends are around my age (61) or a few years older. One of my closest friends is 67, so actually H's age.
I have made some good friends through a company where I've been doing a lot of work and they are all considerably younger, late 40s. I also have a very good friend who is in her early 50s.
So range from late 40s to late 60s.
That being said my SIL is in her early 70s and I consider her a good friend too....

sodapop Fri 01-Nov-19 08:39:11

My good friends are all in a similar age range within 10 years. I do have other friends not as close who are younger.

Scentia Fri 01-Nov-19 08:32:58

My very large group of friends (or acquaintances!) range from 30 to 80 I am in a club that obviously attracts a broad range of people.
With regard to true friends I am not sure I actually have any?