Five weeks is but a blink of the eye in terms of how long you've been married to your OH, Luckygirl. It will take some adjusting to. I've just this weekend had a friend to stay. Her dh has dementia and went into hospital as an emergency admittance 15 months ago and he has remained there, apart from a disastrous attempt at a care home, where because he is a physically fit 70yo, they couldn't cope with him and couldn't keep him safe.
My friend says it's like being widowed without anyone really acknowledging the widowhood. She's married-but-not-married because her dh doesn't have a clue who she is or who their children are. At the start, she was very busy with all the admin to do with him going into hospital and assessments. Gradually, though, she picked up on her old way of life. She started seeing friends again, got involved with dementia groups and with hospitals groups, goes to U3A things, sees her children and so on. The hospital is nearby so she visits most days, thought often only for 30mins. She's also found friends amongst other wives in the same situation. She's also doing things in the new house they moved to a while ago. She says it's better spent on making her home cosy than giving it to the government!
She also has some health issues of her own but now, 15mths on, she is looking and feeling better than she has done for years and in a curious way seems to be enjoying life again. It's been a hard road for her to walk along and who knows where it will go next and she says it's a matter of taking your pleasure where you can.
You say yourself you're depressed, and that comes across clearly. If the AD's aren't helping, maybe you need to ask your doctor about a change to another one. Although depression makes it so hard to do even a small thing like arrange a doctor's appointment.
You must be kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you've been under huge strain and that how you feel now is a consequence of that. Allow yourself to feel miserable. Don't feel you've got to present a positive face to the world. At the same time, give yourself some TLC. Take the path of least resistance. Eat peanut butter sandwiches, if that's what's easiest. Or have cereal three times a day. A few weeks of that won't harm and you can always take a vitamin tablet if you want. Plan a small daily treat. A warm bath; some chocolate; a vase of flowers; a long lie-in; a new magazine. Anything that in the term of today 'brings joy'.
I'm not a huge contributor to GN but I do think of you and wonder how you are. Ca canny, as they say in Scotland. X