Youngest daughter...and her mental health...

What the hell business is it of theirs?

We use to tok two of our adult GC on holiday, I was just happy that they wanted to come with us on the sort of holiday we go on.

I would imagine the mental health issue means this young lady cannot earn a great amount and, therefore, cannot afford to pay for a holiday of her own.

Oh for goodness sake! Many families have one adult child who needs more support than the others, I know I do. You help your kids as and when necessary.

Of course it's no one else's business. Ignore.

It sounds like you are feeling guilty having to justify taking your daughter away on holiday. Don’t be. We take our 3 daughters away (all in their 20s with good jobs) and their partners every couple of years. When we tell people they say oh how lovely. And it is, we make memories which we cherish. So just enjoy it.

Like MawB, I am confused - what has the post got to do with your daughter's mental health? I'd be inclined to say "We like going away together as a FAMILY"

I think your colleagues were paying you a compliment by saying that your DD is fortunate to have generous parents.
Why think the worst of people?

Ignore your colleagues' remarks.

You know them better than we do. If you think they were trying to be unkind, don't give them the satisfaction of knowing they've needled you.

Maybe they weren't being unpleasant. People don't always think things through and perhaps it was just a passing remark.

My daughters usually came on holiday with us , then they got married and their husbands came along. Then the babies arrived and ..yes... they came too !

They know they were fortunate , we paid for them . Once they started work they paid for themselves .

Anyone can comment whatever they like - it’s none of their business and quite frankly I don’t care what they think ?

Actually if someone, lightly commented 'Lucky girl' or 'Lucky boy' to me I would agree with them, my DC are fortunate that their parents can afford to treat them as we do, not many parents can.

GrannyON - you are overthinking.
Ofcourse, you will help and support your daughter. I think the 'lucky girl' remark was just a passing comment. I wouldn't take it to heart.

Am I missing something here?
What has your daughter’s mental health got to do with comments about her holidaying with you ?
What does her holidaying with her parents have to do with anybody anyway?

Like grannyactivist each year we pay for both our children to come for a holiday in our French holiday home. Both are in their late 40s with good well paid jobs It is nobodies business but ours how we choose to spend our money.

Most parents help their children in one way or the other, depending on their income: a bag of groceries, hosting Christmas, having a day out, a holiday, deposit for a house, we all do it one way or another.

Someone just made a stupid remark. I doubt whether it was as freighted with meaning and importance as you have given it. I would probably have just said 'Yes, we love our family holidays' and forgotten the interchange with in minutes, the remark was that trivial.

For years my parents-in-law paid for the hire of a holiday home for all the family; now that privilege has fallen to us. Our adult children, their children and my in-laws join us every year. At other times of the year we take individual couples away or the grandchildren.

It’s pretty normal to take a 20 year old on holiday if you ask me.

I think it depends on how things are said, if just an aside then to be honest I'd ignore it.
If you feel it's rude, why not ask the person politely what they mean?

Its not mutually exclusive.

She can be lucky to have had a nice holiday AND have her struggles.

Honestly they were probably just making polite small talk I doubt theyve thought too hard about it. Would you rather they ignored you & didnt ask how your break was?

You've lost me, People at work think she's a lucky girl for having a free holiday, which bit of that is wrong? Why do you care what other people think whether it's good or bad, as long as you're happy what else matters?

I’d smile and brush it off. Just say ‘we love it she still likes to join us’.

Actually, it’s probably old news now anyway. The work colleagues will be discussing someone else.

Try not to overthink it. It’s probably upset you a bit because you like to keep stuff private. It’ll pass - less is more.