Goodmorning Mick and all x
I can confirm Sar53 it is bright and sunny in our part of the world! As you were away at the weekend you missed the "Big Beach Bang" (very large firework display) on Saturday and all the traffic chaos it brings!!
I shall be pickling my onions this morning before going to the gym and then visiting our young baby GS for lots of cuddles.
Thinking of the gillybobs, feel so helpless, wish I could just give her a huge hug 
Good morning from the NE coast . Long post alert !
Well Monday has come around again. It used to be my worst day of the week but they are all exactly the same now.
Still no change in DH. He is still in the induced coma, heavily sedated with what seems like a million drugs pumping into him to keep him alive. One drug for this, another for that and another to counteract the effects of the first one etc. It’s like a vicious circle .
I await the visit of the microbiologist today who will no doubt come up with yet another cocktail of antibiotics .
I sat up until the early hours catching up on DH’s “Life Support” diary which is designed to help fill in the blanks for those patients who do eventually recover and need to understand what they have been through. Very few have any real memory of what has happened in the missing days/weeks/months but almost all patients suffer from some degree of PTSD . Apparently these diaries help make sense of things .
Anyway to answer a few questions from yesterday’s thread.
My dad and I have never had a close relationship. I was terrified of him as a child and have written about this in the past. He was always a control freak and his word was final. Although he was never violent towards my mum he was absolutely THE BOSS. My mum being the gentle lady she was would never question his word. He was a rubbish grandfather to my children although he would buy them a pair of shoes he didn’t want the hassle of his house being messed up or he and my mum having to give up their time to babysit. I made my bed and I jolly well lay in it !
When my mum became seriously ill he did mellow quite a bit and since she died and his own health has deteriorated (he is very unsteady) he has been forced to soften as he is quite reliant on me taking him shopping, hospital appointments etc.
The reasons I did not want him to come to the hospital are purely selfish on my behalf as ;
a) he brings me no comfort at all , coming out with such gems as “calm down” which is exactly what he would have said to my mum.
b) I cannot forget the man he was (my problem I know)
c) I have the added worry of either having to leave my DH to take him home or worrying about him walking to/from the bus stop (as I said he is very unsteady on his feet).
With regards to the business and without boring you all with the details, it is in a very specialised field of electrical engineering and taking someone on to run the place would be impossible as it would take months of training for them to understand what it is we do. The lads we have left have been with us for many years and there is no way I could get someone “off the shelf “ to just walk in and take the reins .
The bank don’t give a monkeys toot how much into overdraft I go (they wont refuse any direct debits or payments for a while yet) as they have the entire debt secured on mine and DH’s home. They cannot lose . My problem is that if/when I am forced to sell the winner will take all . When you are in a deep hole shouldn’t you stop digging?
Anyway there it is in a rather large nutshell. A right piece of cr*p isn’t it?
Never mind . I’m just about ready to leave for the hospital again, it’s really hard to get parked on weekday mornings and don’t get me started on the cost.
Hoping I can share some better news soon and thank you all again for the continued messages, good wishes and prayers I truly appreciate each and every one .
I hope GrannyGravy’s baby grandson is getting better and will be out of hospital soon (apologies if he already is I’m like a push-me pull-you at the moment) . To others who are suffering ill health or feeling down I wish you lots of sunshine 
and to those enjoying good times, trips and holidays long may they continue.
Love Gilly xx
Good morning all and a special gentle hug to Gillybob. This torture is not easing is it, but hang on in there.
As for parking, our hospital has a weekly pass which does save some money generally from Day 3 (it also not infrequently has resulted in a discharge round about Day2- so fingers crossed)
The Royal Free gave me a free parking permit while DH was in Transplant and post- operative, but there were never any spaces in their far too small car park. A kind gesture though.
Sometimes those apparently trivial things can be the last straw.
I shuddered at your father interfering, you did not need that. I would respectfully suggest you tell your sister in no uncertain terms, dog, job or not, that she has the responsibility for him from now on.
The rain has stopped and it is a gloriously sunny Autumn day but I will be out there doing a rain dance if it keeps the fireworks at bay this evening ?
Wishing you all a pleasant day.
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