Thank you for supportive posts and advice.
I have been down every avenue and have an appeal pending for continuing health care funding - I appealed many many months ago and still no decision. But he has since had a further CHC funding assessment recently at the request of LA - trying to wriggle out of any contribution - and that too is (I hear on the grapevine) going to be turned down.
It is all a numbers game - they take half my OH's pension as part of their calculations, and then have the rest as part of the third-party top-up.
I have received a small amount of free solicitor advice on CHC funding; and I have decided to avoid the no win no fee company as if they win they take a huge percentage of the money won.
I know that if I sell house and move then OH will fall outside any LA contribution at all; but that is offset by the huge interest payments for equity release (which would be the only other way to raise some money on the house). I would rather move nearer my friends (as I am now on my own) than pay out to an equity release company.
I am of course daunted by the prospect of house sale etc., but it is the only logical route that gives me peace of mind in the knowledge that I have money there to pay the top-up.
I have had all the right advice; I just felt so hurt yesterday that they can send out such inhumane communications - they forget that there are human beings in distress in the middle of all this. I had just left him really miserable yesterday and just the thought that they might consider trying to move him if my money runs out hit a raw nerve.
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