How can they do this?

This is just so awful. I wish there was something we could do to help. Your right how can this happen in a civilised society.

Their ceiling is £573, but they take my OH's pension from him so they pay only the £238. They get you all ways round.

If they dragged him out to one of the homes under their ceiling, OH would still have to give them his pension.

And he loses his attendance allowance too.

I know the rules and I am trying not to get angry about them; but I was furious when they sent such a thoughtlessly inhumane letter. I felt I wanted to to drag them to his bedside and force them to see the reality of what our lives have become. And make them stop and think about how they are compounding an already sad situation.

I feel so angry for you Lucky ?

Oh Lucky I really don’t know what to say.

How can they put you through this ? Marydoll is spot on. It was a heartless and cruel letter.

Forgive me I know nothing, but something doesn’t seem right. If “their ceiling” is £573 why are they not contributing this to the home of your choice? Why just £238 ?

It seems that only the rich elderly can expect to live (and die) in dignity these days. and

luckygirl that is dreadful. If SSD can pay up to £573 per week could the LA not pay that amount towards your husband’s costs rather than the pittance of £238 (sorry I don’t know much about this)
I am so sorry you have this hardship to endure as well as having your husband in such a poorly way.

Thank you.

I just feel so angry that they can send such an inhumane heartless letter when they know what is going on. How do they sleep at night?

I used to be a SW many moons ago and I resigned mid-career over just this sort of inhumanity - I had no integrity left, neither professional nor personal.

Luckgirl, what a heartless and cruel letter. It is outrageous!.?
Is there anyone who can advise you?

I have followed your sad journey with your husband on GN. There seems to be no respite for you.
I have no words which can make things better, except offer virtual support. ?

I thought a family member was prepared to loan the money and would take it out of the sale of the house when you die.
This obviously is not what you want and the system is iniquitous.
Are you appealing again?

Could you release some equity on your house to pay it? I don't know how it works though.

I am so sorry this is happening to you.