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Wrinkles. How do you cope?

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Annecan Wed 04-Dec-19 10:26:08

Having always been reasonably young looking, this last year has taken a toll, and I look old and wrinkled (I’m 68). It’s as though my face is caving in!
Worst still this Makes me feel old.
What to do? How to cope? Any suggestions

Mollygo Thu 05-Dec-19 16:50:49

If all the wrinkle preventing serums and moisturisers I’ve used for long periods of time over the years really worked, I’d look in the mirror and see a much smoother face than I do. It doesn’t help when my dear OH says “But think what you’d look like if you didn’t use them!”???

TrendyNannie6 Thu 05-Dec-19 15:32:56

Oh Missadventure you’re post made me really giggle

dogsmother Thu 05-Dec-19 15:23:03

Love this thread, hate mine but mostly it’s my neck!
I have the must awful wattle, actually think I could put up with face but eurgh my neck !!
I would not have surgery though when you see what vanity surgery mistakes have happened I’d feel it would be my punishment.

M0nica Thu 05-Dec-19 15:10:37

Why are so many older women ashamed of looking normal; having wrinkles, grey har etc.

We are who we are. Everyone changes as they get older. As someone who lives in a very old house full of old furniture and standing outside it several old cars, who wants to own a car below school age? I am wearing a 10 year old sweater over a charity shop skirt and I am entirely comfortable to be looking my age. The secret with the whole lot is to look after them. Keep house, furniture, car, clothes and self in good order and then relax.

The key, with house

4allweknow Thu 05-Dec-19 15:08:21

Common problem with ageing, welcome to the club. Unless you are going for the full facelift don't try to cover up with foundation. Some say applying shading, highlighting etc. helps deflect the eye from obvious areas. Just can't be bothered personally, it's a natural process. Perhaps don't look in the mirror with lights on!

Carmel46 Thu 05-Dec-19 14:56:22

A face without lines is like a book without words; it doesn't have a story to tell!

Theoddbird Thu 05-Dec-19 14:34:28

I also on a good 'laser' face cream twice a day. I get compliments on my smooth skin. Wish I could get rid of the saggy bit under my chin. Smiling does lift it a bit and holding my head up more....sighs I have finally come to terms with my nose...at 68...hahaha. Smiling definitely helps jowls...

grandtanteJE65 Thu 05-Dec-19 14:21:01

I too try not to look in the mirror or in shop windows. When I do, I just pretend it is my grandmother looking back at me. It is quite nice seeing her again!

Chaitriona Thu 05-Dec-19 13:56:58

Face yoga is excellent. Massage, relaxation and a few simple exercises for the face. It strengthens muscles, relaxes the face, improves circulation and moves lymph and puffiness. I am chronically ill and suffer from fatigue, so I just do a little most days within my limitations. If I am tired, I miss out the exercises. I think it does make a difference but I also find it pleasurable and very soothing and calming for my whole self. For older people, something that it is easy to do in bed or an armchair

NannyC2 Thu 05-Dec-19 13:48:13

Relax, enjoy life. It's what's on the inside that counts, not the outside x

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 05-Dec-19 13:41:05

You're alive and that's what matters.
A young, generous-hearted outlook and good hair with flattering clothes make all the difference.

Happygirl79 Thu 05-Dec-19 13:36:40

Celebrate the fact that its better than the alternative.. Not being alive!

MissAdventure Thu 05-Dec-19 13:36:36

If mine are laughter lines then it must have been one hell of a joke.

janeainsworth Thu 05-Dec-19 13:34:28

ga I wouldn’t say I’m bothered about having wrinkles.
I just prefer to postpone their arrival for as long as possible grin

Applegran Thu 05-Dec-19 13:32:23

I agree with the advice to call them laughter lines and accept them! The truth is that we are getting older! Of course use a good skin cream BUT do not go for Botox. I've read more than once that there are serious unintended consequences from Botox: it paralyses small muscles, so they can no longer create lines. But those muscles have a job to do - they make your facial expression change in different circumstances and we need them. For instance, when you meet a friend who is sad, you reflect back to her your understanding of her pain, in your own expression. And of course, you smile and look happy when someone has good news. This has two effects - it helps our relationships with others, who see our empathatic expression and it informs our brains with empathatic understanding, so our responses are a good match for our friend's feelings. Empathy and relationship are to me so much more important than getting rid of some lines on my face - as the younger generation say "its a no brainer!" Keep your laughter lines and keep your capacity to reflect empathicatically and feel more fully for others.

vissos Thu 05-Dec-19 13:26:50

Loving this thread, esp the post about not looking down into a mirrored table top! Discovered that a while back - no getting on top for me any more! ?

HannahLoisLuke Thu 05-Dec-19 13:10:18

Gentle exfoliation, lots of mousturising, silk pillowcase, NO FROWNING, that's where the vertical forehead lines come from.
I got rid of age spots on my hands by exfoliating with silk cocoons and then applying VitC serum followed by a good moisturiser at night. Hand cream ok for day but not enough overnight. Prickly Pear seed oil is good for this, greasy though and takes a bit of sinking in so cotton gloves a good idea.
Hard work staying beautiful isn't it ?

jannxxx Thu 05-Dec-19 13:00:06

i embrace it cant change it cant stop it and when i look at some 61 year olds i dont think im that bad smile

Mcrc Thu 05-Dec-19 12:42:17

I guess I am in the minority when I say you can look into fillers! I think whatever makes you feel good-reasonably and not too expensive. Don't judge me!

grannyactivist Thu 05-Dec-19 12:41:31

I've been wondering, why people are bothered by having wrinkles? I can't say it's something that I think about for myself or notice particularly on other people. Is it something to do with self-esteem, or maybe an antipathy to ageing?

Keeper1 Thu 05-Dec-19 12:34:55

Well short of a facelift or Botox and fillers there isn’t much you can do. I was told by a beautician that almond oil was the only thing to penetrate the epidermis so maybe give that a try. Try using a BB or CC cream they are lighter and don’t settle into the ridges oh use a primer first or just live for the day, enjoy your friends and family do things that make you happy and never ever wear beige x

Kartush Thu 05-Dec-19 12:18:23

Stop looking in mirrors or any reflective surface...... works like a charm

Patticake123 Thu 05-Dec-19 12:09:43

Dim light, misty mirror, no specs and enjoy the fact that you have laughter lines.

TrendyNannie6 Thu 05-Dec-19 12:08:49

Wrinkles. Who cares not me. It’s not something I really think about. They come to us all. I’m just so happy I wake up everyday. Lots of ppl haven’t had that chance

Grannyguitar Thu 05-Dec-19 12:04:31

What ever you do, don't have a face-lift. Remember what they used to say about Nancy Reagan "Every time she smiles, it pulls her knickers up!". If the thought of that doesn't make you laugh, nothing will.