Just as the title says. At the end of October we have booked a table for 4 for Boxing day at our favourite restaurant. Our son asked if they could come with us and they would pay for themselves. Because of unforseen expenditure, not Christmas related he has told us tonight that he can't afford it.. I am really annoyed, this is not on when its Boxing day and "our Restaurant" I really don't want to let them down. We were going to give him £ 50 for Christmas plus a few presents to unwrap, but it looks like we are going to have to pay for them as well. We are not very well off either. Should we reduce the ammount for the present and still pay. What would you do?
I'd change the reservation to 2 and then pop round to them afterwards with a bottle of wine? He has said he can't afford it, not that he expects you to pay. Surely they can't be offended if you have the meal without them
You would give the restaurant wine??? Why would they want that? Or do you mean for the son?
Lucky you if you have a restaurant you can afford to frequent so many times you call in "our" restaurant. I suggest you pay for their meal and the presents, then after the holiday you all sit down and work out what you can allreally afford. You should just go to "your"restaurant one less time.
After all, Christmas Dinner is really only a roast chicken dinner with a few bits and pieces. If you all shared the food prep and the cost next year it would cost less and be more of a family affair.
Every year we take DS, DIL and GC to the pantomime for their main joint Christmas present. Every year, we then go to a restaurant for a meal. When it comes to paying the bill, DS is always involved with some kind of emergency with the children which precludes him from being anywhere near the cash desk! It's become part of the family tradition now!
Come on, treat your son to a lovely meal in the restaurant. So many Grans don't see their children from one year to the next, Be happy that he is near enough for you to treat, use your credit card to pay, The poor boy is embarrassed enough having to admit it. One day he may be in a position to treat you, HAPPY CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR!
Reading your first post I would think you know your son well and would know whether he was tring to get a free meal or not I have an AC who would say "include us" in any meals out planned and when the time came would say we want to come but we can't afford it knowing we would pay so they werent left out. But eventually we realised it was just to get a free meal . They had plenty of money to go out for dinner 3 days out of 4. So the next time they tried it on we just said 'oh dear, that's a pity" and left it at that. Glad you have decided to treat your son because I am sure you will enjoy yourselves. Merry Christmas.
Claudiaclaws glad you got it sorted, I am BLIND and so, therefore, I must use assistive technology in order to use the computer. it's just a great shame we can't all get on with life and stop moaning, I'm not well off either but at least your eyes work and YOU will SEE your family, send me the bill