On another thread I have noticed some people think that a relationship with a grandchild can be taken up at any time and that grandparents don't need to bond. I would just like to discuss that further. Certainly I agree a few weeks won't make a difference but I wondered if you think there comes a point when it does and that you may never feel as close to a grandchild as you would have done. Someone even mentioned a baby really only needed to bond with Mummy and Daddy during the first year.
Maybe also if you feel shut out for long enough, in order to cope with that, your desire to get to know this child lessens.
To be honest it annoys me when there is always this assumption that grandparents are desperate to get their hands on this child and the parents hold all the power to allow it or not. It is as if it is all seen as the grandparents want something and the parents don't have to give it them. Shouldn't it also be seen as that grandparents are offering your child something too (a loving relationship, an extra person to love them) and perhaps if you push them away for long enough you will end up denying your child what could have been a loving relationship with their grandparent?
I ask this as someone who never had that relationship with a grandparent. I have always felt I have missed out on having extended family in my life.
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