Is revenge sweet?

Some of the posts have made me smile, and revenge I suppose can be sweet, a woman scorned and all that, I can’t say wether I would take revenge as I’ve never been in that position thank goodness, I’m sure if I was then it would cross my mind to do something! But I do think the ultimate revenge is getting on with your life which is some cases must be extremely difficult when heartbroken, and trying not to stoop to their level, but I’m a firm believer in karma

Oh yes, karma can be a bitch, and it's very satisfying when that happens, but I'm afraid if someone crosses me or my family, then you can bet I'll be seeking revenge in one form or another, no matter how long it may take.

Not me, but an acquaintance who finally had had enough of her awful partner and left him. He was slovenly in his personal habits so she slightly dampened all the dirty clothing he had left around the place and then sprinkled it with fine grass seed.

Well stated TrendyNannie6. No one can really know all that goes on in any personal relationship. It is often that the partner who walks out of a relationship does so in shear frustration after a long periods of trying to reason and be loyal to the other with little or no result.

If that partner then stupidly seeks revenge in regard to the walkout, that is not an act that should be applauded, published or laughed at, but an act to be condemned in its stupidity rather than such a person moving on with respect in regard to their remaining life.

Of course, no one has spoken on the effects such revenge acts can have on the children involved in such a broken relationship who may love both parents.

I cannot imagine you cheating, grandad, but I thought you might have heard of a similar incident where a man had revenge on a cheating woman. Women are more likely to hear of (and remember) incidents involving women, and as there are more women posting on Gransnet than men, that is reflected in posts.

Grandad It is dificult to interest men in joining /gransnet, possibly becasue of the name, but even without mentioning that, they seem resistant to chatting on sites unless it is about cars or suchlike.

I have tried describing Gransnet to male friends, emphasising the way people discuss all kinds of subjects, sometimes vehemently, but the moment they hear that it is for people over 50, mostly with grandchildren, they shy away, saying something like, "I don't want to hear people going on about their wonderful grandchildren." There is some sort of filter, which doesn't hear anything except "grandchildren"

Some of those who do join have a rather strange concept of what a social network site for the over-50s is for - they treat it as a dating site, clearly having only one use in mind for women!

Elegran, I can honestly state that throughout my long life I have never heard of such stupid acts as described in this thread being carried out by a man. Should anyone inform me of such behaviour, I would strongly condemn it and ask on the well-being of any children involved in the relationship breakup.

Elgran regarding the wine bottles on people’s door steps. This was Lady Sarah Graham Moon, a good friend of my husband. I’m glad to report she went onto find happiness.
It was also her that cut up his suits by the way.

Elegran, again there is much I am able to agree with in your post @118:52 today. Unfortunately it would seem that any site where both genders talk and debate on any number of issues their are those who would wish to look on that as a dating site.

Mind you Elegran, I think in these times the above would go for both Men and women.

The equality of the times I suppose. ?

In regard to my above posts, I was just thinking and wondering if any forum member on here has ever got a date out of debating about Jeremy Cornyn on the political threads. ?

I suspect men would be more likely to ambush the bloke their wives are cheating with and give him a punch on the nose.

I have read somewhere that people in sections of society who don't have as much direct power (ethnic minorities, physically weaker women, smaller less muscular men, and so on) are more subtle in their relationships, They are probably also less inclined to take direct physical action and more likely to do some of the things posted about on here.

I don't think the keen debaters on the political threads have much time for dates.

I'm not cut out for revenge myself but do have a revenge story. More than 40 years ago a work mate's spouse, Mary, stopped by our workplace full of excitement about what she'd just witnessed. She'd been in line at the market to pay for her items and noticed the lady in front of her was buying a lovely, whipped cream and fruit dessert. The lady paid for it and left, then reappeared as Mary was completing her own transaction. The lady was standing there with the dessert out of the box, she quickly threw it into the face of the cashier ringing up Mary's items and shouted "that's what you get for fooling around with someone else's husband" as she ran out of the store. No idea what happened later but I've always thought of this when someone mentions "sweet revenge!"

Back to the gist. I believe that what you do comes back at you so I try and lead a positive life doing no harm to anyone. I believe that the best revenge served by life generally repaying those that mistreat others. Their callousness contributes towards the people around them loosing goodwill and then they find themselves in a desperately poor position with little support - learning their lesson and more besides (hopefully).

I dont believe in kharma
People who do bad things get to sleep well at night, come out on top and go on to do more bad things to others.

Revenge doesnt always = sinking low. It can include whistleblowing etc.

"The universe" does not redress these imbalances. People do.

Gagajo, I love your example, totally legal too.

One particulate vile form of revenge is that of killing children in spousal revenge situations, very often over custody/access. There are no winners whatsoever there.

An old acquaintance has been trying to reconnect with me for years through various means, both on and off line. I never liked this person, they were a bully for a start but would not realise it. I could very easily have just replied - no thanks, not interested- but instead I just ignore each message, so they try again through another format, and again and again. That is my revenge; they will never know why I don't want contact but for some reason they just continue to try and I care not why.

Family annihilation isnt really "revenge" its continuation/escallation of domestic abuse

I know of a man who took a chain saw and cut everything in the home in half, because he was angry that his soon to be ex had been awarded half of everything.

Grandad1943 you really seem to look for every opportunity to play the sexist/misandry card.

One could switch the genders on any of these posts and they would still be shocking, amusing, whatever.

Phoenix, please point out to me where I have spoken of misandry in this thread. I have however spoken on the stupid acts of revenge that numerous posts in this thread have given insight into that have been carried out by women against male partners or ex-partners. Those post gained the assumption that the women in carrying out such acts where always blameless of any responsibility for the problems or breakup of those relstionships.

Also in the above, none of the posts made describing such acts spoke on the harm such actions may cause to the children of those involved in such relationship breakups who may often love both parents.

Therefore Phoenix I cannot conceive of the misandry you speak of being in anyway contained within any of my posts in this thread.

Apologies for the text errors in my above post, I did not realize that my Grammarly app was not online and checking for errors.

Revenge is really a mishandled desire for some kind of justice for a perceived wrong. I prefer to climb painfully up on to the moral high ground and wait it out.

Oh Grandad what WOULD we do without you here to tell us of the errors of our ways.....