Is revenge sweet?

Grandad1943 apart from this post, I really can't be bothered to reply to you, you keep singing the same old tune, just occasionally do you slightly change the lyrics.

Well Phoenix, if you cannot be bothered to reply to me, it begs the question of why you raised the non-issue of supposed misandry in my posts in this thread in the first instance.

Perhaps such things are all in the mind of some.

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Is revenge sweet? It really can be, especially if the recipient has no idea that you were involved - and you can witness their reaction!

Hetty please give us a little more than that ?

I can't say too much - except that I know how to do (and undo) plumbing!

Well, it was a very long time ago. My (then) fiance was going on a 'work trip' but I was suspicious as he behaved somewhat strangely/secretively about it.

He went off by tube to the mainline station. I followed, by cab, well disguised. There I saw him and my 'friend' (or so I thought) board the train.

He returned to find his ceilings down, plaster blown, house flooded out, furniture ruined - such a shame!

I tend to think that people who are so awful as to cause such unhappiness in others, will one day get their come-uppance without my help.

I agree with paddyanne and couldn't live with myself if I lost my moral compass to the extent I deliberately planned the downfall or pain of someone who had wronged me (and over my life, many people have and badly).

I think better of myself than to sink so low. I don't care if that sounds pompous, it's how I feel.

Mind you, fantasising is another thing entirely......

Grandad1943:
A (male) friend of mine has always said 'Revenge is a dish better served cold' .
By which time the perpetrator is thinking he/she has got away with it.

Hetty58 impressive plumbing skills, respect ?

BradfordLass73 Quote [Mind you, fantasising is another thing entirely......grin] End Quote.

Brafordlass73, yes I agree, fantasising in the very early hours of the morning does no harm to anyone. However, when you place such imaginations to print that can look rather silly in the cold sober light of day. ?

Anyway I am off to the sobriety of the world of work where sadly there can be only reality. ?

I can't be bothered with revenge. Best to just ride it out and move on, in my opinion.
I agree, I think it's best to just ignore such people and rise above their level. My DH would always want to get revenge but I don't see the point it rarely makes things better and trying to get revenge cant just make you feel worse.

I have had some revenge fantasies, which have been delightful, but never carried them out.

Causing someone pain and distress- yes, in my fantasy, if they truly deserved it. But he died anyway so I remembered the saying "Vengeance is mine saith The Lord".

However, one or two of the others mentioned above such as the damp socks in the bag of clothes, the grass seed, the pudding at the supermarket - well I may be perverse but I find them funny.

Others which are cruel I find not at all amusing.

Love some of these stories! When I was getting divorced I realised my ex had taken about £27000 out of his pensions and it had “disappeared”. The court judge wasn’t interested and said that I should just be happy it was over and move on. Ex insisted on a clean break so I couldn’t get any recourse. Anyway, I did get half of the left over pension less his half of mine - so not a great deal. Because my work pension doesn’t accept any other payments into it I had to find a private pension to transfer this little bit into. The financial advisor who helped me said she would do a search in case I had any other old pensions - I said no I am sure I don’t. Then she found a pension I had taken out when I was 17 and had forgotten all about (when serps was all happening?) and it was now worth £42000! I then felt guilty I hadn’t disclosed it in the divorce and went back to the court office - they said it’s a clean break, nothing happening, it’s all yours! Couldn’t help but smile at the karma!

Oooh Hetty56 - nice one! lol

Sorry Hetty58!

* another thread where it is only men who ever cheat in any personal relationship.*
This is a strange comment grandad1943 people are just commenting on their own experiences that is what Gransnet is for. Noone is or has ever impllied that all women are always perfect or that all men are always at fault!
Anyone is at liberty to start a thread.

My ex cheated on me which made the national press. We had been a big news story the year before. I went on Kilroy and told my story. He was livid and revenge was so sweet. The lady who delivered her husband’s wine collection to the neighbours was on the programme too. I’ll never regret it and I was invited back on more episodes which was a lot of fun.

This is an interesting topic! In a previous job in retail, my boss came close to accusing me of theft (in the end I left the job). But before I left, I thought: If he thinks I'm stealing, then I might as well! So I put a packet of cigarettes in my pocket (I smoked back then). But then I thought: if I steal these fags, that makes ME a THIEF! Why should I let that so-and-so compromise my integrity? So I put the cigarettes back, and my integrity remained intact. I have come to realise that revenge is really a victim behaviour, and that you triumph best when you shrug your shoulders and walk away.

It doesn’t feel right but by God it feels good..

The most I did, when I split up from my ex - after him going out until 2 or 3 am while I was pregnant and after my son was born, after 6 months of this continuing "habit" went out one night and didn't come home until lunch time the next day. He told me that he had had too much to drink, so stayed round a friends but told his workmate that he had stayed at a motel for the night! He eventually moved out, and in with another female workmate - who he had previously claimed he couldn't stand!
When I left our house to come back home to the UK, I first of all turned off the heater for the waterbed , had second thoughts and drained all of the water out of it (it would have cost only about $40 to re fill it as we were on a water meter) I also found one of his smelly socks under the bed, so tucked that in the pocket of his best suit and made sure that his wardrobe door was well closed.
Only a couple of little things, but made me feel a lot better !!!

Trisha Goddard used to say, “ the best revenge is success”, otherwise you’re just reducing yourself to the original level.

The best revenge is to live a happy and successful life.

Three years ago I fell out with my friends husband,over the fact of him controlling her,and every aspect of her life.To much to go into here,but he “saw” an e mail on her I pad where I’d pointed out his failings( said he was cleaning it) ?dont believe it.He came to our house confronted me ,so I told him what I thought of him,she threatens to leave him and he just cries ( ( control tactic) He put his hands on my neck.?She took his side and we haven't spoken since.I loath him,they live locally, I dread going out,as need the toilet quickly just the sight of both of them.Very inconvenient.I had posted to him a voodoo doll,with a knife through the heart.Initially I felt triumphant, but that wore off.Old Chinese saying Having revenge you “Dig two graves”We are moving house.So hopefully I will feel better then.

Many years ago, I was doing a temp job for a clothing importer brand, recording all the new season's orders from dress shops. We were a happy, hard-working team of about five people from different backgrounds - but our clearly affluent employers were consistently vile, barking orders at us and endlessly complaining. Towards the end of the shortish contract, we all systematically tweaked a few of the orders, so that if Celeste Ladies Fashions had ordered 4 jumpers in size 14 lilac, and 2 in 16 in beige, they got 3 in size 12 green and 3 in size 16 apricot. By the time the shops unpacked the deliveries, phoned to complain, and then returned the unwanted ones, we were long gone...