Is revenge sweet?

"Is Pippa bum still better than mine?"

Remember that sprayed on the passenger side of a car after he had compared his girlfriend's bum unfavourably to Pippa Middletons? He drove his car to work in the Birmingham rush hour, unable to do anything about it

Often what goes round, comes round without the need to do anything oneself to get revenge.

You tell 'em, grandad!
The site is for everyone, and the reason its called gransnet is because that supposedly makes clear that its for males and females. even though it doesn't, at all

I think a well thought out act of revenge can be very cathartic. Moreso than waiting around for karma, or expecting what goes around to come around.

10:18 Phoebes, Quote [ Grandad 1943: There is a reason why this is “Gransnet” not “Grandparents net”. Why not set up your own forum for men and don’t criticise ours?] End Quote.

Catlover123 [ Grandad1943, I agree with Pheobes. Sticking my head above the parapet here - I don't want men on Gransnet, I like the fact that it is mostly grans! Nothing personal against you, I just want a woman's forum ]End Quote.

So, Phoebes & Catlover123 you both obviously do not agree with or wish to uphold the terms of both The Human Rights Act 1998 and the Equality Act 2010, under which so much has been carried out to bring equality to women in their workplaces and everyday lives.

To give just two examples of landmark judgments in favour of women under the above acts, Muirfield Golf Club was forced admit its first women members after 275 years of existence, and more recent, Presenter Samira Ahmed has successfully taken the BBC to an employment tribunal over alleged unequal pay and won a landmark judgment under the act.

No doubt Phoebes & Catlover123 you would, I assume, support the legislation and principal that allowed women for the first time to gain access to an organisation that prescribed against them purely on the grounds of their gender, and also support that same legislation when it ruled in favour of a journalist who was being paid far less than a male college purely on the grounds of her gender.

However, the above acts do also cover both genders in terms of equal rights, and in that it supports the right of any man to be a member of this forum despite its title or the views of any of its members. In the same, the above parliamentary acts also support the right of any man or woman to gain membership of any other institution or organisation they hold qualification to join, as gender cannot be used as a sole reason to refuse access.

Therefore Phoebes & Catlover123 and any other forum member(s) who hold similar outdated views and beliefs as yourselves, I will continue my membership of this forum and continue to post on any topic or thread I so desire. The forgoing will most certainly be due in part to my knowledge that there are forum members such as yourselves who do not wish me to be here purely on the grounds of gender intolerance.

I believe that living your life well is the best revenge...

Like Maya Angelou says in "Still I Rise" - which is an empowering poem about the struggle to overcome prejudice and injustice.
You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may tread me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Read the rest for yourself... it is indeed amazing.

Just over a ear ago I was extremely badly treated by someone I should have got out of my life a long time ago. The emotional hurt was worse than anything I have ever experienced. I was very hungry for revenge. Everyone who knew about this, including a counsellor I was seeing at the time said that revenge was a bad idea, that being the better person was the way etc.etc. so I waited. I now feel as if I should have taken revenge then and there, and as if it is all too late now. He got away with it, though I hold out some hope from other posters that Karma may still yet come for him.

In the 1960s my Dad bought a pram from a toy/children's shop in Tolworth near where we lived. It developed faults but the shop wasn't interested - no Trading Standards in those days! So Dad found out where the owner lived and went round one late night to let the air out of his car tyres. He could be quite vengeful, could Dad!

I believe in karma what goes around comes around. I knew a woman who was gay and she moved in a friends house as a lodger. The husband of the couple she moved in with worked nights. The two women became lovers and kicked the husband out of the house which was later sold. The two women then bought a flat out of the house proceeds. Two years later the ex wife died in her sleep next to her gay lover apparently of “natural causes”. The gay women sold the flat and moved in as a lodger again with another couple and again their marriage was ruined and the husband left the house with their two teenagers. That house was later sold and again proceeds of the sale went towards the women buying another house. The ex wife inherited a large amount of money, 18 months later she fell down the stairs and died from her head injuries. I went to the police and told them I was suspicious of the two deaths and I told them I thought the lesbian was the reason they died. The police said they had looked into it and could not prove anything and they wondered if I was jealous which I was not. In the meantime the gay women had a nice house built on an acre of land and drove around in an expensive car. The day before she was due to move into her new house she was killed in a car crash.

Well, if my husband betrayed me, I would kick him out and institute divorce proceedings, but I wouldn't waste my time destroying his property.

That sort of thing strikes me as being petty and childish beyond belief.

I have reported a con man to the police, who couldn't do anything, but that is hardly revenge, is it?

not sure on this one. i wouldnt have bothered to get revenge. its not worth it .you are lowering yourself to their level.bag up clothes and give them to him sweetly .and move on...child support will sort out the child payments.. i know you feelm like smacking him in the mouth .but he's not worth the effort..

I believe in Karma....no need for revenge.

Gall bladder stones grind up like pepper - and my cheating ex loved extra pepper on his steak...........

By the way the electric fence isn’t connected either

I've never taken revenge but hope that karma will eventually step in! Pointless I know but taking revenge is a waste of energy.

Years ago my friends husband had an affair. He was in the fashion business so she did what seems popular with women, and cut up all his expensive suits.
But a happy ending..... They are happily still together.

I have the neighbour from hell
I would constantly get called to fence to discuss an issue along their $30000 fence. I rescue livestock and they are allowed to roam free, apparently the animals leaned on their fence so numerous times we had been told to do something about it, so to keep the peace, we installed an electric fence. Next call was to say we had a dead white cat near the fence, goodness it was a ginger chicken and not even ours. Ok remove it get on with life. Next call to fence, my horses are in their native area. Ahm sorry not mine, they are up at the shed waiting for their breakfast. Next time, my pigs are damaging their native bush, pigs are asleep on my lounge chair. Final time, I saw red, my turkeys were flying over the fence because my dogs were chasing them. Such hog wash, so my reply as I walked off, f... off to be then told I would regret saying that and that I was a very primitive woman. I kept walking, just ignore. Well the EPA had a we had cleared the farm, the RSPCA because our animals have no shelter, then the pound our dogs chasing kangaroos. Final time it was the drone flying overhead and I dropped my pants and flashed my butt. Ok I had had enough. Fire breaks were put in according to local laws not clearing land. We have lots of trees and stables for animals to shelter in, but they choose our patios, the dogs were sitting on patio barking at the birds to watch them fly off, not chasing kangaroos, their dog barked and frightened, a turkey which got caught up in his barb wire fence and we had to suture up. Our pigs are too content to go in their place, we have the water and food and are often inside sleeping with dogs. Yes my revenge was sweet dropping my pants, hence no more complaints as yet. The RSPCA and pound are friends, I take in their animals that need a home lol

Oldwoman70 that's brilliant ?.
I did take revenge for something appalling an ex did. If I had more evidence I would have had him charged but unfortunately it was word against word....
I will only say my revenge was remote. And satisfying.

As for the war of words/genders/views happening on the thread. I thought all people were welcome and all views were relevant, whether they opposed yours or not. Unless it's a personal insult, which is not okay.
Diversity makes us human.

I put a spud up the exhaust of the car, owned by someone who did me a huge disservice. I still smile when I think of it.

Smileless1212. When I read the story of the prawns, there was an addition to the story. In the version I read, the husband and mistress stripped the house of everything, including the curtain rails, and put them up in their new house. If true, that tale is even better.

No but I would like to. I've been the Secretary of our local pigeon racing organisation for 17 years and have always done a good job (according to members). However one member constantly makes my life a misery, trying to find fault with everything I do, telling lies about things I've supposedly said and the last straw was standing up at the AGM to put in a vote of no confidence in me. Nobody backed him but I was fed up of all the hassle so resigned. He used to send me texts at 2am when he was drunk trying to cause arguments over different things till I told someone and they outed him. I'm not usually a vindictive person but I would really like to put him in his place, if I was a man would he have acted the same? If I was a man I would have punched him by now lol

Christmas 2009 my husband was home for a couple of weeks prior to a 7 month tour of Afghanistan (he was Army reserves – TA, aged 48). I’d bought him camouflage underwear “to keep him from getting shot in the ar5e”. Oh, how we laughed. 2011 and he’s been caught (sigh) sexting his friends 33 year old wife, thought they had a future together, left our 23 year marriage …. I cut the camouflage underwear into shreds and put it in his bags. Yes, small, petty act but it made me feel just that bit stronger at a time when my life was falling apart. (She wasn’t interested in someone who was 50 – actually aghast at the thought)! I randomly thought about her a couple of weeks ago, found out she and her husband are now divorced, he’s very happily remarried. My ex - he's moved in with another - younger - woman and her two daughters. Looking back he was a self absorbed, selfish little man who treated me appallingly. Well rid!

I did the opposite from most stories when my husband left me for a woman with whom he had been having an affair for six months,

He had arranged for a friend to come and collect all his clothes. I carefully washed, ironed or pressed everything and folded it into a suitcase.

I heard later that that made him feel more guilty than ever. Later when the drama had settled and we could speak civilly, he told me it made him realise he should never have left.

That had not been the plan. I think it was a matter of pride, Before anyone asks, I did not take him back.

I heard of someone who was forced to leave the marital home. She sprayed the carpet with a little water then scattered cress seeds on it. I'd love to have seen how that turned out.

When first married we lived in a brand new estate and didn't have much money. There was another couple both only children with one son his parents bought everything the child needed and more her parents bought anything she wanted I was envious of all her fashionable clothes. She had an affair and left but returned to collect her clothes she was in the garden shouting up at hubby in the bedroom asking for her clothes. He opened the window and with the aid of a large pair of scissors cut every item of clothing and dropped them from the window. My favourite saying every dog has its day was so fitting.