Is revenge sweet?

Family annihilation isnt really "revenge" its continuation/escallation of domestic abuse

An old acquaintance has been trying to reconnect with me for years through various means, both on and off line. I never liked this person, they were a bully for a start but would not realise it. I could very easily have just replied - no thanks, not interested- but instead I just ignore each message, so they try again through another format, and again and again. That is my revenge; they will never know why I don't want contact but for some reason they just continue to try and I care not why.

One particulate vile form of revenge is that of killing children in spousal revenge situations, very often over custody/access. There are no winners whatsoever there.

Gagajo, I love your example, totally legal too.

I dont believe in kharma
People who do bad things get to sleep well at night, come out on top and go on to do more bad things to others.

Revenge doesnt always = sinking low. It can include whistleblowing etc.

"The universe" does not redress these imbalances. People do.

Back to the gist. I believe that what you do comes back at you so I try and lead a positive life doing no harm to anyone. I believe that the best revenge served by life generally repaying those that mistreat others. Their callousness contributes towards the people around them loosing goodwill and then they find themselves in a desperately poor position with little support - learning their lesson and more besides (hopefully).

I'm not cut out for revenge myself but do have a revenge story. More than 40 years ago a work mate's spouse, Mary, stopped by our workplace full of excitement about what she'd just witnessed. She'd been in line at the market to pay for her items and noticed the lady in front of her was buying a lovely, whipped cream and fruit dessert. The lady paid for it and left, then reappeared as Mary was completing her own transaction. The lady was standing there with the dessert out of the box, she quickly threw it into the face of the cashier ringing up Mary's items and shouted "that's what you get for fooling around with someone else's husband" as she ran out of the store. No idea what happened later but I've always thought of this when someone mentions "sweet revenge!"

I don't think the keen debaters on the political threads have much time for dates.

I suspect men would be more likely to ambush the bloke their wives are cheating with and give him a punch on the nose.

I have read somewhere that people in sections of society who don't have as much direct power (ethnic minorities, physically weaker women, smaller less muscular men, and so on) are more subtle in their relationships, They are probably also less inclined to take direct physical action and more likely to do some of the things posted about on here.

In regard to my above posts, I was just thinking and wondering if any forum member on here has ever got a date out of debating about Jeremy Cornyn on the political threads. ?

Elegran, again there is much I am able to agree with in your post @118:52 today. Unfortunately it would seem that any site where both genders talk and debate on any number of issues their are those who would wish to look on that as a dating site.

Mind you Elegran, I think in these times the above would go for both Men and women.

The equality of the times I suppose. ?

Elgran regarding the wine bottles on people’s door steps. This was Lady Sarah Graham Moon, a good friend of my husband. I’m glad to report she went onto find happiness.
It was also her that cut up his suits by the way.

Elegran, I can honestly state that throughout my long life I have never heard of such stupid acts as described in this thread being carried out by a man. Should anyone inform me of such behaviour, I would strongly condemn it and ask on the well-being of any children involved in the relationship breakup.

Grandad It is dificult to interest men in joining /gransnet, possibly becasue of the name, but even without mentioning that, they seem resistant to chatting on sites unless it is about cars or suchlike.

I have tried describing Gransnet to male friends, emphasising the way people discuss all kinds of subjects, sometimes vehemently, but the moment they hear that it is for people over 50, mostly with grandchildren, they shy away, saying something like, "I don't want to hear people going on about their wonderful grandchildren." There is some sort of filter, which doesn't hear anything except "grandchildren"

Some of those who do join have a rather strange concept of what a social network site for the over-50s is for - they treat it as a dating site, clearly having only one use in mind for women!

I cannot imagine you cheating, grandad, but I thought you might have heard of a similar incident where a man had revenge on a cheating woman. Women are more likely to hear of (and remember) incidents involving women, and as there are more women posting on Gransnet than men, that is reflected in posts.

Well stated TrendyNannie6. No one can really know all that goes on in any personal relationship. It is often that the partner who walks out of a relationship does so in shear frustration after a long periods of trying to reason and be loyal to the other with little or no result.

If that partner then stupidly seeks revenge in regard to the walkout, that is not an act that should be applauded, published or laughed at, but an act to be condemned in its stupidity rather than such a person moving on with respect in regard to their remaining life.

Of course, no one has spoken on the effects such revenge acts can have on the children involved in such a broken relationship who may love both parents.

Not me, but an acquaintance who finally had had enough of her awful partner and left him. He was slovenly in his personal habits so she slightly dampened all the dirty clothing he had left around the place and then sprinkled it with fine grass seed.

Oh yes, karma can be a bitch, and it's very satisfying when that happens, but I'm afraid if someone crosses me or my family, then you can bet I'll be seeking revenge in one form or another, no matter how long it may take.

Some of the posts have made me smile, and revenge I suppose can be sweet, a woman scorned and all that, I can’t say wether I would take revenge as I’ve never been in that position thank goodness, I’m sure if I was then it would cross my mind to do something! But I do think the ultimate revenge is getting on with your life which is some cases must be extremely difficult when heartbroken, and trying not to stoop to their level, but I’m a firm believer in karma

Elgran, in regard to your above post, I can honestly state that I have never cheated on my wife and would never dream of doing so.

I do very much agree with you though on the need for more diversity in this forum as threads such as this go far in proving that point.

I enjoy schadenfreude which is probably a similar feeling to revenge.

An old wealthy neighbour had a thing for barely legal boys from poor backgrounds

Nothing you could report as they were just about over age, and not mentally vulnerable but all poor and he dangled money under their familys noses.

The last family he did this to ripped him off! Prettu much cleaned him out. Legally. He lost his house and the power he had over poor families and boys.

I wasnt the only one who loved that it happened!

Not me but a co-worker left a fish behind a radiator after a horrible experience with a landlord.

It DID make her feel better

Well, grandad, the posters on here are mostly women, so they are bound to post things from a female point of view. I am sure that if we had more men we would get more stories of how men got their revenge on cheating partners. Have you any stories to add?

Yes, and another thread where it is only men who ever cheat in any personal relationship.

Of course we are all aware that so many of the women on this forum are perfect in every aspect of their lives, especially in their dealings with their partners.

Same old singers with the same old songs.

A lot of these stories are classic examples of the old saying:-
Revenge is a dish best served cold!

I particularly loved the fish in the curtain pole story especially as it led to the wronged woman being the winner by eventually buying the house at a knocked down price!