No DiLs - thank goodness!

My MiL said that the day MrA married me was one of the happiest of her life. She also said that if he ever gave me any bother, I should just bash him over the head with my rolling pin.
She was always supportive, and never judged any of us.
She died 4 years ago and I miss her very much.
I’ve tried to follow her example with my own DiL.

I dont understand it ,I had issues with my FIL not my MIL.I love her to bits and always got on well with her.Maybe because she was realistic about her son,my OH.He is the untidiest man on the planet and when he was younger he had a quick temper...never with me but with "things" that went wrong.Cups would hit walls tyres would get kicked

.Every day was a new discovery,we WERE very young ,he was just a month past his 20th birthday when we got married.
He's the lovliest ,kindest man in the world and always sees everyone else's side of a problem now,I say he has morphed into my dad ,he says its living with me that has made him how he is.MIL says nobody else would have stuck it out for 40 odd years ...lol.Now I'm a MIL I just try to treat my DIL like my own ,its not hard ,shes a great girl .She knows I'm on her side if she ever needs me

I think it’s always been there. Les Dawson’s MIL jokes were always about the woman’s mum. I think to do it the other way round would have been too close to home for many people! My MIL was awful, all the stereotypes plus some. She missed out on so much because she wanted everything to be about her.

My MiL was a nightmare. Tried to control everything. Once said about me, 'The problem with GGJ is that everything has to done the English way.' Well, yes! I'm English. At the time that was the only way I knew.

My DIL is lovely but we have had our problems. She lost her Mum when my grandson was 3 months old and that caused her to resent me for about a year. It was quite tense during that time although she knew it wasn't my fault. Three years on he knows that I will support her, my son and grandchild to the best of my ability and that has made a big difference.

I do have a Dil who treats me as my son does. Shes often said she wishes her mum was like me. I do have a Gs but very few rules and those she has are common sense.

I must be one of the lucky ones, I have two lovely daughters in law,I always say I couldn’t have chosen better myself! Never had any grandchildren problems either .Always vowed never to interfere with their views even if I felt differently.
Didn’t really get on with my mother in law and looking back I wonder if she was sad about me
I try to think I and each of the Daughters in law love the same men and also I am not a ‘replacement’ for their mums.

I only have DILs we get on OK but I'm sure it's nothing like having a daughter and SIL! Same with us daughters in law I'm sure we get on or used to, get on better with our FILs than MILs!

Gillybob' s last 2 lines resonate with me. ?

Nice post NanaandGrampy .

I have a son and DiL with 3 children and a daughter with one child.

I have looked after my son and DiL’s children since they were weeks old and like you I have never once been given any rules by either my DDiL or my DS. As you say they just trust that I will do my best to look after them.

I agree there seem to be quite a few MiL and DiL problems around at the minute . Was it always the case I wonder?

My DiL knows which grandma she can ring at the last second to take over childcare, run an errand, go to the school or whatever and it’s definitely not her mum .