I have become invisible

Don't worry, we all do it Crosstichfan.

Aldom

Crosstichfan I think you may be wasting your breath because Kadinsky made that comment five years and two days ago.

Really? I took it as being new! I feel silly now! 🤭

BBbevan

I often feel invisible on here

So do I

Sparkling says she feels invisible. I remember the first time I walked into a pub and all the men looked up ……. and then looked down again . Oh the relief !

I started feeling like this 16 years ago when I was 50 nobody could mention my birthday without me bursting into tears, I was a little bit the same this year when I hit 66 and realised I was officially an OAP, I envy people who can think age is just a number because yes at 66 I feel invisible often

annodomini, there’s always someone taller, as at 85 I’m shrinking …..

Crosstichfan I think you may be wasting your breath because Kadinsky made that comment five years and two days ago.

I've never felt invisible when I've needed help. When I have fallen and had trouble getting up, there was always someone - invariably younger - who picked me up and, when necessary, called an ambulance. Nowadays, at 84, when I try to reach a product inconsiderately positioned on a high shelf, there's always a younger, fitter person able and willing to reach it for me, without having to be asked.

If I pass teenagers vaping, I say, with a smile, “ chocolate’s cheaper “, and they laugh and sometimes reply, never rudely. I’ve even been offered the chance to try it. I’m going to stick to chocolate though.

I’m a big dresser upper and notice I’m certainly not invisible when dressed up, made up etc. However I do enjoy my invisible days, just dressing comfortably, specs on and anorak etc.

I’ve just started watching Joan Hickson as Miss Marple and it seems being ‘invisible’ can have a plus side😉

I don’t feel invisible but I do feel less noticed, and I like that, especially when walking past groups of men, I can remember when that made me feel nervous as a younger woman but now it feels great because they completely ignore me.
But when I want to be noticed I make sure that I am, if given a rubbish table in a restaurant when others are empty or just overlooked in general.

Kandinsky

Who do you want looking at you at your age?

Maybe you didn’t mean it, but that was an unpleasant and unnecessary comment, Kandinsky!

Crossstitchfan

whywhywhy

I definitely feel invisible around certain people and I never used to. Sometimes I feel invisible on this site.

I can see you, BBBevan! 👀

Sorry, that was for why why why!

Kandinsky.. I thought your comment was hilarious and it made me laugh. That is exactly what my best friend would have said to me.

Grandmafrench

It's often quite hard not to feel invisible when out and about. It often seems - especially in the south of England - that there is no time for anything now , not even a greeting and a smile. Not important any more. So, after many years of living abroad (where older people do count!) I am tempted to behave a little disgracefully now and then. In England I respond and greet people and make eye contact, I never "grunt" and I always smile. It never worries me that a lot of stressed people might think "nutter". Some day we will all be old and if a very old person speaks to me I NEVER walk past and ignore them : what if mine is the only conversation that person has during the whole day? I will speak to the older cashiers in Tesco who question as to why I am buying so many boxes of Earl Grey Tea and then how do I like living in the sunshine. I don't care if her chatting to me holds up the queue - every single person needs human contact sometimes, we are not robots! Probably heading towards the 'purple coat and red hat' age now, so I don't care, but I welcome a conversation with anyone however young, however old, however short of time I am. We all deserve that. No little child will get a sour-faced response from me when they ask my name or my age and embarrass their Mum. I'm happy to entertain small kids in the Building Society queue whilst their Mothers play with their 'phones....oblivious. Invisibles can strike back! We all need to slow down and start caring and not make anyone feel invisible, ever. Do one small kind thing every day and see how are lives are enriched by that.

Love this, Grandmafrench!

I guess I was about 70 (now nearly 77) when, really annoyed in Halford's after being ignored, a third customer behind me was asked what they wanted, I threw up my arms and shouted out "Eureka!" With everybody now aware I added "I have, it seems, invented a cloak of invisibility!" Apologies were made and I was served. Seems they thought I must be with somebody else (as I was obviously too old and senile to be allowed out on my own?)

srn63

I love being invisible.

Who said that??? 😂🤣

I have never felt invisible, just 69. But I live in a small village, have lots of friends and am on several committees. I retired from a professional management job seven years ago, and have continued to use my specific skills in church and locally. I learnt to put a smile on my face and be friendly to everyone. So far it has worked for me!

Perhaps you're giving out the wrong signals. I would prefer to be 'invisible' but I find I actually get unwanted attention. I seemed to have become a sweet little old lady!

whywhywhy

I definitely feel invisible around certain people and I never used to. Sometimes I feel invisible on this site.

I can see you, BBBevan! 👀

I love it too. I told my grandchildren grandma has a super power , invisibility. They thought that was so funny!

That's a pretty unnecessary and insensitive comment

To Kandinsky - shop assistants, cafe, restaurant & especially bar staff for a start!

Jaye53

Sadly No one ever thanked me for replying to their problems. not one personally , just a "thanks all" a couple of times only.

I think GN runs hot and cold, slow and fast - people don't always take time to say Thank You to every response, indeed kind when it happens. Thank you for bringing up reply to reply.

Jaye53

Sadly No one ever thanked me for replying to their problems. not one personally , just a "thanks all" a couple of times only.

A few posters are very polite and acknowledge separately everyone who offers advice, but they are rare birds. Some give a blanket thanks to all, and yet others never utter a word after posting about their problem. Don’t let that get you down Jaye. We’re all in that same boat.