Wolf whistling, ok. Or offensive. Thoughts!

Good post, Eloethan.
I find ‘Wolf whistles’ demeaning.

I remember being whistled at by a group of builders one day. When I ignored them, they began calling out personal and unkind names. I was in tears by the time my bus arrived.
I was in my 20’s at this time, at University and considered myself a feminist, but I really didn’t know how to deal with this small group of quite aggressive men.

I think the language is quite interesting - ‘wolf’ has predatory connotations, but this behaviour is deemed by some to be ‘just a bit of fun’. I don’t think it’s funny.

I would be against wolf whistles and the like; but happy with mutual good natured banter.

When I was working, a young man approaching the typing pool would quite often be subjected to sexy banter; but I never heard anyone object! I understand, though, that the other way round it would have been very intimidating for a woman entering a room full of men.

These days, I find it difficult to know what is acceptable and what is not so tend to tread with great care. It is, though, nice when I can say almost anything to an old friend of the opposite sex and know it will give no offence and returned with a smile.

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Yes agree Iam, 12 and 13 year olds, still kids, I wasn't particularly precocious at that age, I hated it.......and as you say, it often isn't just wolf whistling it's lewd comments, sometimes with driver slowing down thinking he can engage with that girl/s, pretty alarming at such an age. In a slightly more serious vein I have also read about school girls/young girls in areas that are prone to prostitution (often trafficked young girls themselves) being propositioned.

Who exactly are you Jennifer to say it is fuss about nothing. Several people have shared stories where they felt uncomfortable. As I said, if I was with a gang it didn't particularly bother me. As a lone, shy, teen, I disliked it. My feelings, I gave a right to them.

For those who are getting all upset by the past thoughts of Wolf Whistles, it took place back in a different era that held different attitudes and values in both men and women.

The world has moved on, so, get over it.

Imagine thinking grown men whistling at 13 year olds is ok.

Yes in a past era when grown men whistled at children.

As a teenager I found it embarrassing and would probably go bright red and rush on, when older I would just ignore them, stick my nose in the air and walk on.
However, it is so long ago my memory could be hazy.

I do dislike it when some men look at my DDs and you can see their eyes travel slowly up and down. I saw one doing this to younger DD when she was waiting for me and I felt a mother's protective instincts rush to the fore. She just laughed and and said she was used to handling "sleazeballs".

Grandad I think miniskirts saw the demise of stockings, tights started to come in then.

Yes, we now in this era both men and women grooming children online, is that better.

Its possibly to be opposed to both. It doesnt take a lot of effort.

Its possibly to be opposed to both. It doesnt take a lot of effort.

It’s true that a certain type of person finds it takes no effort at all to be opposed to many things; it comes easily to them.

Greymar 09:19

Yes you absolutely do have a right to your feelings but others have as much right to theirs!

Wolf whistles, I could take them or leave them. What I really disliked was the ‘joke’ glueing down of loose coins opposite construction sites. I really hope this has died out.

I am confused tickingbird are you in favour of grooming of children online as that is what I was talking about being opposed to.

Callistemon, there was a considerable period of time in the sixties when flared miniskirts were very prevalent but tights were yet to come onto the scene.

I and my mates very much enjoyed that period of time. I got to first recognise my wife by looking at her mini skirt and stocking clad (or unclad) legs whichever way I cared to look at it. ??

Great Days. Really must get on with some work now.

ticking, yes they do. If someone says 'I like the attention', OK great. But don't tell me it's all lot of fuss about nothing because that was not my experience.

Grandad, the world is a different place as you point out, than when you (and I) were young. Are you saying you find adult men harassing, sexualising girls of 12 and 13, walking with their father, is perfectly acceptable?

Greymar You asked who I am to say I think the complaints are a fuss about nothing.

Well I guess I am like everyone on here in that I am expressing my opinion .

I was speaking from a personal perspective of when I was in my late teens and twenties when I found it flattering.

Others though have said it made them feel uncomfortable.

I do agree though that it’s a different matter where schoolgirls are concerned.

What if they are wanting to have sex with you? Is that a crime? Or is it just the intimation that's the 'crime' (by which I mean offence rather than actual crime)?

These sorts of threads seem to divide people into "offendeds", "shruggers" (couldn't care lessers), and "enjoyers" (of the supposed compliment).

They would run a mile.

Groups of builders wolf whistling at a young woman in the street is a different phenomenon to paedophiles lurking either in public or online.

It's often bravado and showing off to their mates, and probably rather immature. It makes others uncomfortable but in all probability is not sinister.

I don't think that paedophiles would do this, it would draw attention to themselves.

I certainly regarded wolf whistles as a compliment, though rude comments always were and are still offensive.
Walking down the shopping mall with my beautiful eldest GD, it’s fun to see heads turn, but I guess some folk will find head-turning offensive too.

I hated getting wolf whistles,I was very shy and would go out of my way to avoid building sites ,that I had passed previously ,I would blush to the roots of my hair and would find it really embarrassing so I am really pleased they are now considered to be offensive.

Wolf whistling is offensive. I'd be horrified if it happened to my teenage DGD.

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