Acceptance

Greenfinch thank you for your understanding.

Oh no! this has gone down a sad alley.

Gramaretto your sentence "I probably won't visit my beloved NZ again" made me sad. I've recently come to the the same conclusion about visiting Australia once more, because of age and above all health issues. Then the following morning I'm a lot more positive and start making fresh plans again!

I have accepted lots of things in my life that arent as I'd like them but I appreciate the lovely family and happy life I have!

been separated for ten years and never met anyone else, accepted now that I am not meant to be with anyone and will spend the rest of my life single. I dont feel sorry for myself I just think some people are not meant to be in a couple. I look at the positives - doing what I want and not being accountable to anyone else

This is such a sad thread. Hugs to all who suffer

I don't make enough effort keeping up with people. DH is far better at it than I am and has kept up with all his friends, at least those he cares about.

I think you have to be a little thick skinned and not be scared of rejection.
Can I change? or should I accept?
I won't walk another marathon. I probably won't visit my beloved NZ again. I have not accepted anything yet.

Her Gp is good,the Glasgow pain clinic less than useless ,her husband works away 10 or 12 days out of 14 so she spends quite a lot of time trying to cope when she has neither the strength or the eneergy .She tells me she has accepted how her life is but mourns who she was just a few years ago.I can understand that completely,she was always busy ,ran two businesses ,did lots of voluntary work in the community.She has a heart of gold and life just isn't fair .

Thanks Greymar

Thank you for the kind words, I should have added that I am okay about the no contact, I do have other people in my life.

so sorry paddyanne, do you have good medical help?

Greymar she has fibro,joint mobility syndrom,polycystic ovaries,just about to go for surgery for a hand issue ,has gynae problems and it seems something new every week.She is in constant pain and it nreaks my heart .She has three beautiful children who need her and she's not in any state ,most of the time,to do anything with them.I'm just glad her Dad and I are fit and well and able to help most days .

Bluesky, it's not about complaining and your " thing" is every bit as valid.

After reading some of your stories I won't complain about my children and grandchildren living far away.

I have accepted my career is over but glad to still be here. I have accepted family circumstances. I am almost at peace with things, and it has deepened my faith.

I am still learning new things and enjoy a quite stress free life.

You have friends on here Rosenoir.
I have come to accept the friend who loved to spend hours of hospitality in our home,yet never reciprocated with an invite to hers.Who would go silent for weeks after I was the last to text suggesting a meet up and then come back saying hello stranger.And 'oh but you're so busy with your family'-when she knows I love any chance to escape for an hour or so - has problems I can't fix.

And you blossom14. Strokes are so cruel.

How difficult that must be for you JuliaM. It is so hard to see our children suffering.

Taking me almost to tears daily accepting my DH is slowly drifting into an invalid state of mind 2 years after a stroke. He has given up hope on himself.

I have to accept that 3 out of my 5 Daughters have suffered from long term serious health problems, one has already passed away, one is in remission from Cancer, and one has a serious long term condition that effects her Central nervous system and produces far too much spinal fluid around her brain.

Like lots of others on here, I have accepted that my sister and myself will never have a good relationship - she is my only family apart from my husband.
I will never be able to "make a difference" or be needed in the same way that I was when I was working.
I have accepted that I am a loner, never bothered me when I was so busy at work, now it is too late to do anything about it, I go to activiites and meet people there - it never develops into anything more, just the way things are.

It's been just over 7 years for us Zodiacdream; horrible isn't it.

Smileless2012, exactly like you. Had no contact with my eldest son for over 5 years. Never met my GC, very sad.

resonoir

Is it fibromyalgia paddyanne?

That helped me no end rosecarmel when our son estranged us. We've accepted our relationship with him is over and in all probability we'll never know our GC.

It still hurts though.