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How old were you when had your first born

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TrendyNannie6 Fri 28-Feb-20 10:43:53

I had my first child at 21 And loved every minute, even though I remember coming home from hospital after a week and thinking oh my goodness I hope I can do this, lol

dirgni Sat 29-Feb-20 12:54:43

Married at24 first baby at 26- far too young and immature as I had never even held a baby before and didn’t like them very much! However I loved children and as we all grew older together I felt very blessed.

Willow3 Sat 29-Feb-20 12:58:24

Wow. Everyone was so young back in the day. Married at 22, divorced at 25. Then worked as cabin crew and saw the world for 8 years. Then 2nd marriage and babies at 33 and 36. At the school gate most mums of my children's friends were much younger. However, having babies in your 30s is the normal now!

Pix5 Sat 29-Feb-20 13:16:59

Married at 30, first baby at 31. Second baby at 33. Granny at 59. My daughter in law’s mum is 39!!!

Dareyouto Sat 29-Feb-20 13:25:02

I was married at 18 and my first daughter arrived at 19 years and the second daughter, prematurely, at 20 years. I was a military wife living in Singapore when I had my first and there was no follow ups whatsoever but I was so happy and instinct kicked in. When my children were young were the very best days of my life. The marriage didn’t survive but we separated, fairly amicably, when the girls became independent. At the age of 40 I was single with no dependents and it suited me and I’ve remained single with my 2 daughters becoming my best friends. Financially it’s been tough but I always managed without going into debt but now my 70th birthday is on the horizon and I intend making changes but I have never, ever, regretted being such a young mother.

Braganza Sat 29-Feb-20 13:53:48

1st at 17, 2nd at 18, 3rd at 22, 4th at 23, 5th at 24, 6th at 30, 7th at 32, 3 miscarriages, 8th at 35, 9th at 38!!!
This was an amazing experience, although we were always skint. Looking from the perspective of current population and climate thinking, I couldn't possibly justify my behaviour.

Oopsadaisy3 Sat 29-Feb-20 13:56:21

* Braganza* I’m sure they are a joy to you, I’m amazed at your stamina.
I guess that with hindsight numbers might have been adjusted but they were different times weren’t they?
I’m sure you are very proud of your family.

nipsmum Sat 29-Feb-20 14:04:24

Married at 25 first daughter at 26. I was horrified to be told I was classed as elderly to have a first baby. I had my second at 29.. I was a nurse so I was used to looking after helpless babies and adults.

luluaugust Sat 29-Feb-20 14:07:04

Married at 19 first baby at 21 then a gap before the others arrived at 26 and 29.

Suzey Sat 29-Feb-20 14:17:00

Pregnant and married at 18

helgawills Sat 29-Feb-20 14:21:04

Married at 23, first signs of pregnancy on 20th anniversary. 44 when she was born.

Damdee Sat 29-Feb-20 14:26:02

Married at 19, nearly 20. First child four days before my 22nd birthday.

Destin Sat 29-Feb-20 14:26:06

Married at 21, first baby when I was 25, second when I was 30 - went back to teaching a regular weekly evening keep fit class in the area where we were living when our first was about 6 months old. In hindsight it was one of the best things I ever did. .....husband was in sole charge of our baby son (if only for an hour and a half a week) I got back into regular exercise and also enjoyed the social break with other like minded young mums. It was the start of a lifetime habit which has paid such dividends in the quality of my life over the years. Now, at the age of 77, I weigh just 6lbs more than I did when I was 21 and still feel strong and healthy. It’s a good feeling to still have the energy and desire to be out there supporting our five grandkids when they play in their team sports.

janzicb1 Sat 29-Feb-20 14:46:44

My first born was at 21 (almost 22)my second was a year later when I’d turned 23 my 3 was when I was 25. 4 th was when I was 33 and 5th at 34 - the difference in energy levels between twenties and thirties was very noticeable to me!!!

Ladyinspain Sat 29-Feb-20 14:53:02

I was 18 when my son - now 51 - was born. 2 daughters followed and now I’ve 4 great grandkids & 1 great granddaughter !

Snoopy66 Sat 29-Feb-20 14:58:52

Married at 19
First Baby 21
Second 24
Age 53 now
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Grany Sat 29-Feb-20 15:04:31

I married late at 30 I lived in Cornwall DH lived in Wiltshire
First daughter 31 second daughter 32

c6girls Sat 29-Feb-20 15:05:48

Married at 22
1st child 23, 2nd at 25, 3rd at 27, 4th at 29, divorced, then with new partner, children with him at 37 and 38!!! Definitely more relaxed with last two children

Dottynan Sat 29-Feb-20 15:10:32

Married at 29 years
First born 29 years
Second born 30 years

Seefah Sat 29-Feb-20 15:15:51

I’m amazed at how young everyone was when getting married. Quite a prolific lot of grannies and a lot of happiness. I had one accident at 29 who has turned out to the most perfect daughter ever. Tried to have more with 2nd husband at 44 but lost them.

Scrappydo Sat 29-Feb-20 15:29:13

30. I was the oldest woman at anti-natal, sitting with a load of girls 16-19 year olds☹️. Had my 2nd child 5 years later & was dreading going to anti-natal. How things change, I was the youngest there, it was full of career woman 40+ having their 1st child.?

SirChenjin Sat 29-Feb-20 15:41:19

I’m the same Seefah - I think it’s changed nowadays though, the average age of a first time mum is 30 iirc, which suggests people are leaving it till later to settle down nowadays.

Joesoap Sat 29-Feb-20 15:56:08

I was married at 26, first baby at 27 didnt waste any time.I had been a midwife and was expected to cope,didnt get much help at the Hospital, so I coped! Second child 31.

Skweek1 Sat 29-Feb-20 16:17:40

My best friend was 15, married the father and then went into teaching when her daughter reached school age. Then when daughter reached 15, her mum decided to have her second. I wouldn't have gone back into child rearing when I'd got freedom. I married at 25 and my godmother (a district nurse/midwife) kept telling me that I was an elderly primigravida! I had lots of miscarriages and finally an ectopic, but finished with 3 children by my two marriages/

BoBo53 Sat 29-Feb-20 16:23:31

Married at 22 first child at 26, second at 30 and third at 33. Second and third pregnancies and births were by far easier than the first. So involved with the grandkids now I don’t think I’ve ever stopped childcare. I love them all to bits but have little chance to claim my life back before it’s too late.

SpringyChicken Sat 29-Feb-20 16:31:17

Married at 21, first child at almost 36, second at almost 38. I would do the same way again, it kept us young and no money worries.