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How old were you when your parents died

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TrendyNannie6 Sun 01-Mar-20 15:18:59

I was 46.when my mum died she passed away first and 12 years later my dad died, I was 58, I was very close to both of them, had a happy childhood,Miss them every day, Although brought up quite strict looking back I am so glad I was,

poppycat07 Mon 02-Mar-20 20:46:31

my mum died aged 64, I was 34, 3 hours later I gave birth to my daughter, that was 1988. I was 65 last year and agree how strange that i am older than my mum was. dad died 2001 aged 82 they have never met any of their great grandchildren, all 12 of them, they would be so proud

Musicgirl Mon 02-Mar-20 20:44:44

My Dad died two years ago when l was 53 and he was 77. My Mum is still alive and in her late seventies and, thankfully, very healthy.

dizzyblonde Mon 02-Mar-20 20:38:01

Thirty six when my Mum died and 41 when Dad died. They were older parents, Mum was 42 when I was born, Dad was 44.

Jennyluck Mon 02-Mar-20 20:36:55

16 when my dad died and 41 when my mom died. My dad was ill all my life, I never new him being well. He was 43 when he died. Mom was 71.
I was an adopted child, so no siblings. My husband was also an only child, his parents died at the same age as mine.
My dad never went to my wedding or saw any of my children.
It’s fate that decides these things, but sometimes it doesn’t seem fair that other people have their parents for much longer. ?

sandye Mon 02-Mar-20 20:27:05

Im coming up 64, my dad died last week, he was 90 and had been suffering with dementia for a long time.My mum is still alive so I feel very lucky

JANH Mon 02-Mar-20 20:12:20

I was 64 when my mother died, aged 88 after a massive stroke.

Dad died 3 months later aged 90, when I was 65.

flowersfromheaven Mon 02-Mar-20 20:00:09

I was 24 and my sister was just turned 16 and I still miss my mum every day, I was 49 was my dad passed.

BusterTank Mon 02-Mar-20 19:50:57

I was 21 when my mum died with a 3 month baby . I fell apart so my husband had affairs . So he is now my ex husband . I was 38 when my dad died i was living in Spain at the time . It upset me but didn't effect me as much as when my mum died

Shizam Mon 02-Mar-20 19:37:32

I was 11 when my mother died. It’s a loss that haunts me still. My father died when I was 34, which was so sad. But a different grief. I had a child to adult relationship with him. One that I never to have with my mum. ?

watermeadow Mon 02-Mar-20 19:30:26

My father died young when I was just 20, my mother when I was 48. Nobody in my immediate family has lived into real old age yet they’ve all died from different causes, nothing which “runs in the family”.

Saggi Mon 02-Mar-20 19:30:02

I was 21 when my darling dad died...having been ill for ten years. My mother nursed him all that time, then she went on to live another 35 years. She was ‘on her own ‘ more years than she was married.... and she died at 92.

Susieq62 Mon 02-Mar-20 18:48:53

Mum died aged 85 and I was 64.
Dad died aged 89 and I was 63
Two huge losses within 18 months, both lived independently ( they divorced when I was 15). Both died in hospices, one in Hove one near here in Keighley.
Miss them both enormously but did not want either to suffer any further.

jocork Mon 02-Mar-20 18:46:16

My dad died when I was 20 but my mum lived on as a widow for another 35 years. My dad was 8 years older than my mum and died very young - at 54 - so Mum was 81 when she died. Sad to think she was married less time than she was a widow!

missdeke Mon 02-Mar-20 18:42:18

My dad died when I was 47, I'm lucky that at 72 I still have my mum, she will be 100 in May.

hulahoop Mon 02-Mar-20 18:39:22

My dad died when I was 4yrs old and my mum when I was 33yrs my children were only young so they don't remember her that well .

Gandalf Mon 02-Mar-20 18:25:37

35 when my mum died. She was only 62. I had two young children of 2 and 4 so it was a really hard time. Sold up and moved 150 miles into rented accommodation and DH found a new job in my home town so I could help look after her once her condition was diagnosed as terminal. She died. Six weeks after we moved.
Dad is still alive 19 years later aged 85, I am 54.
So sad she didn’t get to enjoy retirement or see her grandchildren grow up.

Mrsdof Mon 02-Mar-20 18:24:03

I was 17 when my Dad died of cancer at 52 and my Mum is still going strong at 101. She lives alone and looks after herself. I do her shopping for her but she still does her own cleaning, washing and cooking. She gets quite annoyed if I offer to do anything for her!

Mtc59 Mon 02-Mar-20 18:21:08

I lost my mum last year 2 days after my 60th birthday and my dad two years ago. My sister and I unfortunately have no children and we find ourselves feeling completely adrift now we have lost mum. My brothers are also grieving but have the distraction of their families to help. I miss my mum and dad every day and still find myself thinking” I ‘ll just ring mum” . Losing your parents changes life forever.

Moggycuddler Mon 02-Mar-20 18:15:39

I was 42 and they both died within 3 months of each other, both aged 81. My dad died of a sudden heart attack, and my mum died in a nursing home, where she had been for about 2 years suffering from Alzheimers, after a stroke.

Houseseller Mon 02-Mar-20 18:13:51

Mum died when I was 3 and DAd died when I was 6. Unfortunately i do not have any memories.

HillyN Mon 02-Mar-20 18:06:56

I was 33 when Dad died aged 63 and 47 when Mum died aged 70. Both quite young it seems to me now!

BoBo53 Mon 02-Mar-20 17:58:21

33, and just before my youngest son was born, when my Dad died. My Mum already had dementia and died 8 years later when I was 41. As an only child with three young kids it was a very difficult time.

Boolya Mon 02-Mar-20 17:54:42

Oh my darling Dad died suddenly aged 49 and my lovely Mum was 50, but was ill for about a year - I was 14 & 16 respectively. In between, when I was 15, our gorgeous boxer dog had to be put down as she had the doggy equivalent of aggressive breast cancer. I felt both numb and angry. There was no counselling in the 60s and as a result I am very self-sufficient. I have outlived them by 20+ years and been married for 3 times longer than they were. Just wish that they could have met their GC and GGC.

Shazmo24 Mon 02-Mar-20 17:50:25

My Dad died when I was 19 in 1980 & 6 months before I got married. My mum when I was 35 in 1997 My mum was 63..being an only child it was even harder despite having a husband and 2 children

Lupatria Mon 02-Mar-20 17:45:22

my mum died 1 january 2007 when she was 86 - 3 months before her 65th wedding anniversary. underlying cause of her death was bladder cancer which caused septecemia.
dad died 5 february 2008 when he was 87 - he'd had alzheimer's since 2006.
mum and dad were born 9 days apart and she always called him her toy boy.
i was 58 when mum died and 59 when dad died.
they would both be 100 in july this year and i miss them every day.