How old were you when your parents died

I was 51 when my mother died aged 75 and 57 when my father died aged 89. An aunt I was fond of, my mother's sister, died when I was 62 and she was a week away from her 89th birthday.

I miss them but felt they had had a good and long life.

My sister died on Ne'erday of 2016 when I was 64 and she 60 - that was much harder to accept. I miss her nearly every day still. I never liked the New Year, but now I am sad then.

I was 40 when my dad died and 50 when my mum died. I was also 54 when my husband died. I was 18 when one of my great grandmother’s died , 19 when I lost my grandfather and also one grandmother and 36 when my other grandmother died. I miss them all except my great grandmother who I only saw occasionally

My dear dear Dad died when I was 60 years old in 2018 . He was 88 .After reading all these stories it makes me realise I was so lucky to have him around me for 60 years . My Mums going to be 88 this year and still managing at home on her own

So sorry Downtoearth - how terribly sad.

I was 48 when my father died and 52 when my mother died. They were both 93. As the 'baby' of a spread out family, I feel fortunate that I was that old and had my parents for a long time. My eldest sister was 66 when daddy died. There are four of us sisters and we always talk about and miss our parents when we get together.

Father died before I was born,Mum when I was 68,she was ninety

29 When I lost my dad and 33 when I lost my mum. My youngest was two and I felt like an orphan, incredibly sad and at the same time untethered. No ones opinion to worry about. Quite freeng in a way - but I would have sold my soul to have them back. I still felt I needed my mum in particular. She's been very hands on wiht my elder children.

34 when dad died and 38 when mum died.

I was 7 years old when my father died and 41 when my mother died. My father dying so young caused enormous problems in our young lives as my mother remarried and, unfortunately, the new man was a sadistic bully and my mother was too frightened of him to protect myself and my 2 brothers. I have come to terms with it but my older brother still hasn’t accepted it.
My mother finally divorced him when she got to 63 but died a year later. What a waste of her life as she was finally happy again for that last brief year.

Mum died when I was 15, she took her own life at just 35. Dad died a few months ago

I was 60 when my mum died at 88 and I'm now 68 and have a 98 year old dad still around!

30 when my mum died and 38 when dad died. Both much missed.

21 when Mum died.She was only 55.I had a 2 year old.She died on 20th December and was buried on the Christmas Eve.Christmas was never the same.I feel so sorry that she had 7 Grandchildren in total and only saw 1 of them.And they missed out on such a wonderful,loving person in their lives.Dad died aged 79.I was 34.I had 3 children by then and they were distraught.My oldest aged 15 at the time locked himself away and sobbed for hours.

I never met my father, parents separated before I was born. My mother died when I was 60, just a few months after I retired.

8 when my dad died at 47 after having rheumatic fever as a child. 19 when mum died of cancer at 53. As others have said it does affect the rest of your life. Boyfriend now husband helped me through losing my mum and blessed to have 2 lovely children and 3 granddaughters.

I was 34 when my dad died.Still miss him so much.Mum is still here,she has never got over my dads death,if you met and spoke to her you would think he had recently died,not that he died nearly 26 years ago.

Callgirl1, sorry your father died when you were so young. Do you sometimes imagine him or wonder what your relationship could have been like? Hope you don’t mind me asking but I am aware of someone who has idealised their missing parent

I was 18 when Dad died, he went from apparently fit and well to dead of cancer in 3 weeks at the age of 56 immense shock to us all. I was fortunate that Mum lived to 101 and died when I was 65, so grateful to have had her so long but the final couple of years of her life were blighted by dementia.

late 20`s dad
early 30`s mum

I am coming on 84 in June, two ds! what a time they will have, I tend to think we are close.

dh died just before Christmas, and we are all sooooo grieving.
perhaps they will be used to death when I go..

I was 53 when my much loved dad died of a cardiac arrest. He lived for three days on life support but sustained massive brain damage. He was taken off the machines on the third day, and died in the early hours of the morning. It was a huge shock and I still struggle with it now, nearly three years later. Dad was a lovely kind, funny, man, I miss him everyday.

I've been lucky - I still had both parents when I was in my late 50-60s.
Dad died when I was 58, Mum when I was 66. At the time we had come to live near them after all our travels.
(though we went off again afterwards.)

30 when dad died of cancer. 31 when mum died of a heart attack. I so envy people who had their parents around longer.

I was 30/31 when my dad died and 45 when my mum died. Mum's health had suffered after losing my dad and she never got over losing him. It's dreadful to see someone with a broken heart as there's nothing you can do to help with that depth of suffering.

I've missed them both many a time in my life and though it was a strict household it was also an idyllic lifestyle and us as children never went without anything. Always lovely meals clean beds and fresh towels---- things you remember most.

There were a couple of ‘sex’ question threads started a while back, started by different usernames not familiar to me.

I was amazed at how much personal, private details people were willing to give in their posts on those threads.

I was 19 when my died died at the age of 57 from cancer. My mam was devastated and I had to help her with the funeral arrangements. Sadly I had got married, against their wishes at the age of 18, something which I will always regret. Mam lived until she was 99 years old and that was back in 2009. I miss them both so much and I always will as I had a brilliant childhood. My mam was a brilliant mam and fantastic gran to my 3 children.

Glad you're not worried, janea.

I don't think there's anything really untoward about a bit of apparently harmless nosiness. Seems a lot of posters feel that too, since they've responded.

No-one has to reply so no problem is my take.