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How old were you when your parents died

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TrendyNannie6 Sun 01-Mar-20 15:18:59

I was 46.when my mum died she passed away first and 12 years later my dad died, I was 58, I was very close to both of them, had a happy childhood,Miss them every day, Although brought up quite strict looking back I am so glad I was,

janeainsworth Sun 01-Mar-20 18:35:26

You seem to have started quite a few threads over the last few days Trendynannie6.
Why do you want to know how old people were when their parents died, or they had their first child?

Grannyboots1 Sun 01-Mar-20 18:25:30

34 when my mother died and 66 and my father died at 90.

Nortsat46 Sun 01-Mar-20 18:23:34

Yes, this is a sad thread.

I was 20 when my mum died (aged 60) and 30 when my dad died (aged 77)
Bless them.

Also thinking of Mommawolf’s family today, after the tragic news we heard on the Good Morning thread, this morning.

ninathenana Sun 01-Mar-20 18:15:35

After trying for our first baby for many years. It is so sad that my dad died 2 yrs to the day before our daughter was born. I was 33. My nan said he had "past over to make way for her" sad
I was 59 when mum died.

Chardy Sun 01-Mar-20 18:12:36

Dad 33
Mum 62

dragonfly46 Sun 01-Mar-20 17:53:47

I was 72 when my dad died 18 months ago and my mum will be 100 in September!

Scribbles Sun 01-Mar-20 17:53:30

34 when my mother died and 43 when my father died. Mom was in her 50s and Dad was 68; it slightly freaks me out that now I am older than either of them.

grannyqueenie Sun 01-Mar-20 17:48:17

My dad died at 71 when I was 27, I will always be sad that he didn't live to see all my children born. My mother died at 78 when I was 39, I’m an only child and it felt far too young to be an “orphan”. Even after all these years there are still times when I miss having them here.

oldgimmer1 Sun 01-Mar-20 17:24:13

30 when my father died and 44 when my mother died. They were 61 and 75.

Grannybags Sun 01-Mar-20 17:23:29

30 when my Dad died aged 79
59 when my Mum died aged 97, eight years ago

My Mum lived with us for the last four years of her life and I miss her every day

polyester57 Sun 01-Mar-20 17:21:45

I was 53 when my dad died, aged 80, and 60 when my mother followed, aged 88. My mother-in-law is still going strong at 90 and her eldest child, my SIL, is 68. I know a lady, who is herself 80 and in very poor health and her mother is 104, living in a home. Talk about the sandwich generation! It is at least a double decker. I was 43 when my grandmother died.

Ellianne Sun 01-Mar-20 17:12:55

I was 25 when both my mum and dad died in the same year. They never lived to see any grandchildren and I found that hard.

Framilode Sun 01-Mar-20 17:10:25

I was 39 when my Dad died and 43 when my Mum went. They were both 70, which seems quite young now.

JuliaM Sun 01-Mar-20 16:55:07

I was 32 when my Mum passed away from Breast cancer, and still a teenager when she was first diagnosed. My Dad remarried within the same year, and l was heartbroken at the way he had replaced her so quickly, and expected me to be Ok about it. It was quite a few years until l spoke to him again, but if im honest, l never did forgive him for what he did, and neither did my Mums sisters. Hes still alive now, 92 this year and living in a care home, the step mother died two years ago, but l seldom had contact with either of them over the years.

rafichagran Sun 01-Mar-20 16:45:13

In my early thirties.

Bellasnana Sun 01-Mar-20 16:41:56

Oh what a lot of sad stories. ?

My father died aged 58 when I was 9 years old.

Mum lived until she was 92 and I was 55. She outlived one of her three daughters, my sister was 54 and mum 87 at the time.

Annie26 Sun 01-Mar-20 16:37:55

I was 34 when my Mum died and my Dad died 2 years later both in their sixties. As an only child with young children myself it wasn't an easy time. However they had a happy few years with their three Grandchildren.

HurdyGurdy Sun 01-Mar-20 16:33:03

13 when my dad died, aged 49

40 when my mum died, aged 79

Curlywhirly Sun 01-Mar-20 16:29:23

Never really had a dad, he beggared off when I was a few weeks old (he died about 8 years ago aged I think about 90, not too sure of the details) my Mum died aged 68, I was 32. She had a really hard life and never really got over my dad leaving her with 3 small children.

Charleygirl5 Sun 01-Mar-20 16:26:09

Very early 30's- not long married. Mum died first and dad 19 days later.

Ninarosa Sun 01-Mar-20 16:23:25

Yes, death is certainly a most random business. My lovely Mam lived to be fifty eight having had cardio vascular disease from her forties, I was eighteen and just getting to know her really. Dad lived to be eighty five but was lost to me since I was a youngster, having been a philanderer of the first order.
I often wonder why he wept buckets at her funeral as he had a string of other women throughout their marriage.

Cherrytree59 Sun 01-Mar-20 16:18:23

I was 29, my sister just turned 21 when our 54 year old mother died.
Strange feeling knowing that I am now 'older' than mother

I was seven days off 56 when my father died at 84yrs.

BlueSky Sun 01-Mar-20 16:13:58

32 when my dad died and 35 with mum, they had married late in life but were really only 65 and 75, which I thought was still relatively young. They seem very young now I'm 70!

TerriBull Sun 01-Mar-20 16:06:38

I was 47 when my dad died, he was late 70s, almost 80 but had a lot of health issues, type 1 Diabetes, Rheumatoid Arthritis, I believe he actually died from Peritonitis. We had a difficult relationship he was very irascible and a somewhat over zealous catholic who never really came to terms with my divorce. My mother died when I was 55 eight years later, I treasure those one to one years we had together when she was a widow, I couldn't have asked for a better mother. The last day I saw her we'd just returned from Canada, I was really tired and nearly put off that final day together, so glad I didn't she died the next day of heart failure.

Some people have such a good innings in comparison to others, luck of the draw I guess. Another sad day that resonated with me was when I accompanied my husband round the M 25 to tell my late father in law, my step son had died suddenly, this was something my husband felt he couldn't convey to his father over the phone as he was quite deaf and wouldn't wear his hearing aids, (stubborn) Couldn't help thinking why??? A wonderful young man, husband and father drops dead, from a condition he didn't know he had and a fairly difficult and quite selfish 90 something still going strong sad

GrandmaMoira Sun 01-Mar-20 15:51:48

I was 28 when my mother died and 50 when my father died. I felt my father dying at 80 was in the normal way of things but my mother was still in her 50s and did not get to retirement or to enjoy her grandchildren, none of whom knew her.