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How old were you when your parents died

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paddyanne Sun 01-Mar-20 15:41:44

My Dad died 6 weeks before my 40th birthday .He went for fish for his and mums dinner and died in the high street ,Mum never really came to terms with him "leaving her" she cut herself off from the world and only wanted my sisters and I .Even my little GS wasn't welcome and she thought I shouldn't be helping out with him ,just looking after her .
Mum died 12 and a half years later she had never been a healthy woman always had breathing issues from when she was a girl and steroids were prescibed long term.They caused a lot of other health issues including osteoperosis and eventual heart falure .I was with her right until her last breath .I dont miss her in the same way I miss my dad ,maybe because I never got to say goodbye to him

jura2 Sun 01-Mar-20 15:39:53

58- both died within months of each other (aged 96 and 94)

SueDonim Sun 01-Mar-20 15:37:05

Dad died after a short illness when I was 43 and he was nearing 92. My mum has outlived him as she is herself 92yo and still in her own home with no help except for a weekly cleaner.

It’s nearly 50 years since I left home so I can’t truthfully say I miss my dad now. I have fond memories, of course. His own parents died when he was 4/10 years old and so there is a gap in family lore which has become larger to me as the years go by.

Calendargirl Sun 01-Mar-20 15:31:13

19 when Dad died, he collapsed one morning with a heart attack. Huge shock, first funeral I had ever attended.
51 when Mum died. She was 92, had enjoyed a long, simple but fairly happy and healthy life. Had been a widow much longer than a wife.
Dad never saw me married, or any grandchildren, but Mum lived to be a great grandma.
Good parents, always missed.

SirChenjin Sun 01-Mar-20 15:30:21

Dad died a couple of weeks ago - I’m almost 51. Mum died 8 years ago when I was almost 43. I feel like I’ve lost them both at quite a young age compared to my friends - I hope this doesn’t determine when I die sad

anniezzz09 Sun 01-Mar-20 15:30:14

Seven when my father died, twenty three when my mother died. Parentless nearly all my life with huge implications. Makes me determined to be there for my children as long as I possibly can be.

BlueBelle Sun 01-Mar-20 15:25:24

I was lucky my mum and dad lived to 90 and 92 but both died the same year A huge shock to me Dad had been well up to a few weeks before dying Mum had the last seven to ten years with Alzheimer’s so a very very difficult end
So in answer to your question I was about 67 but probably about 57 when I lost the mum I knew bless her

GrannySomerset Sun 01-Mar-20 15:25:14

My father died when I was four, having been ill and in hospital for over a year. My only memory of him is being made to leave the table for not behaving properly. Very sad. I was sixteen when my mother died very suddenly, turning my life upside down and my future not at all what had been planned or anticipated.

Over fifty sixty years on I still think of my mother to whom I was very close. I was lucky to have very good friends and to have married the best of men, so although different my life was certainly not a disaster. Sometimes terrible things can be the making of us.

mumofmadboys Sun 01-Mar-20 15:24:52

54 when Dad died and 56 when Mum died

TrendyNannie6 Sun 01-Mar-20 15:18:59

I was 46.when my mum died she passed away first and 12 years later my dad died, I was 58, I was very close to both of them, had a happy childhood,Miss them every day, Although brought up quite strict looking back I am so glad I was,