Old fashioned or fair.

I was a full time mum back in the 70’s. I did all the housework, cooking, I baked every weekend, I did everything to do with the house and children. Because that was my job

When I returned to work, part then full time, DH helped out more.

Now we’re both retired, I suppose I do most of the housework, he gardens, cooks as well, but it is mainly shared.

Yes, if you’re at home all day, it’s up to you to run the house really, and not expect your working partner to do a lot.

It's his attitude which is worrying too.
He should not be such an wimp.

The reverse can be true too, though. We have a friend who has a more than full-time, stressful job. Her husband worked as and when, not full-time.
Both seem fairly happy, though, that the house is always in chaos.
The DC is most definitely not neglected.

Oh I know a couple like this they have lovely big house 2 children at school.He works in the city. She does absolutely nothing all day long, he does it all after and before a days work. When I ask my friend (her relative) about the poor husband she says he’s 1 in a million he never complains never pulls her up on anything he just gets on and does it. To me that’s one selfish woman who has no respect for her husband or what he provides.

I don't think it's necessarily a new thing. My grandmother was pretty lazy. My mum started doing things for herself at quite a young age because otherwise they wouldn't have been done at all. My grandfather did a lot of the jobs.

My MIL was like that. Never did a days work since she married.... dad worked all his life to come home to a mess... although she did cook... she never made / or changed a bed..... never did ironing ....never swept /hoovered . And my husband took after her . He gave up work at 50.... I had to go full-time.... I’d come home to nothing done. Apple didn’t fall far from that tree. I hated her idleness as I hate my husbands

Vampirequeen we are all entitled to our opinion but is it any of our business?

Are the children at risk? If so by all means alert the appropriate agencies.
Is there a Public Health risk? Likewise.

But otherwise....

Is it your/our business?

None of us know the full story so I wouldn't dream of commenting

Her husband needs to grow some.

No she's definitely not ill in any way, shape or form. She's simply bone bloody idle.

Appearances may be deceptive vampirequeen the lady in question may have some hidden disability or be depressed. We don't know the full story.
I agree with curlywhirly whichever partner is at home all day should do most of the housework. I think even now there is evidence to show that women do far more child care and chores than their male partners. Obviously this does not apply to everyone.

I don't think it is your attidue that makes you cross, it is her attitude. If she doesn't work, then the lazy so and so should get off her backside and do some housework! But this really isn't about equality - the reverse should happen if the woman worked and the man was home all day - I would expect him to clean, do the laundy, cook etc.

The lady you mention can't have much respect for her partner if she is happy to do nothing all day whilst he has a full-time job and then comes home and has to get stuck in. She is taking the mick, the poor chap needs to toughen up or leave the cheeky madam!