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Another moan about husbands - sorry!

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Luckylegs Mon 30-Mar-20 13:45:12

I do hope Grandad isn’t lurking to leap onto this thread but I really have to let off steam somehow. I’m in the vulnerable group and my husband is looking after me wonderfully but he’s driving me mad literally!

I made a shopping list and he’s been shopping but decided what he would get, not necessarily what I wanted! He’s now returned and obsessively taking everything out of their packets and rewrapping them in cling film! Biscuits! They’ll all go soft immediately! He insisted on going to Booths which is very expensive compared to Aldi and doesn’t have everything I wanted. I know, I know this is terrible of me moaning about it but he is driving me mad. Please tell me I’m not on my own and I won’t get told off?

TerriBull Mon 30-Mar-20 18:58:21

I'm glad you recognise that David, but agreeing with wimmin' is contrary to rules and regulations set out by the Chartered Institute of The Regulation of Misandry and quite honestly, your stance suggests that you will be precluded from ever applying to such a body. Not that there's room for two Officers on this site. I hate to tell you this, but the present one has all avenues covered. Possibly he may have room for an apprentice but I wouldn't build up your hopes. Even though he works tirelessly in the haulage industry and keeps us up-to-date with his work and how Health and Safety plays a pivotal role in his day to day life. He is also able to give us exceedingly interesting glimpses into his domestic set up, bite size, but nevertheless tantalising snippets such as cleaning out the gutters, where Mrs Grandad plays a pivotal role in shaking the ladder in holding the ladder steady to ensure the health and safety of our very own Misandry Officer. He never goes for over load, always aware that he should give his followers a desire to read more and perhaps lead these stroppy women away from their shrewish behaviour and misandristic attitudes. My advice, shadow him for a while to get the feel of the role. His are big shoes to fill and Rome wasn't built in a day smile

Davidhs Mon 30-Mar-20 18:23:15

Calli & Terri
You are both spot on!?

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 18:03:04

Terribull
grin

Davidhs I like a man who knows which side his bread is buttered (or margarined depending on whether or not he got the shopping wrong again)
wink

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 17:59:48

Davidhs she sounds like a woman with great foresight, hang on to her!

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 17:57:35

merlotgran thank you so much for that, I am going to send it to DD.

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 17:55:42

I'm not perfect either.
I couldn't find the three puzzle pieces he was searching for.

Callistemon Mon 30-Mar-20 17:53:55

I vacuumed and dusted upstairs today and cleaned the bathroom.
However, I had some trouble with the Dyson which was clogged up with fluff so I spent ages defluffing it. By then my shoulder was aching so DH volunteered to clean our bedroom.

I heard the vacuum going to and fro then he came downstairs with the anti-static duster thingy and I said 'thank you so much (why?). I presume you dusted too?'

'Oh no, was I supposed to'?

Txquiltz Mon 30-Mar-20 17:43:59

Asking DH to do the shopping is a prescription for amazement. The list usually names some fish, a small amount of red meat, carrots, celery and a dozen eggs. Somehow he takes that to mean a red fish (like shrimp), a joint large enough to feed 8, potatoes ("I don't like carrots"),
2 onions, no eggs, and a large package of cookies. Since he is a diabetic and I'm constantly on a diet I have no clue who will eat the cookies.

At the end of the day, he tried and I placed a delivery order.?

SirChenjin Mon 30-Mar-20 17:42:46

No point

SirChenjin Mon 30-Mar-20 17:42:09

Are the three men on here interchangeable, I wonder? hmm

Women are not ‘perfect all the time’ - don’t be silly. The clue to the subject of this thread is in the title David - and at nopoint has anyone on here claimed to be perfect. The fact that Lucky feels she has to apologise in case the Misandry Official appears is really worrying - I hope sincerely that it was a tongue in cheek apology.

Agree with everything you’ve said there Terribull

sodapop Mon 30-Mar-20 17:39:11

Excellent idea N&G

Davidhs Mon 30-Mar-20 17:25:52

Misandry, that’s a word I didn’t expect to see and I dont expect to see it often because women are perfect and men are always wrong.

NanaandGrampy Mon 30-Mar-20 16:46:45

Just as an aside to Nonogran , my daughter is taking this time at home with the little boys to add ‘life lessons’ to the educational agenda .

For the 5 year old this has involved how to stack a dishwasher properly and how to clean the bathroom so far ( both of which he enjoyed) and the 8 yr old has done budgeting for shopping ( going online and putting the right groceries in the trolley as per the list AND getting the best deal) and how to select the right programme on the washing machine!!

Brilliant idea in my opinion - they’ll make smashing husbands ?

EllanVannin Mon 30-Mar-20 16:44:55

Get Real !!

TerriBull Mon 30-Mar-20 16:41:58

Having read through the thread, I felt I should post a Misandry Officer alert.

He'll be along for sure, and for those not familiar, these sort of posts trigger a red mist descending on our very own finger wagging mansplainer. To his credit, he tries to internalise the red mist but sometimes triggered by the Sunday joints, and we ain't talking meat they simply can't be contained within, a bit like Mount Etna they have been known to bubble up deep from within and in really bad instances, usually triggered by one of Phoenix's Mr P threads, he has been known to explode out of through his peaked cap in a sort of ghastly "Incredible Hulk" moment shock Not for the faint hearted!

So be afraid, very afraid, because he can unleash hell!! Threats of sharing all the hate, bile and man hating posts through his Whatsapp group, laid bare for a couple of blokes he knows in Somerset for the wider world to see just how far down the misandry slope we are slipping here on GN

Davidhs Mon 30-Mar-20 16:33:46

Funnily enough I have the opposite problem in a small way.
For a couple of years I have been doing all the domestic activities, shopping, cooking, laundry and the rest, now I have a new partner she has gradually taken over, a shopping list gets expanded by at least 50%, the cupboards and freezer are full to overflowing - this was before C19.

Whatever I say makes no difference, it’s something I’m going to tolerate, as she tolerates my imperfections, it’s called “getting on”, why do women complain all the time?.

BlueSky Mon 30-Mar-20 15:18:54

Merlotgran and EllanVannin grin

Nonogran Mon 30-Mar-20 15:09:01

I wish our partners could stop behaving like a six year old! There's no "bless them" about it. Sorry but I find it highly irritating. Women weren't born knowing how to cook, clean, iron, care for kids, follow a list, contingency plan and all those other tasks we can't trust our other halves to do properly. We had to learn it. It's pathetic. I just wish that they'd "engage" and understand where Grandma is coming from. However, in mitigation, the other half who is being particular in the thread above about bringing shopping into the house clearly has a point regarding C19 on the groceries. I've found the video a later Gran posted, very helpful. Thank you.

LaRia44 Mon 30-Mar-20 14:56:31

He Shouts at you! You poor thing

EllanVannin Mon 30-Mar-20 14:55:24

My dad was the one. Mum was laid up with a bad cold and the dreaded bronchitis that she used to get so sent dad to the shop for a " dolly blue " ( clothes whitener ) she'd stressed what she wanted and he returned with-- a packet of balloons !
Brother and I were delighted, after we'd stopped laughing. smile

merlotgran Mon 30-Mar-20 14:54:23

The last time I asked DH to shop in Tesco while I popped into the watch repair place in the car park I went in to find him puzzling over the shopping list. He told me he couldn't find any Polish milk even though he'd been up and down the Eastern European aisle a dozen times.

I know his eyesight is poor but if he'd looked a bit closer he'd have seen I'd written polish, milk, etc., etc., grin

Teetime Mon 30-Mar-20 14:49:44

Love that merlotgran.

luckylegs it is difficult isn't it especially when you know he is trying hard but still managing to annoy you. My Dh is being very good so far keeping busy doing jobs banging on endlessly about exercise (he was an athlete and has always kept fit) and that he has put on a couple of pounds. Looks fine to me. Going to stuff a Hot Cross Bun in him now.

BlueSky Mon 30-Mar-20 14:48:28

Can't really complain about DH. He does little annoying things but I'm sure I do equally little annoying things myself. I had to laugh when another poster mentioned that they seem puzzled by the word 'Pots' on shopping lists and return without the much needed potatoes and I can relate. A sense of humour is needed at this trying time! grin

merlotgran Mon 30-Mar-20 14:42:44

I posted this on another thread but I think it's appropriate on here as well. grin

Roses Mon 30-Mar-20 14:38:37

Lucky legs My husband died twenty years ago, but I can still remember how he drove me crazy when we were cooped up together
I really feel for you can you sit with some headphones on or go for a little lie down with a good book.