Anyone else scared

Wow! Just Wow!
Are we mature adults who have weathered the storms of post-war Britain, raised families, worked hard, overcome financial, emotional and relationship blips, illness, bereavement, divorce, moving homes...and now too scared to go out...
Surely not. Good heavens.

further to my previous, do you have a radio by the bed, or i guess you can get it on internet.
i set mine to go off after 45 mins, and hope that i am asleep by then. often i have to re set it, or i am too lazy, as its a bit fiddly so i just leave it on.
i find if i have it on too low, that it keep me awake; it may be i am straining to hear it. i listen mostly to phone-ins, or radio 4 extra or world service. on internet there is also angel radio, run by some delightful amateurs on the south coast, which plays all the oldies, from way back.
i am rambling.
i view shopping with some apprehension. have realised i probably have enough to eat if i really look and don't be fussy. long-life milk, cereal, tinned mandarins, tinned fish, cous-cous, packet soup, crackers, cheese, meatless meatballs.
so my plan is to go as long as i can without shopping. and probably tidy up a bit. i tend to buy things and then forget about them, some will have to be ditched, but most can be used. saves money too.
could you set yourself some kind of challenge, not onerous, but like i wonder if i could manage a short walk, then a bit longer, or a bit of tidying, or something, anything really.
and keep in touch with us here. good luck.

hello seastar, you still up ?
like me, often have difficulty getting to sleep, then late rising, and nothing seems to get done.
what sort of things do you eat, or never eat.
i had cornflakes with greek yogurt, so as to use up some blueberries, thrown on top, which i bought when i last went shopping, over 2 weeks ago.
nil desperandum, stella maris.

I'm scared. I've been out shopping today and outside there were 2m markers which people followed but once inside it was like a free for all in the supermarket - ASDA. It was frightening. I can't get a slot for home delivery. Each time I try there are none available.
I have no family or friends and neighbours don't check on me. I'm getting lower and lower in mood and I suffer from depression anyway. My doctors surgery is poor. I sleep through the days as my sleeping at night is erratic and filled with horrible dreams. I'm eating poorly as I can't bring myself to cook or look after myself. I'm living on banana sandwiches and coke cola. I feel as though my life is over. I don't tell anyone because where I live they lock you up in a building until you feel better and let you out but your problems have not been addressed. I'm really low and the lockdown has compounded the problem. I can't see people getting better with the lockdown. I think that as soon as its over, if that ever happens, people will quickly revert back to type. It makes me wonder "what's the bloody point?"

I am not really scared. Just careful about wiping down surfaces etc. Recovering from cancer I am classed as high risk but I still go out for exercise. Luckily we live quite remotely so can walk with dog without meeting anyone most days. Partner has to shop every two weeks but that is a risk we have to take as no delivery where we are. Had to cancel GC visit at Easter which is upsetting but hopefully it will be Ok again by July. No point in worrying as life will come at you whatever you do.

Yes , it is frightening. I am fortunate to live in a supportive community in a fairly rural area, to have a largish house and garden and a husband to share them with. Yesterday was the first time for two weeks that I went further than my own feet could carry me; we drove to town and did some shopping. I was glad to get out, but felt relieved when we got home. We tackled shops separately; I queued for the supermarket, he for the butcher.

To overcome the feeling of powerlessness, I have joined a Covid-19 Mutual Aid group, which offers prescription collection and delivery by volunteers and companionship by phone to people who just want someone to chat to. Even if you are housebound you can volunteer to chat! If you use Gransnet, you do online; there may be a local group in your area. I am helping research: I downloaded the Zoe COVID tracker app (I have just failed to paste a link, but it is real science, out of Kings College Hospital). And I have learned to Zoom.

Than you everyone for your support to me I’ve settled down now and we’ve both had a good sleep don’t think I’ll be taking too much drastic action against my husband it’s my problem so I’ll just have to do my best and not worry too much there's more out there more worse off than me but carry on i must I need him so much I’m still recovering from a stroke and on the whole he does Wonders for me a better carer you won’t get.

So sorry for those who have now got additional worries and sorrow to cope with. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Sending you a very gentle hug.

Onelife. You really are making an awful lot of assumptions. A number of forum members volunteer regularly and also provide child care for their families which in turn allows their children to work.

Bullying and hectoring people under any circumstances is unacceptable and lecturing people who have found a safe space to express their anxiety is unkind and unnecessary.

I am sure you will be canonised once this is all over!?

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Merlot, we speak on the phone most days, but I also have a camera in here that he can access on his phone, so he can see us, and we can talk through it as well. Trouble is, I can`t see him, I don`t have one of those fancy new fangled phones, Id be lost if I had, not being technically minded.

My DS’s supervisor has died . He is distraught and his anxieties are becoming out of control .

My dad made a good point tonight . The older people who are isolated might come out of this okay, but what about the young ones who are doing all the caring ?

I'm so sorry you have this worry callgirl. I thought your post about Jakemans yesterday was a wonderful example of gestures that strengthen and hearten us in these awful times.

Are you in touch with your son via messenger, Skype or similar? Try and stay positive although it's easy for me to say that.

Best Wishes.

I wasn`t scared, was prepared to brave it all out, but now I`m scared for my son. He`s already battling lung cancer with only one working lung, but yesterday he was told that he has contracted the coronavirus. He feels terrible, and I do because I can`t help.

Elizabeth1 on the other hand you could just say if he doesn’t stop you’ll report him to the Police.
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Or your doctor.
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It’s serious and you are at risk. x

Really sorry paddyane, you have more than enough on your plate.

*paddyanne+

Two of my sons friends lost their mothers yesterday to the virus.We are in a small town and it certainly brings it home to you.Both women were in their 50's my son is very shaken by the news as he has known these women since he was in primary school .To be honest I was quite stressed by it too as one only lived a few hundred yards from us .I'm just glad my allergy symptoms have been around for weeks or I'd have been scared witless.

Elizabeth1, do you have a relative or friend who could speak to him bluntly about the risks he is taking and the real fear he is causing to you?
It might be effective coming from someone else.

elizabeth1 do you live in a house? Can you take the upstairs and leave him downstairs? Or he takes upstairs and you downstairs? Failing that I would seriously entertain the idea of locking him out, leave a bag on the doorstep with some clothes, toiletries etc. Leave him a note saying what you have said here and tell him to find somewhere else to stay for the duration. Of course, you can say all this and when he has go the message let him back in. I think he needs to have a short sharp shock to bring him to his senses. Good luck. Keep us updated with what happens please.

harryfletcher I’m so sorry that your husband died so recently. My husband died 15 months ago and some days I feel okay then others I’m crying over a stupid advert. I am sure you are right that he is better off out of it, but it is very hard isn’t it to cope with all this turmoil on your own. As others have said to me just go day by day, hour by hour and minute by minute if you need to. Sending you best wishes and hoping you can keep safe.

@52Bright & @Hetty58
I can hardly wait for the Independent Inquiry/Royal Commission investigation into how BoJo et all dealt with this calamity.

I'm betting that what comes out will surprise and shock.

Urmstongran, divorce is a little drastic, isn't it? I'd just lock him out and insist he lives in the garage, shed or car!

Condolences HarryFletcher on your loss ?
Elizabeth1 I can feel your fear. I’d be terrified. Forget cajoling - tell him if he doesn’t desist you’re going to divorce him when this is all over. For you ?

I'm apprehensive but not scared.In many ways I am feeling better than I did before this started.My husband died 5 months ago and my days were miserable but the covid19 has taken over and his death somehow has been overshadowed.I still miss him but he is not continuously in my thoughts.He had a very severe lung condition ,on oxygen 16 hours a day,progressive dementia ,careers twice a day,diabetic and other health issues.He could not have coped with this,so I am relieved that he died before this started.

I’m scared senseless when my dh insists on going into shops or the local pharmacist even when he’s deemed at high risk He knows well we have loads of support from others and we’re not short of food or anything. He’s a law unto himself and won’t heed what risk he might be bringing in to me. I’m at high risk too. We’re at war most times with each other and no amount of cadjoling will cease his wanderings what am I to