Anyone else scared

Froglady
No matter what we can / must not do there is no getting away from the fact we are 'at war' This time unlike no other war our enemy is 'invisible' and would like to think every one of us are putting our efforts and energy into the now as there will be no 'when it ends' world to be thinking about.

OP you are not being stupid. I havent been out for a couple of weeks and I think I'm becoming agrophobic because the thought of going out now and encountering people scares me. I am also becoming obsessive with hand washing so my hands are now very dry and wrinkly I can't help but wonder what this is all doing for the mental health of everyone.

I'm a worrier anyway & I have fibromyalgia so my panic scales are off the chart BUT I'm doing my best not to be too pessimistic. Unfortunately I'm currently in the Dr's car park waiting to be seen about something very nasty that ,after a phone call, the Dr wanted to see me about. I'm in terror out here waiting & planning how I'll cope during & after the consultation....

To answer Gwenisgreat1 I really hope that we will come out of this to a kinder society where people have learned to look after each other and their neighbours and where we can all count our blessings to still be here.
I think we will.

I am quite worried about shopping and potentially becoming infected with this awful virus.

Doing our shopping this morning at Tesco, there was a small queue getting in the store and I was surprised how many people were wearing masks.

Usually my husband comes in with me, but he had to stay in the car as you are supposed to shop on your own. Tesco have adopted a one-way system, and you have to go down all the aisles, even those you didn't usually go down. There was a small problem as I had forgotten an item which was several aisles back. One of the assistants had to go back to get the item for me, although she was very helpful about it.

When we returned home, we wiped everything down and thoroughly washed our hands.

The other worry is that our son (who lives with us) is still working, he is a key worker. We are quite concerned about him potentially bring the virus in.

What really bothers me is what we will find at the other side - and whether I will see it!

It’s good to chat on here, I feel better reading replies tbh. The reply about police made me feel the same. Even exercising I feel so guilty. I do hope the government are very aware of mental health in this. To stay of meds some of us are out a lot with friends, exercising more than we are allowed now and even counselling which we can’t have. I worry about people stuck in tiny accommodation and losing their jobs,

I'm worried because it seems the govt don't know what they're doing regarding testing and protective equipment. It's alright to say one thing but the reality reports in the newspapers tell a completely different story and we're still allowing planes from places with high incidence of Covid-19 to land here. We're all doing our bit and self isolating why can't we rely on the govt to do their job effectively.

It is definitely scary and I am very far from a worrier, this is probably the worst threat I have lived through and I spent thirty years in the RN with service in NI, The Falklands, Lebanon and the Cod wars. This is definitely NOT something to take lightly. Obey the rules and, if at all possible, as we say in the Navy, “batten down for heavy weather ahead”

I find shopping horrible just now. I dont feel like going alone so insist DH comes too. I've heard they may stop couples from shopping. When we get home I unpack the bags then leave them in the car so any germs will die over time. Then wipe down the door handles we've touched, then finally wash hands thoroughly. I'm going to throw our coats in the washing machine today as we wear them to the shops.

I try to not watch much tv, if I can get food and exercise and steer clear of too many updates I have noticed I feel better. I try to also think of the population amount in UK to the percentage affected, well it works for me a bit. I think also, what’s making it worse for me is very nosy neighbours who seem to exploit the term once a day but would pick up on what I am doing wrongly.

Sweden deaths going rapidly up. Yes I am scared - it isn’t the fear of death so much (and Doctor friends say that the ongoing damage to the lungs may make surviving and living pretty painful) but that our lives are so wrecked. And the reason for the panic is not the deaths but the swamping, world wide, of medical facilities with those who need treatment so that other treatments can not happen. My brain MRI is postponed, so is the review of nerve damaged during an operation, a friend’s kidney transplant has been indefinitely postponed (she has a living donor) and her kidney function is near critical. My friend’s hip replacement indefinitely postponed, and another dodgy mole can’t be seen by dermatology. My daughter is sick in bed with moderate Covid symptoms so her little children are isolated from her and husband cannot work. And in India there is the biggest movement of people on the move since Partition, people rushing to the countryside because there is not enough shelter and food in the cities. What deaths there are, are on top of existing mortality, seen the body bags in USA? And yes, in fact some people won’t die because the measures to control the virus lessens pollution, and traffic so fewer accidents etc etc. A small silver lining to a very dark cloud.

If anyone else says we are getting things out of proportion I will scream (not that the miscreant will hear me).

You’d be mad if you weren’t scared. Take a deep breath, keep calm and carry on. Remember, bravery isn’t not being scared; it’s feeling the fear and doing it anyway

Travelsafar aww wish I could give you a hug. I had to go out seem to have no fresh stuff in now, as I have Morrison’s behind me before this I used to use it like a corner shop a few times a week for fish etc. Today I had the runs and felt so I’ll. I felt ill in the shop too like I shouldn’t be there. I do hope this doesn’t cause acrophobia for me or anyone. So no, I’m happy you posted this thread x

I live in a reasonably remote area ( Cumbria) but am saddened that we are up there in the stats for having lots of cases. I heard through 2 friends yesterday that our local vicars husband died of it , our u3a president , and a lady has lost both her parents in days of each other. It brings it home just how close it all is.

I'm not scared about getting the virus, as I'm doing all I can to stay safe; what I'm scared about is what state the country and the world is going to be in when it ends?!

We are supposed to be screening as DH takes medicine which lowers his immunity. He’s on The List and had the letter - which was very scary. The only way for me to stay in the same house is to isolate with him.

However, yesterday we were getting really low on milk. All our friends are either in the high risk category or too far away. Ditto offspring. No deliveries available. So I braved a trip to Tesco. It was so quiet with the few people in their drifting around each other, maintaining the distance, as in a slow motion dance. When I got home I felt obliged to wipe down everything I’d bought (I did, of course, not just buy milk) and felt guilty for not washing all my clothes.

We really need to go to check on our little boat as the yard is closed. We’re very unlikely to see anyone. But it will mean a car ride, which apparently is a no-no.

I’m beginning to feel more scared of the controls in place than the prospect of catching the virus.

Mr.GG had heard from a family member that Aldi was deserted 30 minutes ago, so he has gone with a list. I worry for him, and I worry that he will bring this flipping virus into our home (we have DD, GC and new baby isolating with us).

I am asthmatic and every so often I just feel overwhelmed with a fear that if I was to get really poorly I would not be intubated and I am not ready to leave my family yet!!!!

It is certainly understandable when the news is telling us just how many has died and now it is affecting younger people as well. DH says we have to put it into proportion as more people die from flu and nothing is mentioned about that per year. I am trying to stay positive but I miss my children and grand children even though we speak on the phone and WhatsApp etc. These are scary times that we have never been through before and hopefully don’t have to face again. Stay safe and keep washing your hands as we are told and we will get through this. Put some positive music on and have a dance around. X

Bluebell, I do agree with you. Think there is a a quite deliberate policy of causing panic at the moment. Idea is to make everyone so very scared of everyone else, they may be more willing to obey the new rules.
Far too much news on this - of course, it is dominating our lives at present, but there are other things going on. Do think that news items on CV19 should be much more restricted and it would also be good if it included the figures of 98% recovery rate. Yes, I know people with underlying serious illness are very much more at risk, but other, healthy people it needs to be stated quite clearly that we ARE NOT ALL GOING TO DIE!!
Not sure how long people will be willing to follow these very stringent rules - human beings are social animals, the longer it all lasts, they more chance there is of that a lot of people will start disobeying the social distancing rules.
Mental Health is and will continue to break down alarmingly in this current social isolation - not sure what sort of society we are going to have at the end of it. Financially, it is going to mean such austere policies probably for at least a decade. So many people will have lost their jobs or small business's. How long will it be to get rid of this suspicion of coming close to strangers? How high will suicide and self-harming rates soar?
Yes,.....I am scared.......very scared of how life as we knew it, is not likely to return for such a very long time (definitely not in my lifetime).

I feel generally scared, just about the way life is shaken and changed. I feel scared for my children and grandchildren in London.

My attitude has always been that providing it’s me and not the children, then illness is unimportant. I’m 80, and not scared for myself. If I get it, I get it. I have no responsibilities, so there would be no disastrous consequences.

Franbern please don’t worry about accessing medical help. The emergency services and hospitals are still functioning and will meet acute needs.

It just that everything that can wait has been put on the back burner.

Yes, I get anxious too. I’m finding I can’t focus on what I want, and planning future meals, because I’m constantly watching to see where everyone else is!

BlueBell sums up my feelings.

The tv news is giving us a daily tally of the deaths, so it is understandable that we feel horrified and apprehensive when we are out but, as BB said, the majority of the deaths were from illnesses other than Covid yet the virus is listed as the cause of death.

In contrast I understand Germany lists the underlying illness not Covid on death certificates therefore their numbers will be more accurate.

I am encouraged to read that the numbers of new cases in both Spain and Italy have been slowing. We are told we are about 3 weeks behind them.

I'm not particularly scared at the moment. I'm almost 61, in good health, and taking all the precautions I can.