What were you meant to be doing this weekend?

Oh yes Ann go for the stair lift . I miss going upstairs , I miss the extra view from the upstairs windows .
I am in a Granny Flat , it is lovely but no stairs , l have a flight os steps at the front which I use to stop me getting "Bungalow Knees" and it is excercise for me , I had my hip done just before moving house

Maw Many members have turned to GN in times of sadness for the comfort it gives. It is no different at Easter and this thread gives time for those who will be sad and missing family at Easter to talk about it.

I am among those who will not see DGC. I do not have the fortune to have them close at hand to see regularly, so it could be argued that people in my position are hurt even more because we see our DGC so rarely, and so many of us are missing a relatively rare opportunity to see them this Easter and the gap between visits will probably go from 2 or 3 months to 6 months or more. We are as worthy of sympathy as those with regular opportunities to see their grandchildren.

I would have been visiting my Dad, as I do every Easter - except that he died in July so I can’t. We were going to scatter his ashes at the weekend, but we can’t make that trip now. So the fact that I can’t go anywhere takes the edge off the knowledge that I can’t make that visit this year. Silver lining, I suppose...

We would have driven back from our week away yesterday, given that traffic would have probably been horrendous today would have been relaxing and doing the washing. Tomorrow would have been a roast with all the family.

I should be flying back to work tomorrow. Despite conditions here, I'm glad I don't have to! My life there is a bit like permanent lockdown, albeit in a larger area.

Ann I would definitely advise getting a stairlift too.My parents in law had one fitted in their house last year and it has made such a difference to them.We had thought about bringing the bed downstairs,but there would still have been the issue of the bathroom upstairs.It is very neat and doesn’t take up a lot of room so fine for others to still walk up the stairs.The only regret is we didn’t do it sooner.

We should have been handing our granddaughter back to my daughter and partner after a weeks childcare.
Then preparing for our holiday in Tavira, flying out on Wednesday.
Hey ho!!

Well I apologise if you found, or indeed, find me “preachy”.
Not my usual character, I hope, but perhaps I need to give escapism a miss.
The remark about he cutlery drawer was uncalled-for though and frankly patronising and unkind.

Yes, MawB, I’m sure we’re all aware of the figures, and equally I’m sure we’re all glad to be able to post on a simple thread about what we would have been doing, rather than gasping our last. It doesn’t mean we’re wallowing in self pity.

I for one am getting tired of preachy posts. As if we don’t all know what’s going on. I do wish the self-appointed preachers would find something else to do. Maybe cleaning out their cutlery drawers, as per another thread, might be good, but then I dare say any preachers’ cutlery drawers will be immaculate anyway.

Maggiemaybe I do not regard myself as any sort of Head Girl but I am as entitled to my own views as anybody.
If I cannot go along with the self indulgence of reminiscing or whatever, that does not make me “po-faced” or claim that I am more “compassionate and caring” but I also cannot join in with the lamenting “what might have been” mentality.
Over 1000 deaths. That’s the reality, anything else is unicorns and rainbows.
(We are still allowed to express our opinions on GN aren’t we?)

This thread is just a wistful sigh which, according to google, is survival mechanism.

We would have been spending Easter with DD and her family but instead we'll drink the prosecco and eat the choccies she sent us and attempt a family quiz on Zoom.

So long as DH stays well, all will be well.

ann just passing on the experience of a good friend......go for the stair lift, if you can. It would be such a shame to see your “world”/your home get even smaller just because you’re having to wait for surgery. Hoping so much that the something that you need and which will change your life for the better, happens before too long. Easter wishes to you and to everyone struggling. Keep thinking about next year

I really don’t feel it is wrong to say what we would have been doing.
We are not bemoaning our fate and grumbling about what we are missing, well perhaps I am.
We all know just how serious this worldwide situation is and I am sure we all know bereaved families, I know 3 now, one wife hadn’t seen her H for over a week and she is on her own and distraught, my friend, her cousin, is extremely worried about her mental health and has been in touch with her GP voicing her fears.
However life really has to go on, it is what keeps the human race going.

None of us are going anywhere, Charleygirl

I think many may try to do so, though and they deserve our condemnation.

Have a peaceful and safe Easter

May I mention that is the number who died in hospitals, it does not take in the number who died in care homes or at home. That number would take us well over 1000 deaths in one day. Horrendous.

Please stay at home.

Where’s the mourning or self-pity? Please point me to it. Are we not allowed to have a gentle reminisce about what might have been without the head girls and prefects of the site jumping on us and trying to make us all feel guilty?

I’m sure we all have real troubles in this time, me included. Haven’t we got enough to deal with without po-faced judgement from self-appointed board monitors? I won’t bore you with my very genuine and justified worries about my family at this time, but please don’t those of you who enjoy judging others try to make out you are so much more compassionate and caring than everyone else.

Well I would have been recovering from a THR which I should have had on March 27th, two weeks yesterday.
I do not know when I shall get it now.
At 82 time is running out for me, I can only get about the house with the aid of a trolley.
I can’t go out at all, no problem there with lockdown of course.
I was contemplating a stair lift but my S thinks I should have my bed moved downstairs, the logistics of this are somewhat difficult as my GD is working from home and has the dining room as her office.

Agree with Maw that “what might have been” isn’t helpful and that we just have to make the best of being well and safe. Next Easter will be different. Meanwhile I am grateful to all those working so hard on our behalf and wish I was of more use. At least I can try not to make my children anxious about me by appearing cheerful.

Big family get together. At least 10 of us. I ordered a large leg of lamb (since cancelled) wine had been ordered (not cancelled?) Table decorations (now put away) Eggs (now eaten?) lemon cheesecake (ingredients still in fridge.) Tropical fruit salad in lime juice and coconut yogurt. (Not purchased)

Instead we will speak on the phone.

Only another 9 weeks yippee!!

I will be thinking of my nieces who will both be working in ICU at some point over the weekend and yes, we must be thankful that we are, so far, the lucky ones.

I am going to sound intemperate so bear with me.

980 people died in the U.K. yesterday of Covid19

Does that not mean more than wishful thinking about what we should have been doing?

But for the grace of God we might have been gasping for breath in an intensive care ward. ?????
Let’s spare our self-pity and feel sympathy for their families and those who are risking their lives to care for them.

Preparing and baking for the annual Easter sunday family get together

We were meant to be doing the Easter egg hunt round our local shops this morning with the grandsons, then heading up to Scarborough this afternoon where we’d booked a “cottage” for the week for all 14 of us. We were looking forward to a week of Easter activities at the castle, beach time with our own beach huts, a trip to Brid on the train, the sea battle at Peasholme Park, and so much more.

No worries. We’ve been able to rebook for next Easter, same time, same place. And I’m looking forward to an indoor and garden egg hunt with all the boys, courtesy of Zoom.

We will carry on weeding, having nothing to plant, then relax in the garden and Facetime the family here and wherever they are in the world.

For all those on their own

Let’s look forward instead of mourning our what might have been
I would have been in tears as DD would have been leaving to go home , so now I look forward to Autumn when she will attempt to visit again