Grieving on your own is very hard

Calpurnia, I am so very sorry, I can't imagine your sorrow. Please let your family know how bereft you are feeling, do them the honour of allowing them to help you, it will help their grief to have a purpose and what greater purpose than to be there for their Mum x

My sincere condolences.Look after yourself you are strong.
Sending hugs to you.

Hi Calpurnia

I just wanted to send my condolences and to give you a Virtual hug. Hope all goes well and you take comfort from the service x

I am absolutely amased that you have coped with all this for so long. Do you have any friends that are good listeners. Face to face conversation is not possible right now but what about Skyping or telephone chats? You have given so much now it is time for you.

Sorry to go off on a tangent but One thing that is puzzling me is your Gp prescribing anti
histamine for you. I too have hayfever but my Gp stopped prescribing them a while ago. Not for any medical reason but cost. They said that government had told them to stop prescribing these as they could be purchased directly at the Chemist cheaper than the cost to their budget of prescribing them. I live in Derbyshire, England. I dont know if this only applies in England, or Scotland and / or Wales too? It may be discretionary so my GPs choice? Curious as I'd like to challenge this if there are grounds to.

FranT

Ah, so sorry for your loss. May you find some comfort in your memories x

Sincerest sympathies at such a sad time compounded by dreadful circumstances.
When your family call and ask how you are might you feel able say if it’s been a difficult day - and don’t feeling embarrassed about elaborating

Calpurnia, my heart goes out to you, and believe me I do understand how you're feeling, as I lost my Daughter on the 6th April, she was a Keyworker aged 47, and leaves 4 children without a Mum. Her funeral was dire, with only 10 in attendance, some music, say a few words, leave, and go home alone, not the send off one envisages for your loved one. It hit me today that I am no longer a Wife,my Husband died 3 years ago, no longer a Mother, my other child, a Son died aged 21, the only role left to me, is that of a Grandma! Let's hope we both come out of this.x

So sorry for your loss Calpurnia and that you have to do this alone. Sending you much love

Calpurnia, I am so sorry for your broken heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

I just want to throw my arms around you, hug you and let you cry your heart out - but we can't do that. This dreadful situation, Calpurnia, is just so cruel to so many. My ongoing thoughts with love - that's all I can offer.

My heartfelt sympathies to you Calpurnia what a brave and courageous lady you are. I hope it gives you comfort that you were able to nurse your beloved husband to the very end and he died in your arms. Be gentle on yourself and take each day as it comes and I pray that gradually your pain will ease and you’ll see sunshine through the tears.

I’m so sorry for your loss of your husband. I’m sending an online hug to you . Take care x

I am sending you virtual hugs and love Calpurnia. Please come back and tell us more about your beloved and lovely husband. Rev. Coles words are so touching - brought tears to my eyes and are so fitting. Keep strong. We are all here thinking of you. xx

Sometimes saying you’re fine is easier than admitting you're not. I can only attempt to understand how you're feeling. As Maw says many of us have been widowed but not with the added trauma of ‘doing it alone’. You are a strong, brave person and were with your husband in his final weeks which is what matters. Take comfort in that.

Oh Calpurnia I am so sorry for your loss Bereavement in normal circumstances is difficult in these times all the more excruciating due to the lack of physical presence and comfort from others which is both a physical and emotional need Please don't feelyou have to put a brave face on for your family and never apologise or feel you are feeling sorry for yourself when expressing your natural anguish I speak as a professional in bereavement care as well as a fellow human who knows what it's like You are much in my thoughts x

Sorry ffor the mix-up of letters there. I am not good with the computer!

I am so sorry for the loss of your much loved husband. Do not be afraid to share your feelings with your children. They will expect you to and sharing your sad feelings will help you all. Sharing memories and thoughts about the past will help you to not feel quite so alone. I was many miles away from my children and family when my darling husband died and nMy thoughts are with youot able to meet and the telephone was such a comfort. My thoughts are with you.

My heart goes out to you. I feel almost glad my mother passed last June and didn’t have to live through this. My father who is 86 was rushed into hospital last night unable to breathe. We were all on tenterhooks because you cannot accompany them to hospital. But they tested him for CoVid; said he was negative and booted him out at 2am this morning with some antibiotics. He’s now under the care of his GP who has agreed the anti-B’s aren’t going to cut the mustard. Dad has COPD, the poor old sausage. Sending you blessings for some much needed strength in these challenging times. It’s good that you were with your husband when he passed. That’s one good thing, when so many are unable to do that. No one would ever think you are feeling sorry for yourself at all. I hope you can emerge from this lockdown feeling positive and knowing your husband’s soul will be forever by your side.

Just want to say my thoughts are with you all who have lost someone .?

Horrible time for you. I wish I could suggest a way through but there is no way other than time time and more time. At least make the most of your time alone to enjoy your happier memories. This too will pass and do be sure not to store up bitterness about your family contacting you or not contacting you - I'm sure they are doing their very best to cope in their own ways . Wishing you strength and fortitude to see you through all this that you have to endure right now. Open the wine bottle I say !!

Reading all these lovely posts I am so heartened by “the kindness of strangers”
My heart goes out to all of you who are grieving

Calpernia, I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time alone. I cannot imagine. I’m also glad you reached out here for us to tell you that we are praying for you and thinking of you so maybe you won’t feel quite so alone.

there are always samaritans if you fancy a chat .......

I am familiar with your feelings .I never had the chance to hold my late husband or say goodbye.He was in hospital for investigation concerning his 'blackouts' .I had visited him earlier and was able to phone later where he appeared cheerful and making a few jokes about his fellow ward companions. I will never forget the following morning when receiving a call from the hospital hearing the words We are so sorry etc etc .


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