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Feeling a bit Silly About a Photo

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over60plus Sat 16-May-20 09:32:59

A very good friend been pals for over50 years she is very outgoing I am very reserved, the other day she Inadvertently sent a nude photo of her other half to my WhatsApp she immediately rang deleted it and apologised but we are all in our 70s and I feel so offended And embarrassed, finding it hard to reply to her messages not sure what to do, Am I being to prudish

Luckygirl Sat 16-May-20 09:37:47

I would share a good laugh with your friend! smile

midgey Sat 16-May-20 09:39:06

Blank your mind from the photo and talk to your friend. She must be appalled too.

TwiceAsNice Sat 16-May-20 09:40:31

I think I would have felt rather embarrassed too, to find a naked picture of my friends husband arrive on my phone but you have been friends for a very long time so I think I would just carry on as before and not mention it again unless you just say please make sure that it never happens again.

What they do in their private life is their business. I think I’d be checking many time’s over if I were sending intimate photos over a phone ( which I have never done by the way) I guess what I’m trying to say is, is it worth losing a long friendship over.

MissAdventure Sat 16-May-20 09:41:37

I shouldn't imagine her partner is exactly over the moon, either.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sat 16-May-20 09:43:01

Try to put it out of your mind, they probably feel more embarrassed about it than you do. The human body is nothing to be ashamed of but I can't understand why people put themselves and their private bits and pieces all over social media. Worse things happen at sea as my dear old mum used to say.

timetogo2016 Sat 16-May-20 09:47:44

I am sure it will be something you will laugh about before you know it .
I went to work a few years ago to clean a friends house and he was walking up stairs stark naked as the bathroom was downstairs.
Neither of us mentoined it but we smiled and said good morning.

BlueBelle Sat 16-May-20 09:56:13

Oh I d find that hilarious Nothing for you to get embarrassed about (her husband might be though)
Why be upset perhaps she was applying for a nudist holiday or just bragging ?
In answer to your last question yes you are acting prudish no one s been hurt it’s all gone now, your phones not been infected by a willy, have a laugh

Jane10 Sat 16-May-20 09:59:13

What a laugh. What a silly billy to even have such a pic on her phone. You'll be able to tease your friend about this for years. Also, that's you bang up to date by being sent a 'dick pic'!

Harris27 Sat 16-May-20 10:04:33

Loved that jane10!

Grannynannywanny Sat 16-May-20 10:07:37

I can’t imagine why folk would take pictures of themselves in the nuddy. I prefer to avoid even glancing in the mirror till I’ve got some clothes on.

Seriously though I think you should just try to laugh it off.

Your friend must be mortified. It’s not worth losing a lifelong friend over it

rosekearsey Sat 16-May-20 10:12:53

I am so sorry that it upset you but you have given me a chance to laugh out loud this morning - Not happening too often due to solo isolation at this crazy time. Real friends are people and they make mistakes - bet she’s feeling mortified! Time will heal. Keep safe x

Grannynannywanny Sat 16-May-20 10:21:51

Reminds me of a text a younger cousin accidentally sent me years ago that was meant for his wife.

He was about to set off home from 3 nights working away. He was clearly feeling amorous as he said get the kids to bed early, run a bubble bath and I’ll bring the wine.

I’ve omitted a few details but you get the picture!

He was mortified and texted me back 2 mins later to apologise saying he thought he’d sent it to his wife.

I laughed it off and it was never mentioned again.

Rufus2 Sat 16-May-20 10:26:24

, Am I being to prudish
over60+ Hard to tell without seeing the evidence and whether you've deleted it too! shock
OoRoo

Nortsat Sat 16-May-20 10:42:25

I should let it go.
It was an accident and she clearly didn’t mean to offend you. She has obviously had an ‘outgoing’ life, during all the years you have been friends. It’s also private to her and her partner.

Focus on your long friendship, that you care for one another and put this incident behind you. In a week or two, it will probably matter much less.

Take care and try not to worry about it. ?

Nico97 Sat 16-May-20 10:46:47

Hilarious - was he worth having a look at grin grin

henetha Sat 16-May-20 10:48:42

I must admit my first reaction was to laugh... but then I realised that it must have been embarrasing for you, - and for them! I don't think you should be offended though, it was a genuine mistake by the sound of it. If you value this friendship then just laugh it off and forget it.

wildswan16 Sat 16-May-20 11:38:05

I expect she/OH are more embarrassed than you. I also wonder if part of the problem is that it has "revealed" slightly more about your friend than you were aware of. Taking such pictures is perfectly OK as far as I am concerned but definitely not something I would ever do, and maybe you feel the same.

But she is still the same person you have been fond of all these years - so just ignore it and carry on.

sodapop Sat 16-May-20 12:51:32

Made me laugh as well over60plus I can see it could be embarrassing but I wouldn't worry about it, certainly don't let it affect your friendship.
People can always surprise us can't they grin

Daddima Sat 16-May-20 12:56:07

Who did she mean to send it to?

I wouldn’t be offended, maybe embarrassed on her behalf.

Bridgeit Sat 16-May-20 13:12:08

You ask are you being too prudish, I would say you are more shocked than anything else, probably because you now have a little more information about the life of your Pal than you wanted or ever anticipated .
If it was deliberately done then you would have cause for offence.
Try to forget about it , images once seen can often take awhile to fade.
I always find a good cleaning session gets rid of any unwanted rubbish in my head, best wishes?

Urmstongran Sat 16-May-20 13:57:24

Once seen never forgotten?
?

Shelmiss Sat 16-May-20 14:39:26

I wonder who she was really intending to send it to?? ??

SueDonim Sat 16-May-20 14:53:25

I’m not sure why you’re offended. It was an accident and she’s apologised.

I’m more intrigued as to the identity of the intended recipient of the photo! grin

TrendyNannie6 Sat 16-May-20 15:38:39

?? I’d have had a good laugh, I bet he’s more embarrassed than you are,