DH rant coming up...

I'm very lucky. All I have to do is hint and it's as good as done but that can sometimes have a downside.

Never a good idea to mutter that there's a new toilet roll holder that needs putting up just as visitors have arrived after a long drive.

You could set to and do it yourself - shelves are not men's work - anyone can do it
Luckygirl
^Ladies, if a man says he will fix it, he will. There's no need to remind him every six months.
You can't rush an artist.
Good Health.

Actually MawB that would be good to describe someone handy! As in crack shot in shooting!

Predictive text has clearly never heard the expression cack-handed (not “crack”)

I’m with Paddyanne! Does he need “wee projects” of your devising? It’s his bedroom too so did you discuss the idea of shelves or does he leave that sort of thing to you?
I have never experienced this demarcation of boys’ jobs and girls’ jobs - unlike Teresa and Philip May.
My father loathed and avoided anything even faintly resembling DIY,
Dad had a theory that if everybody did everything themselves, skilled tradesmen like carpenters, painters and decorators and jobbing builders would end up going out of business.
They also had a neighbour who effectively wrecked an otherwise lovely stone cottage by years of crack-handed bodging., which he reckoned more than proved his point.
Paw likewise (initially early in our marriage when money was tight,) would put up DIY wardrobes under sufferance but latterly a Billy bookcase from IKEA was his limit.
And why not? It’s like assuming I can or want to turn collars, turn sheets sides to middle or am the only person who can be let loose in the kitchen!

Teetime exactly..... Sow the seeds. One at a time. Then dh has an idea ??.

My Dh is great he can fix or make anything, he is the first stop if anyone needs anything doing, he will do anything for anyone except me ! I am waiting on the carpets being fitted, fitted wardrobes being built, the walls painted and a thousand and one other things to be done. Everytime i suggest either i make a start or offer to find someone else to do it he promises me it is on his list. At this very moment he has commandeered the oven to use for baking a paint onto a motorbike part.

I would set to and do it yourself - shelves are not men's work - anyone can do it - even us weak females!

I always used to suggest getting my dad to do whatever when DH didn’t fancy doing a job that I couldn’t. He soon got on with it - his pride wouldn’t let him stand and watch!

If I want DH to do something I have to start off very gently with some subtle hints, not go on about it, leave for a few days before hinting a bit harder, let it fester in his head and behold he has had an idea!

would you be happy if he came up with wee "projects" for you to do?

I always say, when I want Mr R to do something, "If you have the time can you .............?"
He never sees the irony that he is sitting playing a card game on his tablet at the time. And it always works!

If he is anything like my husband, I wouldn't be too optimistic grannyrebel7. We moved into our home over 40 years ago, and I asked my husband to fit a couple of shelves in the airing cupboard.

I'm still waiting!

I learnt years ago to never ask my DH to do a job but to discuss it first and make it seem like his idea. Works a treat!