Life in 5 months??

poshpaws I’ve only just seen this thread. So sorry. ❣️

I've read on the internet (so could be fake news ) that someone working at a Funeral Directors said for a whole month every death had been registered as Covid 19, apparently, a post mortem doesn't have to be done if death is Covid. She said that in a normal month most deaths are registered as Cancer Heart Attack or Stroke.

poshpaws - I am so sorry that your husband has died. I am in a similar situation - my husband died in February.

I do understand how hard this lockdown is when you suddenly find yourself on your own, with no social outlets to help you through. I have found the Samaritans to be a huge help when things get on top of me and I feel despairing. Please keep that in mind when you have rock bottom days.

poshpaws I am so very sorry for your loss please take comfort from your family and animals.

I think we'll get back to normal sooner rather than later otherwise there'll be no one left if social distancing carried on. Just think, there would be no one dating, no kissing, no sex, no babies being born, so something has to happen.

poshpaws what a heartbreaking story. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

In the hope that some good may come of this strange time, so much hand washing and so many face masks may mean that the common cold will virtually disappear, and cases of stomach bugs, food poisoning etc. may drop dramatically.

Justwidowed, I am also very sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. I hope that things continue to get a little easier for you, as time passes. I know it's a slow process when you have lost someone you love.

Poshpaws, I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish there were words to express my sympathy but everything seems inadequate. Please hang on in there for the sake of your son, and take comfort in your animals.

Poshpaws I am so sorry for your loss.I lost my husband just seven months ago and I know how I felt at your stage.
I am slowly moving on and it is definitely a slow process but things do stop looking as bleak.I think the hardest thing for me is friends and family not bringing up his name in conversation in case it upsets me.
Sometimes I think they don't care although I'm sure they do .
A virtual hug and a shoulder to cry on .much love xx

Perhaps our death rate per population may have something to do with the size of the UK. Look at the size of France, Spain for example. They are huge but with less population. UK has millions of folk crammed into cities, more so in England. More than just the numbers of deaths per thousands of population has to be considered. And isn't it wonderful those who have been shielding are now being allowed out. Makes them sound like convicts being released for good behaviour!

Posh paws, so sorry for your loss

poshpaws ((hugs)) I’m so sorry about yr husband.

Totally agree with ladymuck!

poshpaws Sun 31-May-20 11:34:13

I'm so very sorry.
You must carry on. You have your son and lovely pets that love and need you. Take one day at a time.
Hugs and

"We live in a much freer country than Spain, Greece and Italy, where police make arrests more freely than here."

If that is true why does the UK have the highest prison population in the EU?

poshpaws that was so awful for you and so very recent..
I'm sending you a virtual hug because I cant say anything to ease your pain.
Try and hang on in there and keep talking

Poshpaws so sorry to hear your sad news. Please keep strong.

Poshpaws sorry for your loss I'm sending these for you ?

GrandMattie, I think our problem in UK is that people just didn’t their own thing’ and made up the rules, instead of staying at home as much as possible. We live in a much freer country than Spain, Greece and Italy, where police make arrests more freely than here.

I am so sorry Poshpaws...don’t think of ending it all.

Before all this I used to see Chinese people wearing masks in London and always thought how sensible. Mask wearing MUST help. The UK population is too large for the size of the place. Someone from New Zealand described it as "feeling unhealthily crowded". I agree. When I was young in the 50s and 60s there was far more room to move. Not saying this would stop any virus but we do all need to be more aware particularly if the population is set to increase even more. I doubt if I'll use public transport again and would think hard about going to a theatre or cinema. Life will never be as we knew it -maybe for the younger ones but not us oldies. Sad but true I fear.

Bijou let's never say never!
Poshpaws I can only say how sorry I am about the loss of your DH in such circumstances.

Well, it can not possibly do any harm if we all continue to be careful about hand washing etc. but unfortunately that is no really likely to happen, human nature being what it is.

A vaccine will be available fairly soon, and of course, the virus may, like the one that causes the Spanish flu, more or less disappear again. No-one is making any qualified guesses at the moment.

During this pandemic various treatments have been found to work, and will presumably continue to do so.

I think we should all try to look on the bright side, spreading despondency was considered wrong in wartime and should be wrong now, as well.

In five months, I suspect I will thinking about how to approach Christmas without subjecting myself to shopping crowds. I don't think the need for caution will go away for a long time yet.

Poshpaws, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. That's still so fresh. I'm glad you were able to be with him at the end. This is a terrible time to experience loss, especially such a close one as a husband. I'm sure it's little comfort now, but time does help and you do find little things to find joy in over time. <3

I don't have any idea how life will be in 5 months, because despite following all the rules, my beloved husband had to go into hospital with an unrelated problem and caught Covid-19 whilst in there. He died (I was so lucky, the Consultant arranged that I could wear PPE and be with him at the end, I couldn't have borne it at all otherwise) on 13th May, and for me there just doesn't feel like there will ever be a future, right now. I'm only still here for my son and for the animals my husband - and I - love so much. Also, I don't know what God thinks of suicide. But I do hope there's light at the end of the tunnel.