polnan
oh my! and here I am, feeling sorry for myself
lived here 20 years, closest neighbours know my dh died about 8 months ago, not a one..
that hurts..
I realise that every one has problems, particularly at this time
my family, two grown sons, two lovely dils.. this weekend, so lonely. youngest ds mails me a lot, eldest ds with 4 gks... mine not his, know I am alone, isolated, and I feel so very much unloved.
dil mailed me late last night.. "Hi! been busy as usual, how are you!"
it is very hard to reach out, I hear what some of you are saying, but so very hard to reach out..
You have every right to feel sorry for yourself - I can empathise with what you are saying. We try too much not to appear “needy” to our families in case they say “oh no, it’s mum on the phone/having a moan” but in reality they have no idea.
I wonder if they ever will have until they are in a similar situation?
Now, listen to Maw
Don’t do as I did, polnan - do as I say...take a deep breath and tell them how lonely it is for you, that you are doing your best, but actually not coping, that you understand how busy they are and don’t want to be a burden, but a regular phone call, a card or note from the grandchildren would help.
Now the neighbours - well honestly. If they deserve your attention at all ring, or pop a note through the door inviting them to coffee/tea/a cold drink in the garden possibly “one day next week”
They might be finding it hard to know what to say to,you, - but isn’t it dreadful that you should be the one making allowances? However, that’s the way it goes.
If your neighbours are not worth bothering about, consider friends slightly further afield as long as they can get to you.
I’m sorry I have gone on too long but there will be many here who know exactly where you are coming from.
Please feel free to pm me if I can help in any way