what to do for the best.

SueDonim

You can buy (if they’re not out of stock!) electric tricycles. I had no idea such a thing existed until I saw one in my local town recently. They’re very cute and I’m almost tempted, as a non-bike rider.

jorviktricycles.com/tricycles/electric-tricycles

Good grief they are expensive!

Mine is very eccentric looking and half that price, wow!

I am exactly the same. I can't help being a people pleaser so I know how difficult it is. I often look back at the times I should have said no, and some of them haunt me forever.

Corryanna
Those thoughts coming back to haunt you, can’t help. I think it’s time to sell it and try out a safer form of exercise and let dh go off on his own adventures. Hope you mend soon and try and work on how to stop people pleasing it will free up your mind.

it's not for you OP.
now just try to relax and heal.
maybe read up on co-dependence while you're laid up.
people pleasing is a large part of it.
all the best.

Yes, good question.
Why do you keep falling of.

I always assumed it might be easier riding an electric bike.
After all: no pedalling.

Do you have a balance problem or maybe you were cycling over rough terrain.

Hi Juicylucy, I rode a bike to school and travelled miles with friends during school hols and don't remember falling off once. 45 years later I had this romantic idea of sunshine, bikes, picnic, and home all in a summer's afternoon and the two first short journeys were accident-free. A number of factors have wrecked my confidence (silly, I know) I fell off twice in successive rides, frightened by boy racers and anxious about/after lorries passing on narrow roads ( I was a passenger (aged 16), in a car which was involved in a head-on collision with a furniture lorry, the car driver died, I was badly injured and in a coma for 5 days. Sometimes all this comes back to me),where we live the roads are hilly, in bad repair and the stress outweighs the enjoyment. Going to stick to walking!
Corry x

Would your husband consider a tandem Corryanna? Or perhaps you would rather give up on the idea of cycling altogether?

I hope you heal very soon. But I am puzzled why you keep falling off. I’m sure your dh will understand, surely he can see how dangerous it is if your falling off that often. I’m 64 and ride a normal bike for pleasure I’ve never fallen off.

My husband had an electric bike he was really keen to get one did all the research etc . His DB and DSiL gave them it was a good one but he just didn’t get on with it . We sold it on no trouble did lose a bit on it but this was before lockdown . So they aren’t for everyone there’s no shame in that . To quit the chimp advert can you ride tandem! Or brisk walking together can’t get better exercise ? Then you and DH can have a bit of his own space when he goes biking ?

Funnygran I am 75 and have had various electric bikes for 20 years,long before they became fashionable! My eyesight has never been good enough to drive, so my bikes have been a lifesaver. I also ride horses, so biking 3 miles twice a day in all weathers an electric bike is a necessity. But if I could drive I would never ride any sort of bike again lol

Thanks for all thoughts. I keep falling off as I'm an anxious biker with skinny legs and the once the bike starts to wobble, I can't stop it falling over and my weak ankles can't hold me up. No hearing, seeing or thinking problem I'm just too weak. DH understands 100% how I feel and "Woman up!" was the best 2 words anyone could have said to me - thanks so much Lucca. Also, had there been a car coming yesterday, well, it doesn't bear thinking about.
I'm not going to rush to sell it, but wait till the 6" x 5" purple bruise on my thigh, my skinned elbow and stiff neck are better. Walking is a much safer option! Thanks for all the helpful thoughts and advice.

You can buy (if they’re not out of stock!) electric tricycles. I had no idea such a thing existed until I saw one in my local town recently. They’re very cute and I’m almost tempted, as a non-bike rider.

jorviktricycles.com/tricycles/electric-tricycles

Sell your nearly new bike and buy a three wheeled cargo bike with electric motor.

You will feel so much safer.

I stopped cycling on two wheels after my third fall, scared that my next one might just be in front of a bus.

I’m sure he will understand that you are afraid of falling off and breaking bones! Imagine if you broke your hip, he would have to do everything for you. Tell him that it is a very real possibility and you’re just thinking of him, you don’t want him to end up being a nurse and housekeeper!

Maybe just have a break from it. I think you’re trying too hard. He will understand you wanting to take a break from the bike .
If after a few weeks or months you still feel the same then sell the bike and buy yourself something with the money
I feel sure the bike shop where you purchased it would buy it back as it’s only been ridden four times.
Don’t over think the situation. It’s only a bike ?

PS I wouldn't go alone either - one of the friends spent nearly half an hour alone on a quiet country road unable to move until a car came along.

I have two friends who have been hospitalised for weeks and are still suffering from health difficulties after falling off their bikes (separate incidents) and they were both experienced cyclists. It may not feel like it but you've probably been lucky so far. Bite the bullet and tell him - he may be of the same opinion but doesn't want to dishearten you.

My friend is 85 and has just bought her second tricycle. She had one before and gave it away virtually unused about ten years ago. She is a little round 'old lady' in appearance, not remotely fit but does go to a very fancy health spa for a swim most mornings. I think thy look much safer than bicycles and have a vaguely eccentric look about them.

What Freeandeasy says!
Do it quickly before you break bones.

Just sell the bike - I bet your OH will be relieved that he can now cycle at his own pace (albeit alone). Just cut your losses - you’ve given it a go and found that it wasn’t for you. You and your OH can find plenty of other things to do jointly. My partner is a keen and experienced cyclist but I would never dream of joining him as I wouldn’t enjoy it. I think I’d be Ok on less busy country roads but I could never imagine cycling on a main road - noooo! Sell the bike. I turned 60 a couple of years ago and asked for (and luckily received) a very nice eternity ring to celebrate our nearly 40 years of being together. Sell the bike and use the money for something that will bring you joy!

Tell him. We bought electric bikes when he retired-the sort that involve a lot of pedalling but kick in when going up hills-it’s very hilly around us.
My DH has only fallen off once (in France) but he’s so nervous it’s not really fun for him. So when he said he’d rather not cycle any more I happily agreed (and my daughter gratefully took the bike).

I love my electric bike, but realise where your coming from, go out on your own, go at your speed, take in the sights and sounds & enjoy, once you do that you'll be relaxed and your balance should improve.
Think you're too tense with the other half speeding you up. My other half and I start out together and end up arriving home at different times, him before me!! Who cares? It's my pleasure.. Good luck.

I don't think you'll get the exercise with a mobility scooter. Electric bikes are still quite heavy - would it be worth trying either a light weight ordinarily bike or a trike?

A friend of mine loves her trike - she never got on with a two-wheeler and found the trike perfect. It's to do with the with you steer them apparently.

Good luck!

Not only are you a danger to yourself, you are a danger to others.
Just don’t go, tell your DH it isn’t for you, the last thing you want is to cause an accident.

Just what I was going to say MadeInYorkshire ... difficult, if not impossible, to fall off. Trade in the two wheels and get three wheels. Problem solved!