Would you or have you gone on holiday with your in-laws

Only once, to France, never again!. We hovercrafted across leaving our car. The hire car was substituted with a smaller one, no baby seat.
The hotel had no cot, so we had to buy a travel cot at the hyper market. MIL spoke fluent French, so domineered everything.
There were severe storms in the Chanel so the return Hovercraft didn’t run, we had to go back by ferry to a different UK port. Miles away from our parked car. Everyone was ill on the crowded ferry, except DH, me and the baby!

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Yes and we holidayed with my parents. We holiday with AC and GC, and with friends and our AC and GC.

Have fabulous memories.

Is it just us?
And MerylStreep?

Soda pop. Lord M. ??? I do hope you aren’t referring to MY Lord Melbourne Aka Rufus Sewell. Because I asked him first to come on holiday. He said yes. We are going to Butlins ?
I saw him first !!

oh dear ramblingrose,
i actually think the hotel was at fault for not looking after yr PIL better. they should be aware of who is in the dining room, and explained the menu to them. not well managed.
i can imagine that sort of thing happening to me.

Charleygirl You have described my late in laws. Their meal times and bed times were exactly the same as your in laws. They also kept to a routine for shopping, wash day, library etc.

Never in a million years my mil was a very difficult women who idolised her son we didn’t get on for over 20 yrs but after I remarried and both her son and husband passed we became friends and I spent a lot of time with her.

Sorry Callistemon I phrased that badly, I meant of course husband and children.

Pistols at dawn then Lilypops Lord M is definitely mine, I was an only child I don't share.

I did in the mid 70`s and i loved it.
I got on realy well with my future Fil/MiL..
We were camping in France,seperate tents/caravan .

But a funny thing happened,i was in the tent getting dressed and hadn`t quite finished when FiL popped his head in and i was topless he smiled and said ooops sorry and i just burst out laughing.
What else could i do.

Much as I liked my in-laws, I would not have chosen to go on holiday with them.

I certainly wouldn't have gone with them if it was my only holiday.

However, if they'd asked me for help in being able to have a holiday, I'd have gone with them but only for a week and only in the UK.

Good Lord no! We took them out in the car for a day once. That was quite enough!

We once went on holiday with the in-laws to a cottage by the sea. They spent the first week with DH's elder brother and DIL who we found out later weren't on speaking terms by the end - they felt they were treated like children.

The second week was our turn. There was a tense atmosphere and we were puzzled as to why. We were encouraged to do our own thing during the day (they refused to come with us) and return in the evening to MIL's home cooked meals (cabbage!)

I think that first week saddened them. MIL was in tears as she accidentally set fire to her favourite tea towel - I think that was indicative of deeper problems. All in all, not the success any of us hoped for.

When I was married we used to stay with my in-laws who lived on the coast. My husband spent most of his time with his father doing the list of jobs my mother in law presented, and I was supposed to look after the children, our two and their two cousins because I was a teacher, (working), and my sister in law, who never had a job in her life and was a full time mother, needed a rest. Her husband , who could not stand father -in -law, wisely stayed away.

We holidayed frequently with my parents (so DH's in-laws) in a small VW campervan (which we and my parents co-owned) and, later with DS as well in a small motorcaravan and folding caravan. No real problems and lots of laughs.

A couple of times DH's parents and brother came along and camped. Again, no real problems and plenty of fun.

More recently we've shared a cottage with friends and with DS and his family. Two cars and doing one's own thing, just meeting at certain places of interest helped.

It really depends on individual characters!! Fortunately we knew that we could cope with the close proximity.

Yes. A month or two after we married we found out my mil always wanted to go to the lakes, so we booked 10days in a cottage.
Her one and only trip on a boat, and she loved it!
They stayed with us periodically and babysat for us.
Day trips too.
No probs.

When my kids were small I twice took my mil on holiday in this country, we got on fine although were never the best of friends. I frequently took her on days out with us too. she lived alone in central London so I'm sure she was glad to get out and about as she couldn't drive so was limited as to her excursions.

I've been married twice. I wouldn't have gone away with my in-laws if you had paid me

My mother came on a few holidays with us when the children were small. It was okay but she was always concerned that she might be 'in the way'. The children liked having her with us as it meant extra treats for them, but I think OH was relieved when she said she wouldn't come any more even though there had not been any real problems.

Having read all the posts I am now concerned that we have agreed to a holiday with the younger generation next year though!

We stayed with my MiL and FiL every year while she was alive, and they came and stayed with us every Summer. Most of the time we all got along fine.

One year we decided to take them to France for a week, which they were quite keen on. We sat in the dining room of the hotel chatting to the lovely waitress when my MiL suddenly announced "I hate the French". My OH and I were gobsmacked. And mortified. As the waitress obviously was.

It transpired that she was a bit confused and got the French mixed up with the Germans who bombed the NE shipyards and killed two of her uncles. That was our one and only trip outside the UK.

No way.
My parents micromanaged everything so much and expected to spend 24/7 together - too much smothering.

My ILs came to visit when I was pregnant - once was enough.
I learned the hard way not having a budget for the visit, as electronics like smartphones, tablets, laptops, etc., were not presents we had to buy for the whole family (uncles, cousins, etc)
Most fights I had with my DH ever.
He became a person I didnt recognize. He reverted back to his old self when they left.

I fell down the stairs at 7 months pregnant and twisted my ankle so bad I couldn't walk for 3 weeks (nothing happened to baby)

He asked me not to cry so loud because I was scaring his mother.

The look on my face made him rethink his statement really fast.

We went on holiday with my first MIL several times, from when I was about 20 onwards. She was single, quite independent, but fun to be with. My husband was her only child. She was a lovely warm caring person, but not too "in your face". I always felt sad I didn't keep in touch with her when I split with her son.

My 2nd MIL. She was lovely too, but we never had holidays together at that stage in our lives.

We enjoyed 2 holidays with Mr. S.'s parents when the boys were young 6 and 8 I think and really enjoyed them.

Not with my in-laws but when I was still at school my boyfriend's parents took me and his sister's boyfriend with them for a week in a caravan in the Lake District.

It was fine, but my boyfriend refused to go in the shower with me in case someone from his family came in while we were in the cubicle.

That's all I can remember really. It rained most of the time, of course.

My parents also invited our boyfriends with us on sailing holidays and we all got along fine.

Hell no!!