Lovely thing to say

The nicest thing someone ever said to me was on a cruise and I was feeling very unsure of my appearance after a mastectomy. The lady looked at me and said "Honey, you look so pretty in that dress". Later on in the evening another lady and yet another lady complimented me on my dress and I thought it was a wind up and they were having a bit of a joke. My lack of confidence in myself after the surgery. Believe you me you do not check your make up or hair after such surgery you look at your chest and think "Do I look normal?" How kind and sweet of these ladies, they did my confidence the world of good!

My 10 year old grandson telling me, only last week 'Your the sickest grandma ever!'

Lovely for a neighbour to say that to you scribbles. I bought paints during lockdown as I’ve always wanted to try them. I’m pretty rubbish but I enjoy doing it and that’s what counts. My 3 and a half year old granddaughter was looking through my paintings and I thought oh here comes the truth. She didn’t say a word,just kept looking until she came to a painting of a tree, all brightly coloured. She said “Wow Gran “ that’s all just two words but they made my day, my month and my year.

I am now 61 but in my 20's I was out with friends when a man came up to me and said that I looked like a TV presenter of the time. I didnt know her and being quite shy , laughed and said "why is she ugly?" He looked at me and said "No she is absolutely gorgeous" I was too nervous to respond and he had the impression I wasnt interested. After 2 failed marriages I often wonder what if !

A school friend said to me not long ago that she had always loved going to our house (my childhood family home) because “ you were all nice to each other”. I only wish she had said this before my parents died, so that I could have told them. They’d have been so pleased. It just seemed normal behaviour to me, but her family must have been different.

In my family years, other mums sometimes said to me...I.love coming to your house...it makes me feel so much better about mine.
I had no illusions, so took this in good part!

How lovely. I have a friend I meet up for coffee once a month and it was the first time she’s been to my house, I made it look nice before she arrived and she didn’t say anything nice about my home. Just moaned that my kitchen was very dark .

Most profound thing was not said about me but said too me. My mum said "I Love You"

My mum was nearly 6 years post stroke and had moved from a really lovely care home (corridors too narrow) to a local authority one, the staff tried but it wasn't just wasn't home for her anymore.

We knew she was finding it hard as they didn't know her signs as her speech never recovered after her stroke.

On what was to be my last visit, I came home and said to DH, my mum has decided to leave. Funny look and what's that? from DH.

When I told him that with her paralysed hand she squeezed my hand and said clear as a bell "I Love You" I knew she was saying good bye. She died 5 days later in her sleep.

As for the nicest thing said about me I can think of a some that have really floored me.

When DH was crewed with one of the female pilots he asked if she's had a nice time at the girly party in the house of a mutual friend as his wife was at the party too. She said yes but wished she'd had chance to say more than just 'Hello" to the "serene lady in the corner", after some questions turns out I was " the serene lady in the corner" Wow, I wouldn't have put me down as that but I'll take it as a compliment.

Also on their first day at "Big Collage" :-) 3 ex students stop me in the Atrium while I was grabbing a coffee to introduce me to their Access Course Tutor.

"This is the lady who got us to come here". She made us believe we can do more, she sowed us learning isn't as hard now as when we were kids.

I was looking round for this person, all I done was teach some small none accredited leisure courses at a community centre in an ex pit village but they had clearly already told their tutor about their journey to collage.

However, what was nice (for me) was the Access Tutor was a bit dismissive and suggested I take more qualifications to enable me to teach "Accredited" courses as I was able to inspire students (that was nice to hear) and if I was quick I could still get on her Access Course. How lovely said I, but I can't get funding, she wasn't letting go.

Then I was kind. Well kind ish.

I took her to one side, away from her students and laid out my qualifications so I really won't get funding will I? Ah no.

Then why are you "wasting your time" teaching at ex pit villages community centres she say.

1) Because DH works very odd hours and is away so much so it keeps me busy and NO making. Yipee

2) and most importantly, because people like those 3 students over there don't know what they can do until someone helps them find out and believes in them. How is that a waste? Now I'm off to teach my year 4 counselling students.

The really lovely end to that is one student in a Social Worker and the other two work in the NHS doing a great job that they always thought they weren't good enough for. Now they all work at finding people who can go further and then helping them to believe they can.

Some of the best compliments any of us can have is to have Been enough to be Loved, Done enough to help others, and have Loved enough that others know we Love them.

Lovely thread, thanks for starting it.

" If someone had offered me a million dollars or having you here with me, I'd have chosen you" , my sister when she needed someone to be with her during breast cancer treatment

My 16 year old granddaughter, who's very difficult and unruly said 'you're the only person who hasn't walked away from me '.

Many years ago ,my 9yr old son had a friend to play at our house. The friend told my son that me being cross was like his mum being nice! I took that as a compliment.

Our three year old granddaughter, who we don't see very often due to distance, was eyeing us both up during one visit...
"Grandad walks like a penguin, but Granny is the best," she announced, then burst into fits of giggles.
Well one of us was flattered ?

Awe, friend’s husband, when working in an antique shop which was having a little makeover said I couldn’t help but, ‘you just sit there Pen and exude peace, because that’s what you do best.’ Wasn’t that lovely?

For my 70th Birthday I received a lovely tea mug with photos of my Grandsons and written on it "thank you for always being here for us" I treasure the mug and use it every day.

So many of these posts have made me smile and, also, remind myself that when I think something nice about someone/something, I should say it.

In answer to JackyB, I don't know! I do know that I loved this house from the moment I first set foot in it, mostly because it's so light and airy compared to my previous home which was a tall, overshadowed Edwardian terraced house. This is detached and has mellow buff paving front and rear with lots of multicolored shrubs. Inside is warm in winter and it's clean enough to be healthy but shabby enough to be lived in. None of the chairs match because we bought for comfort not for style and there are almost always fresh flowers in the hall.

OH saw how much I loved it on our first viewing and immediately said we should make an offer. It was one of the happiest days of my life when we exchanged contracts. We loved making a new life together in our forever home and, even though he's no longer here to enjoy it with me, the place is full of his love and generous spirit. I think that's what makes it special.

Thank you for being you ?

The soon-to-be-ex once told me 'You have to be the most genuine person I have ever known.' He was probably right and it didn't take him long to prove he was the exact opposite!

Loved reading this..made me think of comments passed to me. So it started a wonderful nice thought process. I think on down days I will pop back to this thread and read these to trigger my memories

In my thirties' I did voluntary work at a children's home. They were aged between 12 and 16, very unruly. They were classed as unfosterable. One of the staff said to me one day that the children were much calmer on the days I was there. I took that as a compliment. I taught the girls to knit and played pool with the boys. Happy days.

A young woman who had got off the bus with me ran after me on the High Street, tapped me on the shoulder( before the pandemic) and said when I turned round “ When I am older, I want to look just like you.” Back handed compliment ...?

My daughters boyfriend, said that my daughter looked and sounded just like me. Even her mannerisms.
As an adopted child, I never looked like anyone. So I loved it, not sure my daughter did though ???

My neighbour said that she loved our house, as it feels so calm, like me! If only she knew that I’m definitely a swan person. Calm on top and paddling like mad underneath.
Shows Im putting on a good act! ?

Before I retired I worked as a receptionist in a very busy environment. Someone said to me 'no matter how busy it gets, or how rude or demanding people are. You are always smiling, patient and calm'. That made my day and I was so grateful someone took the trouble to complement me. So now I try to do the same.

I've often heard "Thanks Daddy" and more recently "Thanks Grandpa." What could be better?

My ex was always telling me our marriage was over just to torment me until the day I'd enough and left. My father- in-law told him he should be ashamed and that he would never get a nicer, more caring girl like me as a wife. Pity he took after his mother and not his father or things might of been different....