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Daddima Wed 12-Aug-20 11:15:25

I should have known better than to look at Facebook, and the many ‘ back to school’ pictures ( Scotland goes back today or tomorrow).
I feel sad and a wee bit angry looking at pictures of primary school girls in micro-skirts and black fishnet tights pouting like pornstars, and their mothers captioning the pictures with ‘ she’s so grown up’ or ‘ where did my little girl go?’ They’re ten years old, for God’s sake!

I need to lie down now.

lemongrove Wed 12-Aug-20 14:55:40

They got round that at my grammar school by making us all wear gym-slips! No rolling up possible and regulation one inch below the kneecap.We didn’t mind at school ( all girls) but walking through the town before and after school felt mortified.Add to that a beret that had to be on at all times outside.

lemongrove Wed 12-Aug-20 14:58:20

Daddima do you see primary age children dressed like that,
Or do the parents allow them to dress up for photos?
I don’t think you meant to suggest they attended school like that, did you?

Callistemon Wed 12-Aug-20 15:17:07

lemongrove

They got round that at my grammar school by making us all wear gym-slips! No rolling up possible and regulation one inch below the kneecap.We didn’t mind at school ( all girls) but walking through the town before and after school felt mortified.Add to that a beret that had to be on at all times outside.

Gymslips! They were awful. Add to that a hat, velour in winter, Panama in summer which crinkled if it got wet.

Callistemon Wed 12-Aug-20 15:20:17

No schoolbags allowed in schools for the foreseeable future because of the risk of infection

Well, there's a thought paddyanne.
They haven't said that here yet as far as I know, but I'll have to have a re-think as I promised to buy one.

sharon103 Wed 12-Aug-20 15:29:37

I too was a skirt waist band roller upper in secondary school. 1962-66
I bet the hem looked all skew-wop. grin

Daddima Wed 12-Aug-20 15:43:21

lemongrove

Daddima do you see primary age children dressed like that,
Or do the parents allow them to dress up for photos?
I don’t think you meant to suggest they attended school like that, did you?

They are primary school children dressed for school. Their mothers are mostly a lot younger than I am, and I’ve been a wee bit uncomfortable before about them sharing pictures of the wee girls dressed for their dancing displays, but they seem to think the heavy make up and skimpy costumes are essential.
It’s the pouting and ‘hands on hips’ poses I don’t like.

Callistemon Wed 12-Aug-20 15:45:09

Ooh, no!

But, if they are doing ballet and tap and are in shows, they do wear makeup for the stage.

AGAA4 Wed 12-Aug-20 15:48:16

I remember being told off by teachers for rolling up my skirt.
It had to be just below knee length but the fashion was for minis.

FlyingHandbag Wed 12-Aug-20 15:51:47

The short skirt isn't a new thing, when I was at school (longer than I care to admit has passed), we all wore skirts approx 5 inches above the knee, there was a girl in the year about me who got condemned for wearing a skirt half way between her calf and her ankle, and she had clunky shoes and hair cut into a style for a middle aged woman at 15 even though she dyed it burgundy. My relative who is also my best friend was 2 years above me in school, we didn't bully her but we thought she was a bit odd, and we still call long skirts "Hersecondname skirts", although not maliciously.

As for the fishnets, that is deplorable. If I had even contemplated buying them, my mother would have ate me! I have always thought of them as explicit. X

GoldenAge Thu 13-Aug-20 10:08:49

Are these people really your friends Daddima? If so I would send a gentle message ...

Juliet27 Thu 13-Aug-20 10:12:48

I had to suffer those embarrassing hats too Callistamon. My Panama got crumpled when I used to shove it in my bag when walking past a nice looking boy waiting at a bus stop each morning.

Juliet27 Thu 13-Aug-20 10:15:16

We had deportment badges for being particularly presentable ...I was embarrassed to be given one ?

Callistemon Thu 13-Aug-20 10:17:58

We had posture marks each term.

Jess20 Thu 13-Aug-20 10:19:29

Ummm... I remember the mini-skirt etc when I left school but I was 15 not leaving primary school! My friend, an ex-social worker, calls them 'prosti-tots' and we think it's very sad for these children who suffer from a lack of appropriate role models and probably very poor parenting from parents/carers who either don't know any better or don't realise what their kids are up to - that's being positive about the situation because it's also quite possible that some of these children are being groomed, which is beyond sad.

Aepgirl Thu 13-Aug-20 10:25:26

I haven’t seen these pictures, but what are these mothers thinking. Let them be children for as long as possible.

4allweknow Thu 13-Aug-20 10:35:14

I was just thinking the same. They are dressed as pop stars. Only yesterday a GM mentioned her GD starting High
School had to have a certain bag from a certain shop and a specific make of shoes. I thought back to the days when skirts had to be midway on knee, shoes were a regulation style ie laced and had to be polished not just in the front but also at the heel, no nail polish or earrings. White knee length length socks once in 3rd year, ankle socks up until then. And no, I did not attend a private but a secondary school. Kept all of us same with very little to brag about fashion wise. Must cost a fortune to kit out females for High School now.

Neilspurgeon0 Thu 13-Aug-20 10:37:05

Nor round here Oopsminty

I live right opposite both a junior and an infant school and they have VERY strict uniform rules, sweet little kids in red jumpers and shorts and then bigger lads in long black trousers and blue polo shirts and most of the girls either wear trousers too (very practical) or reasonably long smart skirts or shorts.

Of course in summer blue and pink gingham dresses are all the rage. Because of the propensity of most young girls to spend most of the summer term upside down doing handstands and cartwheels most wear what I can only describe as cycle shorts underneath for modesty.

11 is far too young for fashion which can lead to terrible bullying.

harrigran Thu 13-Aug-20 10:38:25

My goodness, I do not know anyone that posts photographs of their children dressed like that.
I have had the first day photos but have always been in full uniform and neat white socks.

Thecatshatontgemat Thu 13-Aug-20 10:40:46

I followed a young girl of early teens going into the supermarket, with denim cutoffs so brief, that her bum cheeks were hanging out. Her mother and another couple were with her. Unfortunately there are many little girls dressed like trollops, and the parents think this is OK.
All the pervs must think their birthdays and Christmases have all come together.
Not all are like it, but the ones that are make me very sad.....

jenpax Thu 13-Aug-20 10:47:22

All of my DGC are primary age (or under) I have never seen any pictures like those you describe on any face book pages, teenagers yes! 10 year olds no!

Craftycat Thu 13-Aug-20 11:25:40

I remember getting past school gates & hitching the skirt right up & un-doing the top 3 buttons on the shirt.
My mum used to take off her school socks & draw lines down her legs to look as if she was wearing stockings.
Twas ever thus- girls will be girls!

Chewbacca Thu 13-Aug-20 11:34:18

There's both a primary/junior school and a large high school/comprehensive school near me and I see dozens of their pupils walking to school past my house each day. I've never seen one dressed in anything except their strict school uniforms. And very smart they look too.

Juicylucy Thu 13-Aug-20 11:38:28

Never seen this when I pick my GDs up from primary school. Just uniforms and all the correct attire worn.

moggie57 Thu 13-Aug-20 11:52:11

they wont be able to go to school like that .. school uniform has strict rules . i reckon its made up .just for show.....head person wont allow tarts in the school or skinny jeans for the boys...

Rosina Thu 13-Aug-20 11:55:36

My DiL is absolutely firm about my GD being a child for as long as possible. Recently a classmate's Mum was organising a 'makeover' party for her daughter's tenth birthday. DiL didn't like the idea of makeup and manicures, and politely refused the invitation. I admired her for taking a stand,; my GD is modern, dresses in up to the minute clothes, but is very definitely ten, and looks it. Having worked in a primary school for years I was often startled to see the older girls out at the weekend looking almost unrecognisible, and unfortuntely years older than their chronological age, but also years older than their emotional development, and that is the worrying part.