Women's legs & showing too much flesh

Yep sort of an under the bridge thread.

I saw this thread last night just before I went to bed when there were just a couple of replies.

My first thought was, this is not going to end well!

Was it an unkind thread to start?Yes, I guess it was but I think we are kidding ourselves if we haughtily claim that we don’t notice how other people look.

As humans it’s inbuilt in us. We notice and make judgements on people as they do on us.

I suspect the OP was well aware that this was a controversial issue!

Mind you I wouldn’t necessarily start a thread on it....

Lemongrove I find myself agreeing with you again!!

honeyrose

I can definitely see both sides of this too. I wouldn’t wear that sort of thing, now that i’m in my later years, as I’ve always been a very self-conscious person and my body is showing signs of age. I wouldn’t feel comfortable in that sort of clothing. If someone wishes to dress like that lady, hardly wearing anything at all, that’s up to her, so long as she looks reasonably covered. I think that elegance probably has gone out of the window for a lot of people, but that’s modern times for you.

Good post honeyrose

I sometimes can’t believe what people go out wearing?but then I’m in the ‘make the best of what you have’ brigade and not the ‘let it all hang out and don’t care if you frighten the horses’ camp.
Come on GNers.....a little honesty please instead of all the holier than thou comments to the OP.

Well, each to their own. I think it's probably better, whether young or old, to leave something to the imagination which as we all know is a very powerful thing.
It's simply more elegant and dignified not to 'let it all hang out', as the saying goes.

I agree with Riverwalk and Furret.
I don’t care what people wear on the beach, but in a restaurant or cafe there are still standards of dress. In the States you often see signs on even humble diners to the effect that people not wearing shirts or shoes, or conversely, wearing baseball caps, won’t be served.
It’s nothing to do with ageism or sexIsm, it’s to do with someone else’s flesh encroaching inappropriately on someone else’s personal space.

Personally I have horrible veins on my legs. I gave up caring about this a long time ago. I wear shorts when the weather’s warm enough and I don’t worry about what people like grannyrebel & others might think.

You must have a very boring life if all you can do is be critical of a strangers taste of clothing.

I’m 67 my daughters still say I have got good legs and I wear whatever I want, especially on holiday , I’m in shorts all the time.

It’s a mean disposition that points out somebody else for discussion I hope you didn’t literally point. How rude of you !

I'm too self conscious of my wobbly bits. I still have good legs, but they are covered in bruises, due to my meds, so tend to cover up with trousers or leggings.

I would love to have the courage to wear what I like, without people being judgemental.

I know it’s the done thing now to say people should wear whatever they want, and I dare say that’s valid, but for myself, I much prefer to cover up more unsightly bits, even when it’s very hot, with loose, light cotton. IMO it’s cooler anyway, than having the sun beating down on your skin.

Presumably some people just don’t care what they look like. Good luck to them, but personally I wouldn’t be seen dead in the kind of clothes some really fat, flabby people wear (male and female) exhibiting a load of vast guts, wobbly cellulite and veins. Not to mention builder’s bum - at least women don’t insist on displaying hairy cracks to all and sundry - at least I’ve yet to see any. (The odd non-hairy one though).

I expect that makes me vain, but so be it.

I could have written that myself honeyrose ?

My personal opinion is that shorts and short skirts look great on teenagers with long slim legs, and I struggle to show my legs because I never liked them. But each to their own, if you feel comfortable in shorts wear them! Unfortunately women are other women's worst enemy.

I am guessing the woman who offended you was very happy in her own skin and would not have cared two hoots about your opinion.

What a spiteful post. The people I know, and have seen dressed like that do not care what people think of them, and if they heard you and your unpleasant husband say things like that you would have been given a right ear bashing.

Try minding your own business, this woman does not affect your lives. As for putting him off his breakfast, I bet he ate everything on his plate.

I would say if olden times involve people with the ops views then thank goodness for modern times.

I can definitely see both sides of this too. I wouldn’t wear that sort of thing, now that i’m in my later years, as I’ve always been a very self-conscious person and my body is showing signs of age. I wouldn’t feel comfortable in that sort of clothing. If someone wishes to dress like that lady, hardly wearing anything at all, that’s up to her, so long as she looks reasonably covered. I think that elegance probably has gone out of the window for a lot of people, but that’s modern times for you.

Or have breakfast at home? I love your pithy comments Maw they do make me giggle!
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I’m going to be another minority opinion and suggest that it’s not a pleasant sight - those few people who insist on showing too much unsightly flesh, and I include men who strut around topless with their beer bellies hanging over their belts.

Don’t think much of your husband or you if all you can do is criticise others for their appearance, we all think things but to put a post up on her is, really saying something about you
And just for your future thoughts not everyone has ugly knobbly legs mine are still fine probably the best bit of my body ?
Think it if you wish whisper to your husband if you wish but a public post is crass

grannyrebel7 What a judgmental misery you sound.

I wouldn't wear those type of clothes either, but that lady probably saved up to have her holiday, and she wanted to enjoy it.

I kind of see both sides of this one... Yes sometimes I do think to myself 'what on earth does she think she looks like!' But I usually also think 'each to their own' and of course I'm no super model myself so other people might be thinking the same about what I'm wearing.

I’m wondering if OP’s other half felt obligated to make a derogatory comment as a) hadn’t noticed or b) didn’t notice/care.

She obviously thought she looked fine, but she was literally wearing next to nothing.

This is the bit that I would inwardly frown upon - people can't help old veiny legs and big boobs.

Unless the café was on the beach I think people should be decently dressed, and that includes shirtless men.

Years ago, people just hid their bodies as they got older. Didn’t notice many older women swimming in the pool when I was young. Now, all ages, shapes, sizes do.
At our aquacise class, one lady comes on her mobility scooter. She has huge misshapen legs, thighs, very overweight, but I think good on her, she isn’t bothered what she looks like, and is doing something to try and keep as fit as she can.
Don’t think that would have happened years ago.