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Can you think of one thing that gets easier as you get older

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Helen59 Sun 04-Oct-20 16:49:18

My friend asked me this the other day and I couldn't give her a serious answer. I asked my husband and apart from his "wetting yourself" comment he couldn't give me an answer either.

Gave it some thought and came up with Acceptance. Accepting what is, what was, and what will never be.

But I'd love to hear if you have any others, whether they're serious or non serious.

Scribbles Sun 04-Oct-20 16:56:19

I find it much easier to say "No" to anything I don't like or don't want to do than I did when I was young. Life's too short to spend it placating other people.

Toadinthehole Sun 04-Oct-20 16:56:29

I haven’t been able to exercise as much as usual this year, mainly due to COVID, but also other stupid little things getting in the way. A few years ago, that would have really irritated me....but now I’m like you, more accepting, and just happy that I’m still breathing in and out, and most of my bits are still working, and where they should be on my body!?

Pantglas2 Sun 04-Oct-20 16:57:00

Saying no!

To things I can’t do, I shouldn’t do and simple don’t want to do. It’s taken years to get there but I’m finally able to do so with a regretful smile ?

Chewbacca Sun 04-Oct-20 17:02:39

Caring much less about what others think. In my yoof, I'd waste an inordinate amount of time worrying about what someone else would think of my decisions, choices, clothes, anything really. Now I care not one jot. And that's a kind of freedom.

AGAA4 Sun 04-Oct-20 17:04:24

I find it easier to stop worrying about the small stuff. I ask myself if this will still be troubling me next week/month. The answer is nearly always no.

Parsley3 Sun 04-Oct-20 17:11:06

In addition to what has already been posted, I find it easier to recognise and count my simple blessings.

Barmeyoldbat Sun 04-Oct-20 17:16:40

You have all said the things I find easier, saying no, not caring what people think and also I don't care any longer if I just sit and do nothing, whereas when I was younger I felt I had to be doing something

Puzzler61 Sun 04-Oct-20 17:19:54

Ditto all of the above for me ?

Poppyred Sun 04-Oct-20 17:22:01

All of the above! Especially not caring what anyone thinks of me anymore and doing exactly what I like without feeling guilty.

M0nica Sun 04-Oct-20 17:43:31

Much easier to keep well and healthy: no missed meals or lunches-a-la-desko, able to use sports facilities of every kind from gyms, to golf courses to footpaths when they are at their quietest. Plenty of time to go to farm shops and small local shops to buy local products.

All those discounted bus journeys and eating out at quiet times and getting a discount, discount schemes of all kinds.

I have always been my own person and gone my own way, so from that point of view life hasn't changed much.

threexnanny Sun 04-Oct-20 17:58:26

Much less stress now we are both retired. No living by the clock, or keeping to deadlines, or trying to get on with people who you wouldn't normally bother with - customers and colleagues.

Witzend Sun 04-Oct-20 17:59:42

Giving much less of a toss - or none - about what other people think.
As a pp said, being able to say no thanks to things you don’t want to do, but used to do because you felt you ought to want to. Or were made to feel you ought to want to, otherwise you were being boring or a wimp.

LadyBella Sun 04-Oct-20 18:03:20

Money - not having to bother saving for anything.

Bellanonna Sun 04-Oct-20 18:03:30

I was 80 this week and now feel I can say things I possibly wouldn’t have said before. I don’t mind what people think which is a liberating feeling. I certainly would never offend anyone but just feel a little more free in what I say.
The OP asks what gets easier. I just think the actual freedom from worrying makes things easier.

Septimia Sun 04-Oct-20 18:48:24

Standing up for myself and speaking my mind - not necessarily rudely or aggressively!

Helen59 Sun 04-Oct-20 18:50:34

Some interesting comments, all of which I agree with.

SunnySusie Sun 04-Oct-20 19:20:50

I find it easier to get on with other people. There is a kind of camaraderie of old age that I dont remember when I was younger. A sort of feeling we are all in it together.

Franbern Sun 04-Oct-20 19:32:51

Lovely not having life governed by the clock - no alarm clocks. Also, I have found that grey hair etc. seems to encourage people to offer assistance if they see me struggling with getting something in or out of the car etc.

biba70 Sun 04-Oct-20 19:35:21

Agreed about being more assertive- no more chameleon for me.

BBbevan Sun 04-Oct-20 19:40:15

I agree with Belladonna The absence of worry is very liberating. Que sera sera

midgey Sun 04-Oct-20 19:41:13

Waiting!

Whitewavemark2 Sun 04-Oct-20 19:43:11

Age brings liberation from all sorts of stuff and I enjoy it.

Just as long as health holds up it is a good time.

Curlywhirly Sun 04-Oct-20 19:57:39

Well for me: no period pains; no greasy hair and having to wash it ever other day; no spots (I had awful spots in my teenage years); no money worries (we had absolutely no money when we first got married); ability to be spontaneous which is just out of the question when you have small children; but best of all, just the ability to exactly anything you want!

Curlywhirly Sun 04-Oct-20 19:59:07

Sorry - to do exactly